Hair change too drastic. Wtf have I done?

[MissMuffot]

I know it's just hair and it will grow back. That was my reasoning for doing it in the first place. I have a lot going on and I was just not washing my hair or taking care of it properly.

It was about 6 to 8 inches past my shoulders and dyed red. I couldn't keep up with the maintenance of it
And I felt like I had too much going on in my life to deal with such long hair.

After watching too many youtube videos, I decided to give myself a bob which obviously went very wrong and I ended up at the hairdresses. He decided that a pixie (between a bob and pixie) would be god for me and low maintenance, but he's basically just giving me a pixie with a fringe.

With my red hair, I was getting Sharon Osbourne vibes. So I try to put a brown dye over the top but it didn't take at all! so I ended up using a black dye I had in my bathroom.

So now I have Kris Kardashian vibes.

I just hate it so much. It's too dark for me.And I feel like all my femininity has gone.

I feel Ive aged myself 15 years.

I have a schwarzkopf colour remover on the way to try and get the black out.

I feel so stupid, my confidence has dropped. My kids were shocked.

DH keeps saying it looks 'cute'but I know he loved my long hair and I can just tell he doesn't really like it but he is absolutely teying to reassure me 🤣

Oh lord. Why did I do it??? 🤣😭😭

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Buy a hat.

You'll get used to it and it will grow.

I'm currently bald from chemo and likely to be for some time so it's all relative.

Sorry you have made FOUR big mistakes now, please don’t make another.

Stay calm woman or you will end up bald!!!

Don’t use that colour remover stuff. You will damage the hair you have left.

Stay calm, even if it’s awful, of course it will grow back. Everyone makes mistakes, we have had hair disasters. Go to a hairdresser or colour correction specialist and don’t panic it will grow back.

Don’t do any more damage!!!

Get the black out, then stay away from any more colouring
Keep washing it, then it will colour fade
its nice to have a change blow dry it that always makes it look good
summer will be here soon nice to have a shorter cut
it will grow be patient

I think the moral of the story is go to a professional for the next few hair cuts and colours....

Please stop DIYing. This is why you’re in this mess!

See a hairdresser for a professional colour stripping and having something softer and close to your natural colour for low maintenance.

Stay away from the DIY.

I have a schwarzkopf colour remover on the way to try and get the black out

Don't use that! You'll just end up with bright orange, damaged, hair.
Can you afford to go to an expert colourist (even if just the once) to get you back on track colour wise?

I can't fathom why you made 4 fuckups to your hair in quick succession.

Not sure why long dyed red hair is that much high maintenance either.

Hats: you can be feminine, fun, quirky, sophisticated…. Change your look daily depending upon how you feel!

Because I had a mental breakdown a few months ago and i was getting matted from not not washing/brushing/drying it properly. And it hurt brushing the mats out

Try a nice wig? My friend with alopecia wears a wig. & my African friends wear different wigs & hairpieces / weaves all the time.

Please can people be kind.

I was put under a 24hr psych hold and realeased recently . I just couldnt keep up with my hair and i thought it would be liberating :(

I don't have a pot to piss in, I had to borrow £40 to get the pixie cut.

Really don’t do the colour remover - it will 100% go orange!

Sorry am going to hide this thread

Thankyou for the replies.

Just feeling a bit sensitive right now and probably shouldnt have posted. I dont have the income for hairdressers and I guess cutting my hair was an extension of my breakdown. I thought it would fix things somehow. One less thing

Thankyou again

More hours of daylight are on the way. This will fade the dye. Washing more often will fade rhe dye.

Try some bobby pins or a headband to soften any hard edges or weird bits.

colour drops very quickly from box dye but does always feel shockingly harsh at first. I’ve learnt this myself, the hard way, and it’s why I will only use henna now. Just bear with it for a few weeks. It won’t be long.

my commiserations. I’ve been in this situation many, many times.

OP you sound completely panicked and are making rash decisions.

agree with others. Do not use the DIY colour remover. That will be a disaster.

just keep washing your hair as normal and the black will fade quite quickly. Just leave it for a bit and reassess in a weeks time.

Shave it off and start again.
Will be a few months of short hair that you can't do anything with, but its a fresh start and it sounds like you need one.

OP this is fairly outing, but almost 20 years ago I cut off my waist length dreadlocks for a Rihanna style pixie cut. Not the same circs exactly, but I was not in a good place mentally either and thought people would take me more seriously if I wasn't a dread head (mixed race hippie chick, people do judge!) the upkeep of dreadlocks was also a lot, they got washed at least twice a week but would take a long time to dry!

It had the effect of obliterating my confidence. My hair was my crown! It was very drastic.

I coped by getting a selection of beanies and berets, and always wearing big hoops or statement earrings. As feminine makeup as I could muster on my eyes (cats eye eyeliner, loads of mascara).

I've never gone shorter than jaw-length since then. It's definitely a lesson! You'll get through it.

Don't worry about the colour for now. It's too dark but it should grow out quickly as it's short. And right now it's hat weather anyway. Focus on improving the condition and, if you can, save up so that in the spring you can go to a hairdresser and get it coloured nicely.

Oh no!!!!

In which case....

the black will wash out over time.

It's short now so I would just go to your natural colour and stop dying it altogether then as it grows keep it a bit longer probably long shoulder length.

Hats amd headbands are probably your friend while you wait

OP you have a lot going on so try to be kind to yourself. What is your natural hair colour? Box dye fades fairly quickly so it will soon fade a good bit and probably will be your desired shade. Also as you had so much cut off embrace how healthy it probably is right now.

@MissMuffot the colour remover will send it bright and patchy orange, just fyi. I presume that will be worse than the box black