Plse HELP..now found innappropriate txts on 14yr olds phone from 18yr old

[febel]

Hi, sorry to be asking again...am having a bad week this week and now found all my fears about 14 year old boyfriend are prob as nothing ...found VERY inappropriate texts from 18/19 yr old on 14 yr old daughters phone. He helps at her local watersports club and has just gone back to uni..and is doing a course in helping teach kids sports etc No doubt she is not been without blame..leading him on ..BUT the texts he hs sent are to do with her losing her virginity to him, with him licking...well..you get the general picture. She was asking me why her phone wouldn't send mms ..and thank god it wouldn't cos found out from her texts that she was goin to send him some of her as long as he didn't put em on f/bk etc (!!!doesn't she listen at school or to ME ever?!) What should I do..she is hysterical upstairs, made herself sick over it..saying she has ruined his career if I tell anyone etc.

I do know him from the club vaguely, and his dad..if I phone him (the lad) and have a word it doesn't solve the fact he may be back in the hols to help at the club...and I feel he can't come back and help..but his dad is so big in the club he will. I don't want to get him into loads of trouble but feel he shouldn't have done it..he has a duty of care to the youngsters he is dealing with even if they do lead him on at times.

Plse help

I am new to mumsnet and reading this has brought back the painful memories of my situation. A few years ago I found out that my daughter was in a similar situation. She had just turned 14, he was a friends son who was 19, he was a swimming pool attendant and his parents where foster carers. He too was in uni studying sport science. His mother was also a child protection officer of a group that we were involved in. So if any 19 yr old should have known better he should have. He knew what he was doing was wrong he said in his messages "you do delete these of your computer dont you." We where reporting him to the police, his parents read the messages that he had sent to my daughter and they took him to the police before we reported him. Since then myself and my family have heard of other teenagers that he had similar dealings with. He had 2 sign on the sex offenders register for two yrs.