Will my DD aged 18 be mocked for this?

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Or sniggered at, ridiculed or ostracised?

Having unshaved underarms at uni.

She has her own style, quite quirky / dark academia, it really suits her. She's bookish and amazing. Tall and striking. I'm so proud of her.

But when she tried on her prom dress I admit the bushy underarm hair shocks 50-something me. At her age I wouldn't have had the confidence or daring to stand out at all.

I offered to get her a razor in the past and she seemed affronted and insisted she likes her body hair. Her body, her choice. I didn't ever mention it again.

The thing is she's at a selective girls school where there's a fantastic ethos of acceptance, lots of clever girls like her and a lot of neurodiversity. I'm worried her uni experience won't be as accepting. She's going to a traditional Russell group uni this year with a lot of public school types.

I'm conflicted about saying something to her again.

WWYD?

There's an adult on here ( not me !) who has decided to grow her hair based on the fact that someone said it was cool on here 🤷‍♀️

Honestly quite proud of her! I wish I had that body image positivity and acceptance at her age when I was young. If I were you, I'd lay back and bask in the knowledge that I raised a confident daughter and did a damn good job at it! Good on you!

Oh bless her, I so wish my generation did this, as now I am like a hedgehog almost everywhere if I don't shave because of the peer pressure at the time!

@sfd146 No one will say anything as the 5 year old did. They might just think she’s not on their wavelength but it doesn’t matter because no doubt others will be like her. So no issue really!

I never said I would forbid it. If she was my daughter I wouldn’t forbid it but I would have a conversation with her about the reasons why other girls are shaving (likely because they think that’s what boys like and they want their vaginas to look like pornstar vags). I’d try and make her see that 1. It isn’t realistic, shaving all your pubes off will likely result in uncomfortable itching and nasty red bumps from ingrown hairs and 2. To keep her body parts groomed how SHE feels most comfortable having them, not for anyone else or to try and live up to some unrealistic ideal of what a woman should look like. Teenagers need guidance and education around these topics. Once I’d given her all the information, if she was still set on doing it then fine. I’d keep my mouth shut and resist the urge to say I told you so a week later when she’s walking around with her hands down her pants trying to subtly itch her vag

@Waitingforthesunnydays You equate underarm hair with a Brazilian? Not remotely the same. One is on public show and one definitely isn’t. One is a standard thing to do and one isn’t. They will get a Brazilian if they want to when at uni and parents get no say. It’s not all about men either.