16 year old daughter experimenting with sex

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Im a single mum and my 16 yr old daughter and I have always been good friends until recently. She has met a 18 yr old boy from the same school, and doesnt seem to want to confide in me anymore. I used to trust my daughter completey, but have recently lost faith in her as I discovered recent internet searchs in anal sex and sexual parasites. She is in the middle of her GCSE's at the minute and dont want to cause her stress, but I feel that I cant allow her to behave in this manner, but I am at a loss as in how to speak to her and raise the subject. Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

And if you do accidentally enjoy "it" be warned the powers that be will smite you from this Earth

Ahh I seee.. cheers for the heads up people

Seriously though OP teens are hard work and sometimes it's hard to let them go and grow up but they have to do it.

At least you've spoken.. just try and keep the lines open so she doesn't feel she has to lie to spare you. They hide an awful lot of stuff and scary thing if you remember exactly what you were like at that age. I was wild at 16, I'd left home and everything.

I would just like to say that the original poster is my mum.We have talked, like we always do, and came to the conclusion that all this is a misunderstanding. My mum showed me this thread, and I have to say, im glad she did,im deeply hurt and annoyed by some of the comments against my mum. She has always done the best for me, been there for me, when nobody else was. If there were more parents around like her, the world would be happier

You are not qualified to have an opinion here though are you? Not being a parent of a sixteen year old and all.

Im more than that, im the subject, and my opinion more than most should count. You dont know us, none of you! You dont know what we've been through! You are all just horrible people. Sorry, not all, but a majority, and you should be ashamed.

What you post on a very public forum asking for opinions you can't then spit your dummy and call everybody a pack of bastards when you don't like what you hear.

Geez I feel overwhelmingly compelled to comment about the wisdom of letting a 16 yo on this website. There is a lot more graphic things here than anal sex .

It's mumsnet, like it or leave it!

Likewise nat you have no idea what a lot of people on this website have been through either.... Of course your opinion counts, but I certainly question it being here.... By parents for parents and all of that....

Im horrible for sticking up for you, you could as well be one of my friends, how am I to know?
I said to your mother that no matter what she does she can't stop you doing anything, could my mum? no! Could she give me advice? yes! My advice is that whatever you want to do with your sexuality is normal, as I did the same thing at your age (im just a bit older but i was 16 once) and it's normal and healthy to find your sexuality. being shot down by your mum for telling her somethings normal was unbelievable, she asked for help and we gave her it. We weren't actually saying anything bad about you or her.
thanks atbeckandcall xx

im not a parent, but I think it's useful giving people an insight from every point of view, age and status shouldn't come into it. I thought away from IABU mumsnet would be nicer

Take it up with mnhq. Which I most certainly have. Fwiw. Check out the mn rules. If im allowed to have anal sex by most of your standards, then im definitely allowed to read this thread and have an opinion.

I don't believe for one minute that you are the OPs daughter.. nobody posts about their 16 yr olds sex life on a public board and then goes running to tell them when they don't like what they hear.. any 16 yr old would be mortified if their mothers did that. Plus you certainly don't write like a young teenager at all but quite exactly like your 'mothers' posts.

Op maybe you should step away from mumsnet for a bit if you're going to go on like that, it's not pretty. Go and calm down.

AtBeckAndCall, what makes you think my mum shot me down? from what I read she did anything but, she asked for help and advice, not your opinion. And please dont give me any xx's I sorely reject them.

Bollocks you're not the OP's daughter and you're not 16

And you've been on this website for longer than just a day

Its such a pity when such good advice and help is put to waste.

That was to AtBeckAndCall. Not you. Stop using big words that even I don't use, i don't believe for one second you're 16 or OP's daughter. I'd never speak to my mum if she did this! (well, now i wouldn't be arsed) but yeah...
also AtBeckAndCall was talking to me, not you.

'This convo is over' Arf

Looks like getting really upset because people don't absolutely agree with you or your mum is genetic.

Oh just go back to the playground and grow up a bit.

This "convo" isn't over until either the thread just runs it's natural course, reaches 1000 posts or mnhq pull it. Just saying.

If you actually read the full thread without an emotional head on I congratulated "your" mother on having a chat with you about something she was CLEARLY misunderstood on.

I have however taken huge objection to "your" mother's opinion of some people on here based on what she deems acceptable sexually and their age or the age of their offspring. When you post on this site you do so in the knowledge that everyone logged in can read it and comment. You have no right to veto anyone (unless they are acting against the guidelines in which mnhq will get involved).

All I said originally was that your body is yours and yours alone and she cannot/should not try to tell you what to do with it now you are 16. I also agree that whilst looking up anal sex on a family computer isn't appropriate it didn't mean you were engaging in it, just curious or you were educating yourself in case it was something that you hadn't heard of.

OP was exceptionally rude to Crayola when she had been polite and relived her own experiences.

It pissed me off and I said so.

Now consider yourself told off.

I do love the incisive commentary that is calling everyone who disagrees with you 'bored housewives'.

I'm not even married.
or at home.