Any advise on how to look older when I'm in my early 40s ?

[MomWithChinHairs]

That maybe the 1st time someone asked this on here. 🤣 But I fall into the proaging rabit hole. Even my husband wants me to look older as that is what he's into now.

Let me give you some of the stuff I'm working with:
● My natural hair color is dark brown. I'm rocking a pixie cut that's dyed blonde.

● Unless it's a special occasion, I have abandoned dresses, jeans, and skirts. I wear leggings for my fluctuating weight. I were tank tops because of hot flashes, night sweats, and other sweating events.

● Stop wearing makeup.

So ladies, help me age up. 🤣
Obviously not in a ridiculous way as I'm not going to start smoking nor doing hour long tans in the sun. Don't kill me but help me older. Love you guys. 💙

I’d assume he thought I dressed too young for my age if I got this comment, you’re not wearing bum hugging leggings and a crop top are you?
Just joking, enjoy your eternal youth!

Perhaps, rather than a new look, you need a new man. Preferably a younger one.

I actually think you have hit the nail on the head here.

OP you are dressing like a teenager aren't you?

My first thought was:
Twin sets 👕
Pearls 📿
Walking stick 🦯
Blazers 🧥
Hyacinth Bucket hair do? 👵

What type of style to you mean?
What 'look' do you wish to go for?

More mature, chic and refined, like a modern day Sophia Loren (who I think prelofessed that she never wore jeans) 😎
Or more countryside inspired fashion, that looks like something out of a joules catalogue? 🐎
Or more mother earth, hippie chic, with sustainable sourced handmade garments? 😇

Depends on what floats your boat. Anything is great as long as it makes you happy 😊
@MomWithChinHairs

Just today? 😂I love bonkers threads like this. I believe Crystal Meth has an aging effect on the face and body. I am also laughing a lot at your post @GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf Your advice might not work though. My late DF was a big drinker and smoker his whole life. He always looked remarkably young. His blond hair didn’t even go grey. He lived into his eighties.

Maybe go for the mounjaro but go too far and get 'ozempic face'?

Does anyone remember the show 'twenty years younger' (something like that)

Could maybe watch that and get tips from the 'before' bit??

Wait wait wait ...

I think i get it.

Is it more about trying to get away from a certain look? The ''younger'' look. ie: skin tight up your bum leggings/trainers/White Fox hoodie/fake tan/long nails/false lashes/hair extensions look?

You want to look more sophisticated and polished. I feel like rather than asking to look like a 50 year old (because you could take a group of 50 year olds and they would probably all dress very differently) you are asking to polish up your look and be a classy 40 year old?

@Foundress to be fair as awful as my dad looks he runs around with my kids all the time. He has stopped drinking alcohol but he’s putting away an ungodly amount of Dr Pepper these days. Some people are just built for it I think.

You started a thread a while ago and one of the posts there said you wanted to look younger. Why are you pandering to his nonsense? Do what you want.

Do tell 🍿

Well, multiple and obsessive threads about chin hairs over age 40. Wanting to look younger in December and now wanting to look older. All a bit strange.

@MomWithChinHairs I think you're conflating "looking older" with "not looking attractive." Those are two different things.

Validation comes from within, not without.

Don't bug your daughter about how old you look. Mine would do that, it's annoying.

Do you mean more mature? old fashioned?

Does your DH have some sort of fetish for old ladies? LTB and embrace what Mother Nature has given you.

Why not just look like you do? Why do you have to look older or younger?
If you want to look older then wear frumpier shapeless clothes, grow out your hair in to a sensible bob. I mean women of any age can look extremely elegant but you seem to want to add years now and when I see a woman looking older than her years it’s because she has let her hair grow out with greys showing, and wears baggy clothes.

Ahh I sympathise with the chin hair thing, it's a prickly nightmare. I find this thread bonkers though. Why the sudden turn around. Stuff what her husband thinks, no one wants to actually look older, more sophisticated and elegant yes. Older.....surely not.

Watch Mrs Doubtfire and get some inspo from her outfits. Tan tights, brown square heels, tweed jackets, blouses with big frilly collars, high-waisted tweed skirts that go past the knee - In fact I’d say that’d add 20 years on its own - an itchy looking tartan skirt that goes down to mid-calf

OP I think you need therapy.

Why you say that ?

I stopped dressing like a teenager a while back. I had felt that I couldn't pull it off anymore.

In the 1800's some young men in europe wanted to.look older, tjey only got the respect and the clients ny pretendimg to be old.These fellows wore white wigs and pretended to limp.
Could you die your hair grey/ white and walk with a limp?

As you ceased to be a teenager 21 years ago I hope you stopped dressing like a teenager in 2004.

I think it's great that you're embracing your age, Op, but this does seem like a pendulum situation ie you've swung from one extreme to another. Maybe you should look to just look your age.