Is this ok to get married in?

[thisdress1234]

What do you think of this dress?

www.hobbs.com/product/scarlett-embroidered-dress/0223-5830-9045L00-NAVY-YELLOW.html

Eloping so just two witnesses in a registry office. I'm 36 and size 10 and same skin shade as the model. I'm not a girly girl so pretty clueless however I have worn navy dresses in the past so know they suit me. Don't want anything too fancy but I do like this.

Also it's on November so thought about a jacket like this?

www.hobbs.com/product/elize-textured-jacket/0123-4505-9045L00-MIDNIGHT-NAVY.html

What do you think? Or any other suggestions for a jacket maybe cheaper 😀 and shoes like the model has on seem ok.

Thanks if you have any thoughts.

It’s true that getting married might be a prompt to buy the trouser suit of one’s dreams, or the most perfect jeans ever, or whatever.

I love hearing stories of people who’ve seen an out of this world non-bridal outfit that they long for, and then having their beloved insist they buy it to get married in. That might be the OP’s dress, or a red velvet frock coat, or vintage Jean Paul Gaultier dungarees …

Are you off to Gretna Green ?

Yup! EXACTLY THIS!!

That’s a gorgeous dress OP. Gives me Audrey Hepburn vibes 👌. Go for it!

Many congratulations for your special day.

I think you should wear what you like and will be comfortable in.
Someone always recommends a pashmina/shawl. No idea, who wants to be hoiking that up all day? Either get a little jacket or don't. But a pashmina is the worst of both worlds.

Well, yes - I agree.

That said, the dress is fine, if that's what you love. If you feel confident and great in it, then it's perfect for you.

But no to pashminas, always. Flappy, annoying, pointless. They never 'dress up an outfit' or 'look elegant.' They just look like an irritating indecision of fabric.

You have chosen a lovely dress and jacket. I got married in a linen dress from Marks - great summer dress that I will wear again. I felt fabulous in it. Wear what you want and feel great in and if your OH likes it too - all the better. A girlfriend kept saying that I "must" have a bouquet and a fascinator and this and that. Nonsense - I looked and felt great wearing what I wanted; not what people thought I ought to wear. Have a great day.

Maybe they are trotted out on every wedding thread because they make loads of nice clothes that are suitable for weddings. It might seem boring for s&b regulars but for the individual poster I'm sure the advice is rather helpful.

Dress is fabulous! Why don't you wear it with a gorgeous ivory pashmina?

@thisdress1234 sorry now to go against the gang - I'm not sure what age you are - that dress and the jacket to me would be for an older person so if you're nearer to 50's maybe? sorry if you're younger - just my opinion - i'm sure you'll look fantastic. If you're not a girly girl don't forget you can always go with a suit x

@Jaxhog

pashminas are soooooo old fashioned!

did you not see in the first post that OP is only in her thirties?

It's fabulous. I have a Hobbs dress which feels fantastic. Enjoy your day!

Be careful if buying from Day Dress. They won't refund sale items - a breach of UK law for online goods, incidentally.

I think whichever dress I'm just gonna get a dress and suck up the cold as someone said when I've finally got a day off I'm gonna go through the links. Thanks again for the input!

thisdress1234

The dress you linked in your first post is absolutely beautiful, and appropriate to be married in. And as you know your colouring works with navy, it should look great on you.

(Pairing it with a jacket sounds good, but I'll leave suggestions on that to others.)

OP, If I were you I wouldn't bother with a jacket. You had included an element of budget for a jacket but you'd get a better dress if you just applied the whole budget to the dress.

In my opinion jackets rarely look good over dresses in a formal/ dressed up situation. The dress should be the main attraction - jackets detract from it and/or you end up with a "mother of the bride/ groom vibe"

I wear dresses all the time - jacket, coats and cardigans are just something to be worn to get to wherever I'm going and then discarded. In an informal situation I might keep a cardigan on if it's cold or at work keep a jacket or cardigan on if it's cold. I'd never wear a jacket over a dress at anything formal.

I'm younger than you and I would wear that dress. My ideal elopment dress is Ghost.

I don't like the dress but seems good quality so why not if you like and is your style?

I took my 11 month old for one of her nursery settling in days. She had the snack- chopped pieces of fruit. The grapes were cut in half lengthways, but not chopped into quarters. I’m feeling anxious about her going to nursery and not having the grapes quartered. The pieces of orange were also bigger than I would have cut for her myself. I’m really anxious. Do you think it’s ok for me to gently speak to the staff and ask that she has either no grapes or quartered grapes. I’m stressed about speaking to the staff and looking overly protective.

I don't like the OP's dress, but she has already said she is not a girly girl. Why are people suggesting huge floral pouffy dresses for her? They may be trendy, but I am not a girly girl either and would never wear it.

If you're open to ideas and don't mind going to a shop rather than ordering online you could try booking a stylist at John Lewis? Explain your event and what you're looking for and they should be able to give you some suggestions and guidance to fit your budget.
I appreciate what you're saying about not liking people looking at you/being centre of attention, but think about it from the angle of you want to feel special as it's a (hopefully) once in a lifetime special day.

In what sector does it NOT?
Unless your job allows only uniforms and/or business suits. It's cut, material and colour that makes a dress 'professional.'

This particular dress has embroidery of the, shall we say, ageing variety. Professional cut and materials (with round necklines and I'm guessing that's not shiny/leather clubbing or see through fabric). Skirt below the knee and it's not too figure hugging. Dark colours. The embroidery while ivory is muted rather than popping. It's not sequins.

Well the dress is a girly style and it's covered in embroidered flowers. It's a pretty dress but that's about it. The OP has a budget of around £350, to include a jacket, which she's not even that keen on. If she ditched the idea of a jacket £350 could get a dress ( a non girly one) with a lot more oomph than this one.

I'm not sure what the OP was asking. If it was just "can I wear this to get married?" then of course the answer is "yes, wear whatever you want".

If the question was actually "I've got £350 to spend on a fantastic dress- can you give me some suggestions"

The "suitable dress for getting married" bit isn't relevant. Personally I think other than for those who actually want a white wedding dress no dress should be categorised as "wedding guest" or "mother of the bride/groom"

I’d say no to it being a wedding dress - nice enough but quite aging considering you are so young.

If you want a dress you will wear again but is still pretty try Nobody’s Child maybe?