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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/10/2026 15:09

You don’t ‘need’ gold. This isn’t a set of rules that you have to follow! You just need something that you like, that goes vaguely with the clothes and hopefully that you can walk in!

Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:11

ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 14:51

Nice shape @RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie I like that shape a lot! And would go for brown not grey, but I need gold 😕

Hi Op sorry was busy with a deadline BUT have swooped in to say I think some of our comments got you a bit confused with the gold cuff - which, I agree, you should wear. I was one of the people saying you might need gold shoes but that was because @EleanorMc67 and I are both fans of a bronze shoe, which IN THE ABSENCE OF THE CUFF I would have gone for (capitals for emphasis; I'm not shouting at you). What I worried was that unless carefully done, two competing metallic shades might not work.

BUT I think the brown suede ones that you like the shape of here work with both, especially if you go for the brown jacket. Suede has a similarly subtle effect as a muted metallic. I think the problem we were getting with gold was that to have the same tone as the cuff, they were too bright, because of the tone of gold. To me they look too light, too bright for the outfit, and having the bag match turns the focus into one, two, three focal points: the cuff, the bag, the shoes. And we want your gorgeous dress and jumpsuit to be what draws the eye, not that trio.

I think these brown suede that @RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie linked work, I think you like the shape and I think they look comfortable and will not fight with the other elements of the outfit, but have a textural aspect that works with the theme of fur, velvet etc.

You won't really see them with the jumpsuit, yet they won't cause affright if they peep out. With the dress they are back to the colour combination of that little duck. I think they work.'
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That leaves us with the bag. I think, having moved away from the gold shoes, that gold clutch could work with the cuff if you love it. But if you are only getting it because it matched the shoes, then you are free to find something you love more. It doesn't need to match by any means. What about a brown suede clutch? That would be useful even with jeans and your fur jacket.

ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 15:13

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/10/2026 15:09

You don’t ‘need’ gold. This isn’t a set of rules that you have to follow! You just need something that you like, that goes vaguely with the clothes and hopefully that you can walk in!

Haha yeah - fair comment! 🤦🏼‍♀️

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ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 15:16

ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 15:13

Haha yeah - fair comment! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Actually I think I need this shoe + bag thing to reach a conclusion 😵‍💫

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Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:16

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/10/2026 14:10

This post, just to clarify, but in dark brown not grey.

Comfort shoes!

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:16

ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 15:13

Haha yeah - fair comment! 🤦🏼‍♀️

A bit more than "vaguely" for this occasion, surely???!!!

Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:19

Also I love the fact your DH found you those gold boots! I think not for the wedding, for my reasons above, but there might be a time and place!

But I think the comfort brown suede are a good buy. You can't go wrong on price, comfort or "overdoing" it with the shoes. And i think they work with both outfits and the jacket.

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:25

Kurt Geiger - not sure if your dislike of animal prints extends to snakeskin? They're listed as leather but are a textile (see sole). Doesn't bother me that much with these as they don't look plasticky. Good shape & just within height - & a bargain at £16? Also, it means you could have a smooth gold leather/mesh/woven bag etc, as different textures/materials in the same/similar shade of gold will work.

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9196584272-carvella-sling-back-gold-heels

Carvella sling back gold heels | Vinted

Carvella sling back gold heels - Gold leather animal pattern size 6 sling back heels 3 inch heels Only worn a few times

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9196584272-carvella-sling-back-gold-heels

ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 15:26

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:16

A bit more than "vaguely" for this occasion, surely???!!!

Hahaha exactly! Given all your efforts @EleanorMc67right? Not to mention everyone else!

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/10/2026 15:27

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:16

A bit more than "vaguely" for this occasion, surely???!!!

The dress and jumpsuit are so fabulous that the shoes and bag are only going to be second fiddle anyway imo. My point was that the OP can relax a bit and not feel that she needs a specific colour, if she actually likes other things better.

I just don’t think anybody will be thinking about her shoes all that much.

Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:28

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:25

Kurt Geiger - not sure if your dislike of animal prints extends to snakeskin? They're listed as leather but are a textile (see sole). Doesn't bother me that much with these as they don't look plasticky. Good shape & just within height - & a bargain at £16? Also, it means you could have a smooth gold leather/mesh/woven bag etc, as different textures/materials in the same/similar shade of gold will work.

