16 year old daughter experimenting with sex

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Im a single mum and my 16 yr old daughter and I have always been good friends until recently. She has met a 18 yr old boy from the same school, and doesnt seem to want to confide in me anymore. I used to trust my daughter completey, but have recently lost faith in her as I discovered recent internet searchs in anal sex and sexual parasites. She is in the middle of her GCSE's at the minute and dont want to cause her stress, but I feel that I cant allow her to behave in this manner, but I am at a loss as in how to speak to her and raise the subject. Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

thank you AtBeckAndCall. This girl clearly wasn't taking any notice of me, lets home she does with you.

I'm thinking probably not

But you are most welcome, it's a "thing" I have. Detest seeing people being rude to others so unjustifiably.

I think it's a thing normal people have! OP was out of order and so was her 'daughter'

I ought not to find that funny and ther original post was, I believe, a genuine concern. But that did make me chuckle Maryz

Hi all
Please hold off on troll hinting and hunting posts. We've had a look at the OP's and NatStaBats' accounts and they seem to be posting from separate IP addresses and we have no reason to believe they are not who they say they are.

As you know, we don't delight threads lightly, but if this turns into a troll hunting fest we may have to do so. Please bear in mind the 'by parents for parents' supportive ethos of MN, whilst sharing the diversity of your opinions.

Ellen
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Skimmed through this thread so apologies if someone else has made the same suggestion - I'm going for procrastinating revising while on study leave.....

But Ellen, the mumsnet tag line is always brought up by professionally persecuted posters on MN. 'Reminding' us of it just makes them think it's ok to call anyone who disagrees with them (however politely) a nasty bully.

Actually, I don't question it's the op's daughter, however, op asked for advice, advice was duly given. Then op doesn't like advice (I'd say the majority thought the attitude towards anal sex was a little, ummm, old-fashioned?), and her and daughter come and slag off everyone whose advice they did not like.

Op's daughter, anal sex isn't wrong, just so you know... You'd never know who did or didn't do it. It's not illegal...

I'm not a parent though. A lot of people aren't. It's just nice to have someones opinion sometimes without being shot down!

Seperate IPs mean NatStaBat is not in the same house or using the same ISP.So she's not who she says she is.
I have a qualification in ICT, so it's quite clear that "posting from separate IPs means that she's not even in the same place to be "shown" this thread!

The OP asked what should she do. Advice given but those that agree and disagree. OP then became very rude to those she thought were a "type". She actually implied that only unintelligent people were interested in that sort of thing, even when congratulated for her approach to dealing with it she shot people down!

Can't fucking win

Arf at cocacola's detective work. I thought the same thing when I read Ellen's post.

CrayolaCocaColaRocknRolla Gold star to Crayola for incisive logic, there! Now that is good thinking.

Gives as substitute.

Awaits deletion message.

Sometimes the face is the only thing I can post without getting deleted..

Crayola you don't need a qualification in IT to understand ISP,'s . Maybe her dd was posting from her phone using 3G or a friends house. I do feel for the op she wanted advice from mums with similar aged daughters who could relate I think that is fair enough.

I realise that now, sorry. wasn't thinking straight!

If the OP anted advice from mums with similar aged daughters who could relate entirely to her position, she should have specified that in her thread title. Then everyone could have ignored the thread as it would be completely obvious that she didn't actually want advice or opinions.

Instead she said 'any advice would be greatly appreciated', but certainly didn't seem to appreciate the advice she got (and then got really arsey).

Separate IPs can simply mean separate phones using separate providers. I could sit here, turn wifi off on my phone and have a conversation with myself, with my other self on the laptop. My two selves would have different IP addresses.

My DD is similar age. I found 'fisting' in our internet search. I didn't immediately jump to conclusions that she was doing it, just that she was curious. In fact she came and spoke to me a few days later about 'something she'd seen on the internet' and that she'd heard about at school. She was aghast!

I note the OP is going to take her DD and 'boyfriend' out and give them a chat about boundaries. Fab way to completely embarrass them and possibly ensure her DD never ever tells OP anything ever again. Personally, I'd restrict any such chat to my DD and focus it on issues like consent, contraception, etc.

I don't talk to anyone but DP about sex. (apart from strangers on the internet ) as my DM would tell everyone she knew, or completely embarrass me, if I told her some of the stuff me and DP do (may I say we are only 19+20) she'd probably send us to church. :P