Mother of the Groom: get me to the finish line!

[ihaveafavouritecat]

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For you lovely, crazy folk who have followed along, incredibly we need another thread.

Yes, do that when you get back OP.

You are going to look lovely, of that I am certain.

The black shoes may not be the thing we'd have reached for to style it with for a Vogue shoot, but they are not going to stand out or ruin it, and it isn't as though we haven't all had a decent trawl around for the perfect thing.

What you don't want to do is spend more money on shoes that then detract from the outfit, and I do worry a little that very bright gold might, depending, make the wrong statement - because they ARE a statement, and it either goes off brilliantly or doesn't! When I was thinking of metallics, I was really thinking a darker, bronze type effect that goes under the radar a little more. But that was before we had the very lovely jewellery, which I agree you should wear.

The dress, jumpsuit, jewellery and jacket, if that stays, are sensible, sound choices you can reuse again and again, in combination with each other, and in other combinations. They have cost you, but are money soundly spent. I don't feel so confident that is the case for any of the shoes.

Thanks everyone. I think I’ve given more thought to clothes and fashion in the last three or four weeks, than I have in the preceding thirty years, (since having children and gaining weight). That’s probably been pretty evident to you S+B gurus. The shoe and bag search has nearly broken me though! 🤦🏼‍♀️

so:
Final review at home in coming days of a few shoes under consideration:
Gabor - recommended by one but universally disliked by most it seems, as wrong colour, wrong heel, outdated, etc. You’re probably right. I wasn’t unaware of the potential colour difference, but thought I’d check them out. My feet are quite a way from my ears after all, and I had heard the phrase ‘too much matchy matchy’ not being desirable etc As I said, the most recent combination didn’t really feel matchy enough for my comfort.
Jones - again recommended by one of you, and I’m doubtful, but thought I’d give a try.
River Island -recommended by one and I quite liked, so thought I’ll try, but they’re cheap and plastic so that doesn’t fill me with hope.
M+S - khaki ones recommended by one of you, to try with jumpsuit, but I’m not optimistic, as they have a kitten heel and I think I need more height for jumpsuit.

Failing all of these, then I’m almost past caring, and may just rebel and buy gold boots for jumpsuit, and Victoriana lace up boots, for the dress… and you’ll all be horrified and exasperated by my reckless insanity and poor taste.

Who knows how this will end?! 😵‍💫

Boots…

Just get a pair of heeled ankle boots from a brand you like and trust then. I think suede would probably be better than leather with the jumpsuit, but otherwise I don’t think it matters that much. Then just get a toning but not entirely matching bag.

Oh… @Nylonflaresthose Kurt Geiger ones look nice! Where did you see these at that price please?

On a site called Secret sales. I haven’t used them, but googled to see they weren’t a scam

I’ve just looked and they are also on Shoeaholics. Which I have used! A lot 😳

Despite my general "anti-boots" sentiment, I could actually see the Kurt Geiger boots working if there wasn't an awkward gap between boot and hem of dress. I like the heel, the toe, and the dull but patterned gold.

No, I didn't expect you to - it's more that shoes like this, which cost quite a bit new & are only worn once, can languish on Vinted for quite a while if the seller wants as high a re-sale price as possible.

So it's always worth offering a price around what you would consider paying for them. The seller might need the money right now, they may be fed up & want to make room in their wardrobe etc - it's always worth a try?

I meant that you probably would be thinking about them if you felt they weren't the right choice & you were "making do"!!

Max Factor Aqualash, btw ...

I've been away at a 60th birthday party in Cumbria at the weekend - I'll have to spend the morning playing catch-up to see what's happened (in terms of multiplicity of suggestions/changes of mind/forcefulness of opinions!!!).

Btw @ihaveafavouritecat - a woman at the party was wearing a jumpsuit with gold ankle boots & she looked rather fab ... Mind you, this was a ceilidh in a village hall, not a wedding!! (Didn't stop me from choosing to overdress anyway, just because I wanted to 😁!!)

No, humour doesn't translate on here well, does it? Especially of the drier & more sardonic variety ... in real life, my right eyebrow springing up is always a give-away, plus tone & delivery.

However, I'm always worried about sounding deadly serious & self-important on here - hence the overuse of ellipses & exclamation marks to the extent where I probably sound like a very excitable puppy 😬

I have the flat version in black & gold - in fact I wore them on Saturday night. They're very comfortable. But I think the OP dislikes the T-bar, which is a pity as I think they'd work well with both dress & jumpsuit, & are clearly leather not synthetic.

