Grey hair wobble

[DreamloverTealover]

It's almost two years since I've dyed my hair. It was always a test to see if dyeing damage is why it's not growing well. The condition is definitely better than it was but not smooth like I'd hoped.

My daughter has said she doesn't like it. She is 7 so I'm not going to run and buy dye ASAP. However I've been having a wobble anyway so really stuck on what to do. My sister is a hairdresser and says some people are wanting to go grey early now and says my natural colour is lovely. My husband says I look great whatever colour is but I don't know if this is just because he's a nice guy 😂

I've been wearing some vintage style trousers and tops recently and feel like it doesn't work with grey hair and that's saddened me too. Should I be trying to wear modern styles to outweigh the grey hair.

I know it's my own decision but wondering anyway in late thirties in same boat?

I hear you. I'm older than you and have only been growing out the hair colour for a year, but I'm about half way there ( I think).
I wobble because I think I look faded. It's OK if I'm wearing make up and bright lipstick, but mostly I don't, so I just look all- over grey.
No idea what the answer is!

I love grey hair.
Post a picture?

I'm going to be honest here and say I think grey hair really ages people. Sorry.

I tried to embrace the grey and it was ok in the summer with a light tan (olive skinned) but in the winter I just looked so washed out that I went back to the dye.

I'm late 50s so much older than you, OP, but I'm having a similar wobble. I stopped dyeing my hair dark brown three years ago and was initially really pleased with my natural white/grey which is around 90% coverage.
But it often now irritates me. I don't mind it so much when looking in the mirror at home, but if I see myself in say a changing room mirror or in photos, it's another story. The novelty has definitely worn off.

I think it's true that to carry off grey hair "successfully" a slightly sharper, edgier look is required, both in terms of hair cut but also clothes/accessories. I don't know if that's even more true, or less so, if you're relatively young. So that's what I'm trying to do first to see if I feel better, rather than rushing into colouring it again, since growing the dye out previously was such a faff.

I agree with this, it looks bold as in I don't care what people think but hand on heart I've never seen anyone look better grey.

Oh dear...maybe it will have to be back to the bottle for me, judging by the gist of the comments!

I tried to go grey in the pandemic but chickened out. Many of my friends look great grey.

I posted earlier and forgot to add that it really comes down to whether you feel that you look like "you", whatever the hair colour or clothes. I genuinely loved my grey hair when I let it grow out, felt very much myself etc and was certain I'd never want to colour it again. I was fully aware that it probably did make me look older, but that didn't bother me and still doesn't. But a few years on, I don't feel I look like "me" so much any more.

I've never been grey before, so it doesn't feel like me. But I might grow into it.

I understand. I love my grey hair (which is a good job as I can’t dye it anymore), but it did take some getting used to in terms of washing me out as I am very pale skinned. I genuinely don’t think I look older, despite what some people think. I probably look my age, which is fine by me. I’ve had to experiment with makeup and things and I’ve found a routine I’m happy with now.

I’ve said before I’m lucky because my hair is shiny and silver and I do get lots of compliments…just the other day the young doctor I saw was telling me how much she loved it.

It’s not always easy, especially when it’s practically a crime to age as we’re meant to, but maybe continue to play around with colours (possibly get your colours done) and see if that gives you a boost. If not, you could potentially have some lowlights to break it up.

Have a look at grey blending. I'm late 30's too and am getting very grey now so am considering this because it just looks awful when it's patches of grey on very dark brown

I’m 38 and undecided what to do about mine. I had been getting the greys blended in, copying my natural colour, by my hairdresser but it’s just so expensive. I’m also worried I’ve been having a slight reaction to the dye (not sure if just being paranoid) and it might get worse. At the moment I’ve got a couple of inches of regrowth and have been experimenting with semi-permanents. Is that something you could try?

My husband also says he doesn’t mind either way. But I do feel it ages me. My hair is quite dark, so it’s pretty obvious. Also find it frustrating when some of my friends/acquaintances are all enthusiastic about embracing the grey - but they were all 55+. I feel far too young!! (Though I expect I’d be saying this at 60 too!)

