Any advise on how to look older when I'm in my early 40s ?

[MomWithChinHairs]

That maybe the 1st time someone asked this on here. 🤣 But I fall into the proaging rabit hole. Even my husband wants me to look older as that is what he's into now.

Let me give you some of the stuff I'm working with:
● My natural hair color is dark brown. I'm rocking a pixie cut that's dyed blonde.

● Unless it's a special occasion, I have abandoned dresses, jeans, and skirts. I wear leggings for my fluctuating weight. I were tank tops because of hot flashes, night sweats, and other sweating events.

● Stop wearing makeup.

So ladies, help me age up. 🤣
Obviously not in a ridiculous way as I'm not going to start smoking nor doing hour long tans in the sun. Don't kill me but help me older. Love you guys. 💙

Nobody is looking at you. Don’t wast your time.

Just wear a blue wig and granny glasses in the bedroom if that’s what he is into.

I'm asking in terms of clothes, hair, jewelry, that sort of thing.

It's not as I'm planning to be surgeries nor get infections to look older. That would be insane.

I’m shocked you’re changing your entire look and aging yourself because your husband is into it. What about what you like, outside of centering your husband?

Why not embrace the age you actually are though? Why do you have to look older?
Surely you can just stop putting effort into your appearance rather than some sort of “older lady” costume?

Mumsnet is full on weird today

This woman is probably 22 but looks 50.

Chainsmoke, only drink a few espressos a day, and spend every waking moment in the sun with no makeup or sunblock.
I am confused as maybe you want to look more elegant in a classic way ? In which case look at the way French or Italian women dress.
If you just want to pass for 55 then make your life extremely stressful and drink so much coffee you can’t sleep. Or have a baby !

Oh.
Yeah, there’s no uniform for women in their 50s/ 60s though. They all wear different styles.

My daughter never said she wants me to look older but she appreciates that I look older now that I was before.

Also, right now, I want to look older for myself.

I think you need a more sophisticated perspective and a less superficial approach to your struggles with aging.

You can accept not being 20 and ‘hot’ any more without resorting to a Hyacinth Bucket costume. If you want to, you can enjoy beautiful clothes/hair/make up and be cool/elegant/stylish, whatever you like. Not being able to dress like a teenager doesn’t mean you can’t wear lovely things and look lovely.

Or you might say I can’t be arsed, I’m happiest in a fleece and wellies, walking the dog, and don’t care what my hair looks like. Also fine.

Just be authentic and true to yourself and forget about pretending to be something you’re not.

Nice. Elegant and sophisticated.

It's all about the hair IMO. Think it probably takes a bit of work to get it right though.

I'm sorry. I tend to be in a moment of high emotional intensity when I post on the internet. Either intense positive emotions or intense negative emotions.

I'm not looking to just wear a custome and fit a role. I want my fashion to reflect what's going on inside of me.

You're welcome to borrow my perimenopause if you like, I find that quite helpful as an accessory for a woman of a certain age. Anyway, back to my chain-smoking and twinset.

Cut your hair short and get a perm
Wear Charlie perfume and a non ‘smart’ watch with a leather strap
Don Deidre Barlow Waspish glasses
stop plucking your facial hair or brows
wear red or navy leather open toe foot doctor sandals…

Odd post lol

I think what he wants is for you to look more sophisticated/ smart and polished rather than aged though....presumably he doesn't have a fettish for a blue rinse, orthopedic sandals and a cotton traders jersey? How do you normally dress?

When people want to look young they mean less wrinkly and more trendy.

LTB!

Start smoking a pack of Marlborough Reds a day, minimum 6 cans of Stella, don’t moisturise ever, eat chips cheese and kebab at least two times a week. That’s my dad’s pro aging routine and he’s looked old as fuck for as long as I can remember. The day I found out he was only 10 years older than my mum I was in shock.

I really don’t understand why you’ve decided the antidote to trying really hard to appear younger than you are is to start trying really hard to appear decades older than you are. Just … be yourself?

Does he mean older or a more sophisticated look?

Yesss. I agree with this

Can you just get a grey/white wig ?

Another wanna be attention seeking/ goady thread…

I had a baby at 35. I've aged terribly in the past 27 or so months. Still dress like a teenage goth from the 2000s though. 😁

Have a baby, pick arguments with ya husband play victim, hate your life.
Stop all personal hygiene.
Act as if the world hates you and act like you are always right.
Have another baby when your knocking on 50.
Have an affair keep it secret the guilt will eat at you bame your husband for the affair.
Be as grumpy as you possibly can be.

All the above should age you fast.