Grey hair wobble

[DreamloverTealover]

It's almost two years since I've dyed my hair. It was always a test to see if dyeing damage is why it's not growing well. The condition is definitely better than it was but not smooth like I'd hoped.

My daughter has said she doesn't like it. She is 7 so I'm not going to run and buy dye ASAP. However I've been having a wobble anyway so really stuck on what to do. My sister is a hairdresser and says some people are wanting to go grey early now and says my natural colour is lovely. My husband says I look great whatever colour is but I don't know if this is just because he's a nice guy 😂

I've been wearing some vintage style trousers and tops recently and feel like it doesn't work with grey hair and that's saddened me too. Should I be trying to wear modern styles to outweigh the grey hair.

I know it's my own decision but wondering anyway in late thirties in same boat?

I’m allergic to hair dye, if I wasn’t I would still dye my hair. I dyed mine till I was 51. I went to a decent hairdressers who did it every 5 weeks. That’s the issue with dyed hair some is unfortunately really badly done. My hair is healthier now I haven’t dyed it for a while. It’s very streaky salt and pepper, with more salt. I’m about to try some silver shampoo. There was a time when it only had a little silver in that people thought I had paid for highlights. I actually really liked it then.

I got rid of all my grey tops and jumpers, I really like the colour but it’s not a good look with grey, silver, white hair often.

I'm late 30s with dark hair and I'd never consider leaving it to go grey, everyone with grey hair looks 20 years older than they are. Luckily my hair is in good condition aside from going grey, but if it wasn't I'd rather have hair extensions or even a wig than be grey.

It's something you stop doing in your 70s or it looks like you've let yourself go. Especially these days when everyone looks younger than the previous generations did.

MIL and all her friends are early 70s and they've all stopped together.

Even then, one of MIL's sisters has just stopped dyeing her hair in her late 60s and she looks like she's gone from mid 50s to 80s overnight. I was shocked when I saw her.

You really think Annie mcdowall looks 20 yrs older? I think she looks amazing and her hair is stunning

For what it's worth, I love all the grey hair on this thread.
I am very unstylish, though.

Absolutely agree with this.

I went grey young and have never bothered dyeing it. I want to spend my money on things that mean something to me, not on covering up my natural hair colour in case someone thinks my hair makes me look older than I am. Why should that effect me?

I think it's so strange that looking older than your age is such a terrible thing that people dump chemicals onto their hair and into their faces on a regular basis.

I have grey at my temples that is now noticeable (early 40’s) my natural hair colour is a mixture of light brown, dark blonde with a few strands of lighter blonde where the sun catches it in the summer.
The grey kind of blends in with the lighter tones of my hair and I’ve already made the decision not to dye it. I did in my late 20’s/early thirties put a semi permanent blonde on it as my hair seemed to darken after my children were born, but I just couldn’t be arsed to keep it up.
My sister is a couple of years older with brown hair and she dyes hers as she also has grey at the temples etc its all personal preference, all my older female relatives all still dye their hair, it can look a little odd when you have someone in their late 70’s with perfectly brown hair without a trace of grey.

I grew my dyed very dark brown/almost black hair out a few years ago. I’m 54 now and in photos I’m shocked at how bad it looked! Almost like a wig! My now natural hair is a light/medium ash brown with evenly distributed greys, almost like highlights.80% brown/ 20% grey However I did struggle with the coolness of my natural colour as there was no warmth whatsoever which looked a little draining, but love the variations in tones I now had. So I tried a dark blonde semi and it’s perfect. Gives my medium brown a light subtle honey warmth and makes my greys very slightly blonde. Because it’s semi it hasn’t fried my hair either and will fade in time if needed.

I don’t think I look 69 here. Nor have I let myself go.

I started getting grey hairs in my 20s. Now, at 50, I'm 70% salt, 30% pepper. I'm almost more upset that my natural auburn hair faded to pepper. I dyed for years, but gave up a couple of years ago. Sometimes I get semi-permanent purple highlights put in it, or a rinse to bring out the silver. I have never been a make-up wearer, so have not had to change anything there, but try to dress sharp for work. My kids are still quite young (11 & 8) and have never said one way or another whether they like it. My husband loves it. I think it's just a personal preference thing. I got fed up with the expense and time commitment of maintaining the dye job.

@GreyRooted 😮😮 You don't look anywhere NEAR 69! You could pass for many many years younger.

I’m 49! 😁 I was just pointing out to the poster who said everyone looks 20 years older with grey hair.

I don’t mind looking my age either.

Try having your colours done (preferably with no dye in your hair) and buy lipstick, earrings and scarf in your very best shades. It could be quite transformative.