I was 43 and probably wasn’t ready but I had no choice! It took me a while to actually take the plunge. I’m 49 now and it’s grown on me (pardon the pun).

I stopped colouring during lockdown and embrace the white. Colour is too much maintenance for me. Do what you want OP. I use this to enhance the colour. They have many shades. https://amzn.eu/d/aRO1Jjz

"Wobble" sounds like a dismissive way to refer to your perfectly reasonable feelings about this. Going grey is not better or more feminist or morally superior - it's just one option. Brilliant that it's an option that's now celebrated for many women, but if you aren't ready for grey yet, don't feel that you're selling out if you choose to use colour again.
Hair dye doesn't need to damage your hair, by the way. For years I used Castings box dye and it left my hair in nicer condition than it ever was before.

I see a lot of women with badly coloured hair which looks a lot worse than grey hair.

I'm sorry I want to love it and can see lots of positives for stopping using dye but it is aging. I don't think I've thought once they look better.

I stopped coloring in august 2019 not knowing pandemic was coming so by July 2020 it was well on its way to all grey. Effortless
i would say to grow out. Now 2025 it’s the longest it has been since 20s. It’s just straight no bangs but well cut good products I have lovely “natural” highlights and blah blah. I am careful about wearing the color grey. It’s the only color I really don’t like on me (or silver) but even it can be done if the shade is right. I have good skin (following the Botox thread today) and I used to be often guessed younger than age but I think the grey haircolor put a spin on being perceived as younger. Grey hair mostly does mean older unless you’re very young and clearly trendy. All this to say….i wouldn’t color again. I would experiment with clothes jewelry and colors I wear and I have to wear a white lab coat every work day. Not great. I would try a new hair cut before I colored . You are so far ahead by embracing your natural color in terms of time money attending appointments. Also op just my non scientific not proven belief…. I worry hair color might someday be associated with Alzheimer’s It’s statistically higher in women.

I ditched the colour during lockdown. Most of the time I like it but there are times I really miss my dark brown hair. In all honesty though, looking back on when I dyed my hair in pictures, It just didn't look great. It was either too dark or just the wrong colour for me. I have sallowish skin. I have had many compliments about my silver hair. I'm lucky with the fact that I have highlights of white, silver and black. I like a kind of gothic vibe, so for me it kind of fits in.
I've always looked young in the past but I agree that I think I now look my age [57] and on occasions when working with younger people have had some ageist comments which have shocked me! I would not have been ready to go grey in my 30's or even early 40's but now, I could not face dying it and then going through another grey transition so its here to say.
I totally agree about the make up thing. I feel I look so much better with more effort made on eye make up. I don't do lipstick personally as I can't tolerate it on my lips. If anything, I am kind of happy to look my age as I felt many years of pressure to maintain my young look and felt a bit fake.

I am not grey yet, but I dye my hair blonde and it looks OK. When I try to go my natural mousy colour, it looks awful. But then I see other women with grey hair or natural hair and they look amazing. I also think there's going to come a point when my blonde dye starts to look shit and the condition will also be shit, so I may be better off just not dyeing it.

It's a dilemma! Men don't seem to worry about this stuff and I wish I didn't feel as if I have to

Try a silk bonnet to wear at nighttime, makes your hair super silky!

It will always make someone look older just because of the association with old people, but it doesn't mean it has to be a negative thing.
I truly think some women look amazing with it. The tricks seem to be adding colourful makeup, violet tones, sharp cut, cool clothes.

Agreed.
I’ll be a blonde till my dyeing day 😂

This is exactly how I feel. I stopped dyeing mine in lockdown and cut it off. I’ve had it very short since. The relief of not having to do anything but have it trimmed regularly was enormous at first. However it does
make me look washed out and older. I am also sick of having it in the same style . I am toying with having highlights or lowlights. Just something to make it more interesting.