Lesbian mother of the bride outfit.

[Brunosmumsy]

Hey all.
I came out 5 years ago and since then have been slowly finding a style that I feel is authentically me. Historically I was the boss's wife, wearing clothes that were expected of me, that I never felt comfortable in.
My dd is getting married next year, the grooms mum has already started posting huge hats, big dresses, in our wedding planning group. My dd has said you'll wear a fascinator though ( to me ) but eek. It's just not me.
My style is more Cate Blanchet, stylish suits, soft shirts, heels.
I have no idea where to look to find what I have in my mind.
Wedding is monochrome but guests can wear any colour.
I've never been a mother of the bride before. Help.

Lesbian style absolutely exists and is a totally relevant and stylish reference. Don’t let (straight!?) busy bodies tell you what is or isn’t relevant to YOUR style and identity!

Cate Blanchett in a soft ivory suit is what came to mind for me, how elegant.

There are two Australian brands who make great suiting for MOB Carla Zampatti and Bianca Spender - a mother daughter pair! Don’t know how easy to access in UK but worth a look.

Sorry Op I don’t mean to be harsh, but it’s not so much about what you like as about doing what makes your daughter happy on her one and only big day. If she really wants you to wear a facinator then you should. There are lots of fabulous minimalistic small style hat ones about. You can always buy one and remove whatever trims you feel might make it look more stylish. The point is to wear one and make the day all about her. I would. It’s really not that big a deal. Little things really matter to brides though. It’s a stressful if wonderful time for her. Your soft suit and soft shirt idea is gorgeous. I can imagine it being beautifully set off with a very small stylish hat.

Omg some of those colours and styles are just gorgeous.

I disagree with PP and don't think anybody should wear a fascinator if they really don't want to. The OP's daughter should understand that and not try to push her mother into something she wouldn't feel comfortable with. So long as the OP looks decent and everyone has a nice time, it really shouldn't matter if she's in a fascinator or not and any bride that insisted on it is being silly imvho.

I couldn't wear a fascinator. Would a headband work? I wore one to my godson's wedding in the summer as I'm not a hat person. Plenty on Etsy & mother of the groom was also wearing one that day.

www.marksandspencer.com/velvet-tailored-single-breasted-blazer/p/clp60689947?color=BLUE&extid=ps_ps-pla-pmax_ggl_ww_ch__-UK-_-_bau_smec_counterfactual&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD7g6bTCN6E2x2ZKxLItHcunjy6mK&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI2umf6YX6iAMVpJJQBh3_yyYkEAQYASABEgI68vD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Agree. Absolutely do not wear anything that you don't want to wear. Surefire way to look shit.

Who's the Duchess of Cambridge?

Reiss have a gorgeous velvet suit in burgundy (colour of the season) which would be perfect and it’s quite well styled on the website showing how you could wear the pieces separately as well.

What a great idea! This is lovely!

Hi Op sorry I don't have any style suggestions but I just wanted to say I hope you find something you feel fab in and have a fabulous time at the wedding! X

I might be a bit late to the party here but I saw I gorgeous teal velvet trouser suit on Reiss

www.reiss.com/style/su389058/e84214