16 year old daughter experimenting with sex

[trace2274]

Im a single mum and my 16 yr old daughter and I have always been good friends until recently. She has met a 18 yr old boy from the same school, and doesnt seem to want to confide in me anymore. I used to trust my daughter completey, but have recently lost faith in her as I discovered recent internet searchs in anal sex and sexual parasites. She is in the middle of her GCSE's at the minute and dont want to cause her stress, but I feel that I cant allow her to behave in this manner, but I am at a loss as in how to speak to her and raise the subject. Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

[MrsMaturin]

I have a 16 yr old so am fully qualified to comment if I wished too but I doubt there's more to add here.

[twofingerstoGideon]

I agree Coconutty. I posted before RTFT and regret it now!

[TheTerribleBaroness]

Oh well. BTW the OP thanked me for my advice. I have a four year old boy.

[AmberLeaf]

What a load of shit.

I think the OP was hoping for some stories about our anal experiences aged 16.

[CrayolaCocaColaRocknRolla]

She doesnt wanna know about my 16 y/0 anal experiences.
Like I said, I would be sent to church and be told I needed Jesus.

[TequilaMockingbirdy]

The only anal experiences I had at that age was jumping of the bed like an electrocuted cat because of 'wrong hole proddage'

[ChocolateWombat]

I'm interested in the responses to this thread.
A 16 year old is legally allowed to have sex. However, at the same time, most 16 year olds live at home, are at school and are subject to various rules their parents impose. Some of these might be quite strict and others not. However, Inwould imagine that many parents might still impose a curfew when girls are out at night/want to kNow where they are/limit how often they go out mid week etc. Somemparents might also voice concerns over certain friendships or boyfriends. Some may intervene and make it hard for child to see certain people outside of school or even forbid it. Clearly there are degrees of involvement.

So I find it interesting that, with it being true that teenagers are still subject to some level of control, some posters take the view that because sex is legal, parents should totally back off from having any interest or comment on it. The moment a child turns 16 does not mean that yesterday they could not emotionally cope with all the issues surrounding sex, but today they can and should make all their own choices.

Personally, I think parents have a role in influencing and guiding their children in this kind of area beyond 16. There are physical, practical issues, emotional issues and morality issues too. Teenagers will make their own choices and if they are determined to have sex, they will do so, probably in a less safe way, if they are told it is not allowed. However, guiding them and influencing them to think carefully and make wise decisions based on the values you have helped them form whilst growing up, seems reasonable and to be encouraged. At the end of the day, they will choose what to do and this is right, but especially if we feel there is something going on which could be problematic, I think we should be tackling it in a sensitive way.