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9196584272-carvella-sling-back-gold-heels

I like the fact they are textured, which dulls the "bling" of the gold.

Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:29

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/10/2026 15:27

The dress and jumpsuit are so fabulous that the shoes and bag are only going to be second fiddle anyway imo. My point was that the OP can relax a bit and not feel that she needs a specific colour, if she actually likes other things better.

I just don’t think anybody will be thinking about her shoes all that much.

Agree - though if she wears bright gold, and especially the boots, they might be thinking about her shoes a lot!

But yes, we are really looking for the chorus to back up the lead singer here.

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:31

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/10/2026 15:27

The dress and jumpsuit are so fabulous that the shoes and bag are only going to be second fiddle anyway imo. My point was that the OP can relax a bit and not feel that she needs a specific colour, if she actually likes other things better.

I just don’t think anybody will be thinking about her shoes all that much.

I know - but she will probably be thinking about them!

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:32

Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:28

I like the fact they are textured, which dulls the "bling" of the gold.

Yes, me too. And I think a mix of textures tends to lift an outfit, if done well.

Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:35

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:32

Yes, me too. And I think a mix of textures tends to lift an outfit, if done well.

Which is why I think those suede ones could work well. It quietly enriches without drawing attention.

Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 15:37

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:31

I know - but she will probably be thinking about them!

We don't want her thinking about them because she can't wait to take them off! I have reached the point I allow comfort more of a look-in that I once did!

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 23/10/2026 15:40

Exactly! @ihaveafavouritecat hasn’t worn heels for years. Comfort needs to be a priority, I reckon.

InTheFirstHalf · 23/10/2026 16:09

Brown with a touch of gold, thinking jacket and jewellery. (And great reduction)

https://www.tkmaxx.com/uk/en/women/shoes/heels/brown-mid-heel-slingbacks/p/25277178

ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 16:35

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:28

Russell & Bromley - over budget (& overpriced for Vinted) though may well be open to offers? Definitely comfy-looking & very secure - but also a bit too sensible-looking for my liking ...

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9975901894-brand-new-russell-and-bromley-womens-heels

Yes, I quite like the simplicity of these, but I wouldn’t spend £100+ on shoes from Vinted. …You know this, from the ones you longed for me to buy, so you could enjoy them vicariously!

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ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 16:40

EleanorMc67 · 23/10/2026 15:31

I know - but she will probably be thinking about them!

I don’t think I will really. All this thought in advance, is hopefully getting me to a place where I can just put on my outfit, and not have to think about it. Remember that came through on my wish list/what I know list, way back when I did that exercise that was recommended to me? I want an outfit I can put on and not have to think about. I’m confident that will happen. Then I can focus on my lovely DS’s big day 🥰 … and probably be all tearful and choked up, and possibly a bit drunk. Mascara discussions to follow! 🤣

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Calliopespa · 23/10/2026 17:06

ihaveafavouritecat · 23/10/2026 16:40

I don’t think I will really. All this thought in advance, is hopefully getting me to a place where I can just put on my outfit, and not have to think about it. Remember that came through on my wish list/what I know list, way back when I did that exercise that was recommended to me? I want an outfit I can put on and not have to think about. I’m confident that will happen. Then I can focus on my lovely DS’s big day 🥰 … and probably be all tearful and choked up, and possibly a bit drunk. Mascara discussions to follow! 🤣

I agree OP - and so far I think all the decisions fit this bill.

MumzSuki · 23/10/2026 19:21

Op I’m going to a wedding next month and am wearing the same dress as you!
Are you fixed on gold shoes? I’m wearing navy, with a navy bag both from Hobbs,and I like the look!

Mother of the Groom: get me to the finish line!
Mother of the Groom: get me to the finish line!
minnowonthesay · 23/10/2026 19:24

Sorry @ihaveafavouritecat I hope you didn’t think I was being rude about option paralysis - it’s just I started out on this thread three weeks ago thinking gold shoes and bag and I’ve changed my mind several times, felt overwhelmed by the choices, so goodness knows how you feel! I’ll link the satin Mango shoes now, been at the hairdressers since 12:30 and feel I’ve missed so much 😂

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