Home dye especially dark colours can look dreadful, it really washed me out and made split ends worse.

I've grown my grey out but it's in quite definite streaks rather than all over. I've never had so many compliments and condition is great.

However it needs a shorter sharper cut and is more prone to frizz - a Brazilian blowdry is the answer for me but it's expensive. I'm 41.

I’m almost 39 and when I stopped breastfeeding my daughter 18 months ago, there was a hormonal change which meant that my roots became super absorbent - so my red tinted hair dye went bright red on the roots but normal elsewhere. It’s not helped by the fact that the lights in the bathroom at work are brutal. I did every thing I could at home and then one night told my mum how much it was getting me down:

‘a woman’s hair is her crown, get it fixed’

So I went off to a salon (extremely nervous) and spent 5 hours having it all highlighted and coloured and it was a beautiful caramel colour filled with highlights. BUT the colour was still too stark against my grey roots which came through 2 weeks later.

So now I have a full head of highlights and a platinum toner - its a wonderful colour that means that you can’t really tell when the roots come through and I’ve found that I can go 9-10 weeks between appointments (so not using bleach too often) if I do a toner at home. I do think it’s possible for it to become a bit of a block of colour so I’m going to ask to some very sporadic low lights next time to break it up.

I occasionally see photos of myself where my dark hair was lovely and miss is. But overall I’m really happy that I’ve gone ‘blonde’. I also think that when I’m ready to embrace the grey, it won’t be a hard grow out like a dark colour would be.

if you’ve already done the hard work of growing it out I’d be reluctant to dye it again but maybe you can experiment with toners or tints to make it more what you’re happy with?

It's just a hair colour and it's perfectly natural, I no longer see the point in pretending otherwise and couldn't give a hoot about those who say it's aging. Not to say I've not had wobbles, but it is what it is. You'd think we were old crones walking round with a shampoo and set and a headscarf the way some people talk on here. All the women I know letting it come through in their 40s look really nice, and why wouldn't they.

Of course whatever people do with their hair is up to them but there's many gorgeous younger women on Instagram worth looking at like April the grey, Sarahgreyandtall and Silverstrandsofglitter who might give you another perspective.

I'm mid 50s with mid/dark brown hair. Back is probably 1% grey and the front is probably 5-10% but concentrated in a few areas and sprinkled throughout my hairline. My hair is wavy/curly and the grey makes it look frizzier and scruffy.

I've been tinting the grey hairs with Daniel Field Watercolour in a dark blonde colour. It covers the grey without lifting my natural colour or turning it gingery. The grey hairs are now honey coloured and I couldn't be happier.

So? Is there something wrong with looking your age? Ageing happens to us all and I’m sick of flak people (usually women) get for having the audacity to get older 🙄

I think it makes you look older than your age. Just my opinion.

If you're 30s or 40s but prematurely grey for example, you can look a lot older than you actually are because grey hair is associated with old age. If you're happy with that then fair play to you.

I'm reading through all the comments and keep changing my mind. My finger hovering buying a box dye but I'm also looking at Instagram pages of silver hair ladies 🤦🏻‍♀️

I stopped colouring my dark hair when I was 61 as I couldn’t keep up with the roots (visible every 2 weeks, even when I had highlights). I started the transition with a full head of highlights and cutting to a short bob (and I hated the highlights, I’m so not a blonde). Then I just left the colour to come through. Two years later and it’s back to below shoulder length and it’s quite a bright silver. I don’t love it, but I can live with it, and I do love the freedom of it. It feels quite subversive and rebellious which I kind of like. I find I need more make up now though, because of the lack of contrast.

Agree. You look great.

Still no one can say why looking older is a bad thing. They can't, or won't, admit that they see older people as irrelevant and useless.

OP if you are hesitating just try a semi-permanent colour that will wash away after a few weeks and then reassess whether you felt better with colour in your hair or if you want to go back to natural grey hair :).

Silverkat on Insta looks gorgeous and chic.

I am still dying and am not even vaguelly ready to consider going grey. BUT, I think as I get older I will have to get a bit more creative. I'm 48 and my quite dark hair with hints of red is very obviously dyed I think - not becuase it's bad but just because hair that glossy, shiney etc isn't natural! but I think it looks good and I'm happy with it. But as I get older, I plan to make it lighter and tone it down a lot.

In your case, I'd be inclined not to use a box dye but to get some professional advice on highlights and toners to give it more of a dark blond option. Also, box dying on completely undyed hair that's grey can be quite difficult to get the colour right and will also fade very quickly the first time so I would recommend professional advice.