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So this whole minge topiary business...

180 replies

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 07/04/2009 13:56

Does everyone do it these days?
Being an unreconstructed 80s feminist, I am a bit bemused by the fact that it seems to be taken for granted that everyone routinely waxes their fanjo.
Removing, between May and October, any hair that was visible between knicker elastic and knees, counted as perfectly acceptable pubic grooming until the mid-Nineties at least.
But now, apparently you need to look like a prepubescent child to be appropriately groomed.
Is this another of the long line of 21st-century battles feminism has lost?
Or am I the one that's losing it?

OP posts:
mrsmaidamess · 07/04/2009 19:32

Also, have you full waxers always waxed it all off, ever since you could afford to? Or is it a modern phenonenom?

traceybath · 07/04/2009 19:38

oh definitely a modern phenomenon.

Beautician talked me into it - said it was only her older ladies who had a tidy up nowadays.

tatt · 07/04/2009 19:40

after watching the sex education programme where the young girls felt pressurised to take it off I suggested to my children that if the man wants hair removed he should wax his bits first. That should stop any pressure.

Personally I would distrust any man who wanted it bald. Young girls and porn stars are bald, mature women have hair. But I'm too much of a wimp for waxing, stubble or ingrowing hairs.

PullMyFinger · 07/04/2009 19:40

Does anyone else feel sorry for the fleets of beauticians who have to defelt minges all day every day?

Yeuch

paolosgirl · 07/04/2009 19:40

I still don't get the whole regrowth thing - surely with waxing you have to wait til the hair is a certain length before you can rewax, which means that you're not always free of hair? If you shave, then you must have to shave every day to avoid a bristly fanjo, no?

And I cannot even begin to imagine how itchy that regrowth is - the couple of times I've succumbed to a bit of a wax was bloody painful, didn't make sex better, cost a pretty penny and had me scratching down my pants - definitely NOT a sexy look!

mrsmaidamess · 07/04/2009 19:42

So all the full waxers have been duped, or talked into it by their beauticians? My Iranian friend gets the whole lot off and found it quite vile that I didn't, but I suppose that is a cultural thing?

PullMyFinger · 07/04/2009 19:43

yy pg - tweed knickers, larvely

tatt · 07/04/2009 19:43

Paolosgirl after your post I have just realised that sex with a bald famjo might be better because you can only have it infrequently. [grin}

paolosgirl · 07/04/2009 19:47

Well, I'm mystified, because an itchy regrowth and bristles the rest of the time would surely have you reaching for a good book and a bottle of calamine, no?

muggglewump · 07/04/2009 19:48

paolosgirl, perhaps, I've never really thought about it. I just run the epilator over and it's done.
Riven No, I epilate. No chemicals and exactly the same results as waxing.

hotcrosspurepurple · 07/04/2009 19:49

just the words "itchy regrowth" makes me want to scratch

paolosgirl · 07/04/2009 19:52

Epilator??? Crikey, that brings tears to my eyes - ouch ouch OUCH!

pollywobbledoodle · 07/04/2009 19:53

a trim improves my sex life no end,..dh does it....we call it foreplay

can't imagine me screaming the place down while he waxes me or stinking of veet would have the same effect..

KayHarker · 07/04/2009 19:57

ooo, epilating? That's like a gang of tweezers, isn't it?

YanknbeforetheCockcrows · 07/04/2009 20:03

The regrowth from waxing tends to be soft, a lot softer than shaving (and there's less of it). Wouldn't say it's really like shaving stubble. If you exfoliate, you shouldn't get ingrown hairs.

I have an epilator gathering dust in a drawer (was looking for a cheaper alternative to waxing). I am so envious of anyone that can use one--even on my legs I was a sobbing wreck and gave up!

Spidermama · 07/04/2009 20:09

So now you have to exfoliate there too. OMG! Talk about cascading intervention.

Must you supress and control? Can't you people dance with mother nature any more?

Ninjacat · 07/04/2009 20:14

Spidermama I like your thinking

paolosgirl · 07/04/2009 20:27

The regrowth from waxing tends to be softer? Not on the occasions that I've had my legs and bits done - and then you've got little hairs coming back in after around 2 weeks that then have to grow to a certain length which takes ANOTHER 2-3 weeks before you can wax again...

Even just typing this is an effort - how on earth can anyone be bothered with so much hair removal, exfoliating and so on??? Life is just way too short.

madlentileater · 07/04/2009 20:35

eye watering stuff

stuffitllama · 07/04/2009 20:35

No, I don't, maybe it's an old / young thing.. am with spidermama and paolo. The only rule is nothing on show ever, and dh gets what he gets. He's never seen porn and would die of shock if I had a Brazilian.

stuffitllama · 07/04/2009 20:36

for which I thank the good lord for my lucky escape

dustbuster · 07/04/2009 20:44
HaventSleptForAYear · 07/04/2009 20:50

paolosgirl I am as baffled as you about the regrowth.

I have the sides waxed ("bikini" in case of a weekend trip to the pool) but I certainly get regrowth on that after about a week, but a few stragglers don't worry me, they blend in with the rest

Am trying not to imagine a bald fanjo with straggling hairs dotted over it plus occasional red spot from ingrowing

Spidermama · 07/04/2009 20:53

Thanks Dust and Ninja.

Linwin · 07/04/2009 21:26

Last time I was in getting mine done, the beautician was telling me about a lady who goes into have her full Hollywood done every 2 weeks!

There are people who are very fanatical about keeping hair free.