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So this whole minge topiary business...

180 replies

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 07/04/2009 13:56

Does everyone do it these days?
Being an unreconstructed 80s feminist, I am a bit bemused by the fact that it seems to be taken for granted that everyone routinely waxes their fanjo.
Removing, between May and October, any hair that was visible between knicker elastic and knees, counted as perfectly acceptable pubic grooming until the mid-Nineties at least.
But now, apparently you need to look like a prepubescent child to be appropriately groomed.
Is this another of the long line of 21st-century battles feminism has lost?
Or am I the one that's losing it?

OP posts:
SpinyNorman · 07/04/2009 14:02

I'm 24 and have the whole lot taken off, and so do all of my friends ( we are very open ) I gave myself a 'brazilian' when i was a teenager, just to see what it looked like and then for some reason decided to shave the rest off a few months later.

I prefer it like that, had a forest growing down there when i was pregnant last year and hated it.

pollywobbledoodle · 07/04/2009 14:04

get dh to trim it when it is long enough to plait but total removal....no way jose....

BonsoirAnna · 07/04/2009 14:10

What is "unfeminist" about waxing your pubic hair?

It's cleaner and sex is so much better....

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:12

LadyG I am also unreconstructed like you - I don't get the full wax thing (and I tried it once many moons ago - too much maintenance and I felt cold)

But my hand was forced during my last pregnancy. It all got so long and wiry (and started to go grey ) so I bought a trimmer thing and now I trim it down till it's really short all over and then I veet the sides.

It feels much better but I have to admit the regrowth is a pita.

dh prefers me as nature intended - he has never gone for the prepubescent look.

I am not sure about the feminist thang tbh - I think pressure to do one or t'other is anti-woman whatever side the pressure is coming from.

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 14:13

I epilate the whole lot off, and I'm single so certainly not for anyone other than myself. I just prefer it, it feels fresher and cleaner to me.

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:14

No Anna, it is not cleaner to be pube-free, not if you wash regularly.

And the sex being better - obviously that is totally subjective.

BonsoirAnna · 07/04/2009 14:16

Have you even tried?

rempy · 07/04/2009 14:16

It's the pornographisation of normal women, thats whats unfeminist about it.

Its no cleaner, and sex can actually be worse - having some hair about improves lubrication, and sex with stubble is not a turn on.

I do confess to a trim, but all off? I am not a child. I find it rather unnerving that so many men want to have sex where there is no hint of sexual maturity.

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 14:18

Some weird link seems to be in my post.
I did not put it there, I don't know what it is, Do not click on it.

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:19

Yes I have tried Anna

All I can say is - bof

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 14:19

I think it's rubbish that people think it's something to do with being child like. I have the mind, body and Fanjo of a 31yr old woman, it just happens to have no hair on it!

ScorpiowithabigS · 07/04/2009 14:19

IMO Sex with no hair there is even more fabulous

Plus i feel more groomed and tidy, helps me feel good.

juneybean · 07/04/2009 14:19

I don't have a man, but I have to agree with Anna that I feel cleaner when I "groom".

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:21

Rempy I so agree with your post.

(although I don't have a problem with people removing it all if they want - but I just hope they are clear about their own motives, and don't do it to match up to the porn ideal - that would be v depressing)

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:22

Eek I don't know where those links are coming from!!

I didn't put them there. don't click on them.

ScorpiowithabigS · 07/04/2009 14:22

can't see any links? Someone else is saying the same elsewhere though

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:24

It's weird scorpio, I couldn't see muggle's but I could see them on my own posts. but now they have disappeared.

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 14:26

Oh, doggiesayswoof, do you have them too?
I thought I'd downloaded a mad birus accidently or something and was worried I'd beoken MN!

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 14:27

I've clearly broken my ability to type though

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:27

Yes, it said "download a picture for your ad" or something like that. I should be working anyway, maybe it's a Sign

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 14:27

Gahh

fattiemumma · 07/04/2009 14:28

i have everything removed. but thats because im lazy and its easier than trying to delicatly shape it.

plus i find i feel cleaner that way.

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 14:29

There's a thread about it in Site Stuff.

Seems to be happening to lots of people.

(sorry OP, total hijack of your thread)

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 14:29

They are still there on every one of my posts on this thread.
I haven't clicked incase it's something bad.

It says " Click here to upload a pic for your ad"

SpinyNorman · 07/04/2009 14:30

oooh i've got those linky things too.

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