Will my DD aged 18 be mocked for this?

[hippospot]

Or sniggered at, ridiculed or ostracised?

Having unshaved underarms at uni.

She has her own style, quite quirky / dark academia, it really suits her. She's bookish and amazing. Tall and striking. I'm so proud of her.

But when she tried on her prom dress I admit the bushy underarm hair shocks 50-something me. At her age I wouldn't have had the confidence or daring to stand out at all.

I offered to get her a razor in the past and she seemed affronted and insisted she likes her body hair. Her body, her choice. I didn't ever mention it again.

The thing is she's at a selective girls school where there's a fantastic ethos of acceptance, lots of clever girls like her and a lot of neurodiversity. I'm worried her uni experience won't be as accepting. She's going to a traditional Russell group uni this year with a lot of public school types.

I'm conflicted about saying something to her again.

WWYD?

Nope - say nothing, her body her choice. It’s much more common / popular now and I think she will be absolutely fine at uni.

No . May shock you but deffo doesn’t bother that age group! Quite cool these days !

I think it’s pretty usual these days not to shave. In my last job, I worked with a lot of very cool young women and none of them shaved their underarms. Times have really changed!

No. Although my dd is 16, she never removes it. In fact I don’t think she removes any body hair

Good for her!

She sounds fantastic. Long may she reign. My lovely niece does in her 20s and doesn't give a shit. Manages to find friends and dates everywhere!

Nah it’s much more common in this group

DD is 19 and doesn't shave anything either. I think it is cool for that age group.

One DD in her 20s shaves her pits, the other doesn’t. I’m not aware it has ever caused any issues - they both have very different styles.

Checked with my DD who is a second year uni student and she says no one will comment or care, it’s not a big deal at all.

Not a big deal. Times are, thankfully, a changing.

Your daughter is intelligent enough to already know that some women shave and some don't, and that some people aren't bothered in the slightest and others find it off-putting. It's entirely up to her, it's her body. These days there are pop singers etc who don't shave.

Of course there are bound to be some men who don't find it attractive, but she most likely wouldn't be attracted to a man who thought like that anyway.

I think it's great that young women aren't feeling that societal pressure to remove every body hair.

Honestly? There will be some comments either to her or about her but she won't be the only one and who cares what anyone thinks

Good for her! I think women her age are happier in their own skin than we were at that age. Fuck the patriarchy!

I have two slightly older DDs, body hair is fine now.

Normal for that age group (and long may it continue)

we’re the abnormal ones

She sounds just like my daughter. She hasn’t received any judgment so I’m sure your DD will be fine.

She’s 18
You don’t think her peers haven’t seen her in the changing room over the years??

She’s never met up with school friends in all the summer holidays over the years wearing a t shirt or strappy vest?

Never had a sleepover and for undressed in front of any of her peers

Never got changed in to PE?

At uni anything goes. Russell group is irrelevant OP 😂

@hippospot which school please? We are contemplating moving back to the UK and looking for a school like you describe for our DD!

You are of an older generation, OP. The youngsters don't care so much about hair removal as we did/do.

Don't say anything more to her. You'll just look like more of a dinosaur 😆(Spoken as a fellow dinosaur mother of a non-hair remover.)

Much cooler now to leave it and not be a slave to the shave - women’s bodies should be hairier imo!!!

Say nothing. Absolutely no reason to shave anything off your body. My daughters are mixed. Daughter at uni, doing dance, doesn't

My dd is 22 and there’s a 50/50 split in her friend group between shaving and not shaving. No one cares anymore. It really isn’t a thing. They just accept whatever.