Lesbian mother of the bride outfit.

[Brunosmumsy]

Hey all.
I came out 5 years ago and since then have been slowly finding a style that I feel is authentically me. Historically I was the boss's wife, wearing clothes that were expected of me, that I never felt comfortable in.
My dd is getting married next year, the grooms mum has already started posting huge hats, big dresses, in our wedding planning group. My dd has said you'll wear a fascinator though ( to me ) but eek. It's just not me.
My style is more Cate Blanchet, stylish suits, soft shirts, heels.
I have no idea where to look to find what I have in my mind.
Wedding is monochrome but guests can wear any colour.
I've never been a mother of the bride before. Help.

This is heartwarming.

Fascinators are not fascinating and look ridiculous.

Gosh, so many awesome replies. Thank you so, so much to everyone. This has really, really helped.

Reiss have a lovely teal velvet suit in at the moment , pair it with a. Cream silk cami and perhaps some sort of peacock feather hairclip

I want that teal suit. It's stunning 😍

My mum wore a suit to my wedding and she isn't even a lesbian haha. No fascinator either, she just doesn't like them. She looked great and not out of place at all. The suit was a sort of shimmery silver.

@Brunosmumsy my friend's grandmother went to a wedding. Asked if she wore a hat, her reply (in all innocence) was "No dear, I had one of those fornicators."

I've been trying really hard not to buy this from La Redoute

They've also got this one, also cotton velvet.

You could go for a cloche, fedora, or a scarf tied round your head.

Love this 😂
A Malapropism.

Wow thats gorgeous ....and the range of colours - love the fig and dark sapphire.

Also check out The Deck. I think you’d be about £2k or so depending on fabric. My first thought was the amazing Veronica Beard suit but someone beat me to it! I think you should wear something you’re comfortable in but also be mindful of the style of wedding. If it’s super formal/black tie then I don’t think some of the more casual/cropped suits would be “enough”.

Fascinations are naff and vulgar. Wear a fedora if you must wear a hat, or just don’t wear a hat. Get a good hair cut and blow out before the event.

Two suggestions to wear a scarf around her head?! Is this a thing other than for pirates??

The Deck has now rebranded itself as Knatchbull - both suggested uptrend.

This looks incredible from Susannah:
https://www.suzannah.com/products/brooklyn-trousers-plum-velvet

Serena Bute also worth a look I think, though a little more out there in terms of colour.

If you can afford it why not! You can get exactly what you want, maybe inspired by something on here but with a unique twist. No one else will ever have the same.
Enjoy the wedding. And please don’t wear a fascinator, they’re bloody hideous.

The jacket part of the M&S teal trouser suit is now sold out in every size.
40 sold in the last 48hours and 38 people looking at it right now, apparently.

The power of Mumsnet!

Would this do? Lighter end of monochrome might be more befitting for a happy sunny mother of the bride, of course, with a serious Blanchet edge!

https://www.sezane.com/us/product/michele-jacket/mottled-ecru#size-0

Or this: https://www.jigsaw-online.com/products/belted-tuxedo-jacket-pink-1?variant=44307481723046&currency=GBP&gadsource=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD4Q9mQlJPE09hXJmkbKwRe1GYBxk&gclid=CjwKCAjwgfm3BhBeEiwAFfxrGxBiAOLWPFnhnD6GzMKOJfvoiRtCnF8fLgrKfAboY4S7FAeG18jkfhoC0rwQAvDD_BwE

Purely on the basis that you are MOB, I would view this as a "because I love you" moment. So wear whatever she likes you in, suck it up and then look at the photos later and think "wow, I looked terrible in that!" Had to do it for my baby sister, I looked ten types of twat in the suit/hat combo she put me in! So obviously I dont have any photos of me in said outfit!

Its one of those moments in parenting. Like sitting next to the ex you would cheerfully stab in the face at their graduation (that may just be me!).

How about this? You could team it up with a bright shirt or blouse.
www.reiss.com/style/su389058/e84214#e84214

Have a look at some of these jumpsuits, stylish, elegant and very Blanchett 😍

https://www.phase-eight.com/clothing/occasion-jumpsuits/www.coastfashion.com/search?text=occasion%20jumpsuits

It was fine, you’re telling us about yourself and your style, which sounds fabulous.

No suggestions other than stick to your guns and style! Fascinators are anything but. One woman wore one to my son's wedding. Just one. That was my sister. And she looked uncomfortable wearing it. Everyone else was bare headed.
You'll look ace in a luxe trouser suit and a giant smile.

I hope your DD comes round to gentle persuasion. Obv not worth falling out over!

Maybe a bit too bold, but I really like this designer (Clare Balding wears some of this). There are some beautiful jackets here.

https://beatricevontresckow.com/collections/jackets

@Brunosmumsy you could also look at Shibumi who make fabulous silk jackets, trousers, coats etc. They offer a made to measure service and have loads of photos on their website of customers wearing their designs. Not everybody is 6’ and size 8 so much more realistic impression of what their designs are like!