Im 18, have fallen pregnant. I dont know what the right decision is, can anyone help?

[lucyw19]

I 18, i dont know what to do, HELP!!!

Im so pleased for you, I knew once you had made a final decision you would feel better!
I really hope everything goes well for you and your boyfriend, maybe let us know when LO arrives ok?

Best of luck and lots of love!!xx

can the council really help with housing.. or will they put me in a bedsit/hostel cos im really worried about that x

congratulations lucy, i was 19 when i had ds1 and although everything has worked out very well it was scary at the time!

have you got any housing associations in your area (sorry if im repeating, havent read the whole thread). your council housing office should have a list and i had a ha house which was lovely, was much easier to get somewhere through them than the council

lucy, you will get a hostel/bedsit initally and then will be offered a place when they have one available. My sister. her dh & 2 children were in a hostel for 6 months (they were evicted unfairly by there landlord)and was then offered a brand new house on a new estate. It was a nice place, shared bath/kitchen and a decent sized room. I think if this is the route you wnat to followm (as apposed to living with parents) you will have to make the small sacrifice for the greater outcome.

I am glad you have made your choice, good luck!

their landlord

It was a nice place, shared bath/kitchen and a decent sized room the hostel was....not the house. That was a 3 bed!

i would prefere to stay at home and wait for a house/ flat rather than go in a hostel, thats fair enough surley.

I mena ive got 7 months, surley thye will be able to find something in that time..

congrats lucyw19

what council are you with
on the down side i was in temp accomadation for 5 years with my councilm lots of diferent places and ended up in private as the places i was put to live were unsafe and dangerous.
i would suggest going to your council and having a chat as i think its probally different in differnt areas i know in london and surrey they are v unhelpful .....

hi
i was 19 when i fell pregnant so if you wanna chat let me no!!

Me too i was 19, but had been living on my own for 5 years anyway
if you wanna chat , about housing or anything let me no too
emma

congrats lucy, glad to finally came to a decision that you are happy with, i wish you all the very best
xx

btw, think i posted this ealier in the thread but i was a month from my 19th birthday when i had my dd.

quick thumbs up to the 19 year old mums still cant decide if i count as a teen mum DD was born day before my 20th birthday

I was 19 too 20 now

Congratulations Lucy.

My mother was 18 years, 361 days old when she had me. My gorgeous, cool, energetic mum is now a fab 52 year old grandmother, and has, if I say so myself, done a wonderful job. You'll be brilliant.

Has Custy been on here? She was 16 when she fell pregnant and now has 3 very polite and well brought up kids, she has a degree and is just amazing! I'm actually very envious of her because I had my kids relatively late, my youngest is 2.8 and her youngest is 14 yet we are the same age, so whereas she is now free to go out and have a good time, I'm still changing nappies!

I wish I'd been a young mum sometimes!

id like advice on housing please =] x

and also, what were your births like??

Hi again Lucy Im a council tenant in a private rent (some scheame they do) but if its council housing you need you need to go and present yourself to them NOW.
Isabelles birth was amazing she was delievered in 6 hours with no pain relief and 7 stitches. I dont no what else to say really unless i give you a complete briefing on my labour (which i will if you like!) nature takes over and it happens. and yes it hurt like F**k but if you just tell yourself not to panic it will over soon its ok you can get thro it. I was hooked up to all the monitoring machines thro my labour but everything was fine in the end an dIsabelle was delievered onto my tummy where she promptly did a wee!!

awww bless her lol!!

i think i may have gas and air, but im not sure om epidural!!

Me and my partner just went to look at a property, and liked it a lot, i hope that we can be considedred they are going to get bk to us today about credit checks etc.

But with council, we'd wait a long time. and id prefered to be settled.
Do you know if i can get help with bills, council tax? as im not working??

wb x

It depends entirely on how much your partner is earning if the govenment decide he is earning enough for you both (soon 3) to live on they wont give you anything otyher than child benefit and perhaps working/child tax credits i cant really say much more than that coz ive always been a single parent !! Your midwive should give you some info and an NHS book think about pregnancy and that has numbers and info in the back about what your entitled to (well mine did anyway!!!)

Spent my last pennies on credit check for flat..

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Hi Lucy, so pleased for you that you've decided to keep the baby.
I understand you wanting to be settled in your own place before the baby arrives.
If you move in and pay deposit and start paying rent, then apply for housing benefit and council tax and income support.

Our local council take years to house people.

I was on their list for over 8 years as a single person.
I got pregnant and was allocated a housing officer who'd help find me somewhere to live.

I was still at home with my parents and didn't like the thought of going into a hostel.
It wasn't what my parents wanted for me either.

In the end Dad wrote a letter evicting me, saying i had to be out by the time the baby was 3 months old.

He only wrote the eviction letter to help.

He also spoke to the housing officer when she came round, and told her that he'd let me stay a bit longer if it meant i avoided the hostels.

When my son was 4 months old, i got a 2 bed place.

Yeh thats what i hope to do, but i wondered if cos my partner is mving in with me, will we get any help??

just waiting for the credit checks to go through and we find out wednesday, so fingers crossed!!

i really need a job, theirs nothing around =[

Its just one thing after another!!

wb xxx

If you're partner is working, then his wages will be taken into account.
Have you signed up for income support yet??

What sort of work can you do???

As its nearly christmas, loads of shops usually want extra staff.

Might be worth asking, but remember not too much heavy lifting in your condition!!!!!

i havent asked abut income support yet, whats that??

We havent got the flat secured yet, find out wednesday.

Ill go into town wednesdya and ask the shops =]

im seeing the midwife on the 19th october, ill be 10 and a bit weeks, what do they usually do in the first visit??

wb x