Im 18, have fallen pregnant. I dont know what the right decision is, can anyone help?

[lucyw19]

I 18, i dont know what to do, HELP!!!

it wont kill your Mum. I did something I thought would kill my Mum, but it didn't. it was hard for a while, and she was disapointed. but now she is ok. and its my life not hers. these things are so hard at the time, and it seems like the world is about to stop because of your decision. but it doesn't . life goes on, and in a few years you will be able to look up this thread on the archives and think back. You will get through this, and your Mum will cope too.

It is not selfish to have the baby, your sister is wrong.

i may ask my gp to find out if i can talk to someone, i find ppl away from the situation help a lot.

but this is helping a lot, it gives me views form other parents and ppl that have had the same thouhts as me.

I dont think im the only one thats felt likt this, i just dont know how to deal with it very well.

If i was living on my own with my partner that would make things slightly easier.
its things like that that worry me

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My parnter is worried my parents could convince me to.

But as i dont know myself its hard what to say to him.

You poor girl I agree with k33 you need to keeep talkin you still have time no major rush. Have you even mentioned termination to bf how would he react ?

One thing is for sure, you are not alone in your feelings. you are not the first person to be in this situation and you will not be the last [weak supportive smile emoticon needed here]

I think that you do need totalk through your options, face to face , with someone who is neutral, that was you will make your mind up, and not someone else IYSWIM.

And whatever you decide to do, life will go on, it may be bumpy on the way, but everyone gets tough times and you will get through it.

[hugs]

i feel ive put my mum through a lot, but shes always been thier in the end, i think my sister resents it in a way.

But as much as me and her argue, i love her and would like her suppsrt, its nice to have ur partners family, but u need./want ur own dont you?

My family are completly different to my partners family, i love my partner but hes not like his .... i dont know why this is bothering me.

Probably because its not just u and ur baby u have to think of is it its everybody, well thats how it feels.

Wow that was confusing.. i dont know if anyone will undertsnad that.

will you be able to change your living arrangemnets lucy? is there any way you could live with your partner?

surely there must be a support group that can give advice on housing/benefits etc and give you some councelling so that you have all the facts while you decide what to do?

C'mon MNers...sombody find a link!

He said its my choice, and watever my decision he will stick by me.

But he rang me today to see if i was okay and we ended up arguing because i was upset as im so confused, everything i say like i said theirs a soloution, which is good but i need him to understand.

helpful?

it is hard without your own family - i know what you mean. do you think they will be really devestated and unsupportive, or do you think they will be shocked and then come 'round?

My partners partents have said i can stay their, but i dont want to particually. its not my home and i dont know im just silly like that!

We are going to send of for housing, but it could take up to a yr or more.

sandcastles, that looks like a good one

Astrophe :-

I dont really know how they will react my mum would always say to even joke if we mentioned pregnancy and my dad the same really.

I canbt imagine she'll disown me, but like ive said i havent exactly given her an easy ride, and im her first born, im like her baby watever age!

quite limitd...am searching from Oz and I don't get many UK sites!

perhaps she will surprise you and be really supportive. I hope that happens, whatever you do.

well sandcastles, as you know, I'm n Aussie too (but in the uk) and I don't even know what to search for, so you're doing well!

lucy, would it help if you didn't speak to your b/f for a few days? just so yu can get your thoughts straight without hm trying to throw answers at you all the time? Give you a couple of days of uninterupted thinking?

Astrophe, lol of course you are! shouldn't we be in bed?

yeh if u are expectiing you get more 'points'
but if they cant get me into a flat/house ill be put in to shlter housing which is for homeless ppl, which no offence i really dont wnat to do.

Im from what u might call a 'well brought up' family, tbh i dont think it makes a huge difference but moneys always been a massive issue, marriage and then kids uno.. thats just the order it goes.

ive siad to him, lets just not tlk about it for a few days but its going to come up. Hes round mine a lot u see, he take sme to work.. etc

thankyou for that link btw x

lucy, check out my link. can you tell me what are you are in? not town necassaily, just county? understnad if ou don't wnat to

Another one here

Do u mean u wnat to know where i live???

No course i dont mind, i live in east anglia in england.

ive only been here 7 yrs i dont like it =/