I'm relieved someone else thought that - I agree. I find them terribly sensible-looking - which is ok if they're purely for dancing in & you don't mind spending that much on them (though I'd just bring suitable flats instead!).

But I'm afraid that my first thought was "Oh no - from Dries Van Noten to Gabor?!!!" - which makes me sound like a fashion snob & I really don't think I am! But to me the DVN shoes - or a couple of other pairs I've spotted/suggested - are everything that the Gabor ones are not ... to me they look more dated than retro (although I'm aware it can be a fine line).

Some of them (the ones that really do look like a little misshapen curved claw) aren't nice. But a lot of what's being called a kitten heel isn't quite - there are lots of variants out there that are much more elegant-looking, stable to wear & comfy as well.

Yes, I don't like a few inches of a gap between ankle boots & dress hem - ankle boots wouldn't work with the dress, though they would with the jumpsuit.

However, although I like the shape & the duller tone of those boots, I really don't like that gold buckle (that looks like a padlock?) at the top. It makes them look cheaper than the actual cost.

ah just seen this thread I was under a different name on the last one, no reason for the change other than I randomly do it 😂

anyway I was the poster who also has bought the jumpsuit,

I have tried every variation of shoe and beleive black suede goes the best, I did tack mine up an inch and have let it down again , and will need to wear a low heel with it. I didn’t cut the material and it was too lumpy if that’s the right word and they sort of swung about, it wasn’t right, even my husband was a bit like hmm, so I took it down again and tried a low heel.

i have a pair of black suede quite delicate ankle boots I will wear with it over Xmas and new year and if I was wearing sandals ir shoes I’d also go for black suede.

the material is very dark in some lights and I think gold is too much of a contrast, Focus will be on the shoes, me + em style it with black suede shoes and I think they’ve got it right.like me they probably tried every variation for styling and settled on black suede as the best,

for jackets to casual it down I’ve a fitted black leather jacket from Reiss, which works very well, the fitted jacket balances the billowy legs, so if going for a jacket I’d pick something neat to the hip and fitted,

at new years I will need a coat, as I will be outside, and I’ve two, one cream thicker from reiss to the kneee and one black and low calf length, an older lk Bennet one, and it will be the black, again the cream is just too high contrast. The silhouette is wrong, the black one is closely fitting, long and narrow,

ive far too many clothes and I’ve tried it with everything, from tan shoes to dark brown jacket and for some reason black, a colour I seldom wear, works the best.

i think it’s because as much as it is clearly a dark green colour and can shimmer lighter green in parts, it also shows as very dark almost black In others,

so I’d recommend a pair of elegant low heel black suede shoes, and a black fitted jacket, to the hip bones, to balance the billowy wide legs out. Let the jumpsuit do the talking,

anything else I think will give the wrong shape , look awkward and be too high contrast,

I like a gap between an ankle boot and a dress, personally, cool look

I also like a gap between dress and boot. I dislike the KG sparkly boots though. I think they look cheap.

Although way back in the previous thread, I asked @ihaveafavouritecat where she usually buys her shoes and the brands she said were of the very, very sensible kind. This suggests to me that she’d be uncomfortable in fashion brands (low or high end) and that a more sensible style, even if not cutting edge or making a statement, might actually make her feet much happier on the day. It’s a decision she’ll have to make, but it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of the chase, as it were, and forget about more practical issues. I’ve been there!

At risk of sounding like a broken record though, I remain on team black suede!

I had no idea Air and Grace do a flat version! Thanks for this; I’ve just ordered them; have been looking for shoes to change into at night that I can dance in.
I’m going to have to return my Gabor shoes; they’re universally disliked. I focus a lot on shoes but not footwear; I now feel pretty clueless!

But YOU like them, yes? And they’re your feet!

I’m with @RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie definitely team black suede for the evening, although I do like a proper black satin evening shoe, but not worth buying for one time only

Tbh I think everyone thought that, but I've given up. There have been a lot of decent stylish shoes suggested that meet OP's brief, but she doesn't like them for whatever reason. And then the ones she likes are Gabor, or stiletto heeled boots from KG that are absolutely not what I'd choose if I had previously broken my ankle and was worried about falling... She's now considering Esska too despite rejecting them on thread 1, and I feel we've gone in circles.

I think we’re going in circles because OP naturally gravitates to sensible but is also being caught up in the thrill of everything. At the end of the day, it’s just a pair of shoes or boots and she just needs to decide what her biggest priorities are with them. The broken ankle thing is yet another reason why personally I’d probably favour a sensible option- and I agree that spindly heels shiny boots are not a sensible option!