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Is this ok to get married in?

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thisdress1234 · 18/08/2023 19:19

What do you think of this dress?

www.hobbs.com/product/scarlett-embroidered-dress/0223-5830-9045L00-NAVY-YELLOW.html

Eloping so just two witnesses in a registry office. I'm 36 and size 10 and same skin shade as the model. I'm not a girly girl so pretty clueless however I have worn navy dresses in the past so know they suit me. Don't want anything too fancy but I do like this.

Also it's on November so thought about a jacket like this?

www.hobbs.com/product/elize-textured-jacket/0123-4505-9045L00-MIDNIGHT-NAVY.html

What do you think? Or any other suggestions for a jacket maybe cheaper 😀 and shoes like the model has on seem ok.

Thanks if you have any thoughts.

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HikingforScenery · 19/08/2023 10:50

OneMoreCookieMonster · 18/08/2023 20:54

Sorry but I hate it. You're only 36 and getting married not going to a conference. It has absolutely no personality to it, the shape is blah especially if you're a size 10. Add the jacket and god forbid tights and it's aged you at least 10 years.

Hopefully ypu will have hair and makes up done professionally.

Because, your eloping it should be more magical and special that you're not tied to or expected to conform to tradition. It's about you and your soon to be, make a perfect memory!

If you some styling advice or tips please feel free to pm. I'm on mat leave and bored. (It's the work I do) depending where ypu live and getting married I can also point you in the direction of some professionals to help.

I agree with this, I’m afraid, but if you love it, then sure.

TetrapanaxRex · 19/08/2023 10:52

I think it would look better on an older person than a younger person.

It's a bit mother of the bride to me.

HikingforScenery · 19/08/2023 10:53

thisdress1234 · 19/08/2023 06:37

I also get what you mean about maybe needing something more wow but I'm not sure that's me hence the eloping. I hate people looking at me. Blush

Sorry just seen this comment.

Wear what makes you comfortable and as you really like it, go for it and enjoy your day!

Scaredycatttt · 19/08/2023 11:31

I really, really like it! I think it's perfect. But then I am also 36, hate fuss and am planning to elope with just the witnesses...so we are probably quite similar. I was wondering what to wear....ill probably just go in my jeans to be honest. Maybe a new pair of jeans if I'm feeling fancy 😂

weemouse · 19/08/2023 11:33

Lovely dress, ditch the jacket.

Get a fluffy or furry bolero it will look far nicer for November.

weemouse · 19/08/2023 11:34

"This is lovely - just because you are eloping doesn't mean you can't wear a wedding dress."

www.monsoon.co.uk/zoey-floral-cape-bridal-dress-1499904612.html

This is stunning 🤩

Delia123 · 19/08/2023 11:36

VerbenaGirl · 19/08/2023 09:25

The dress is great. How about a little fur shrug to go over it?

Fur? 😡

crazeekat · 19/08/2023 11:38

i'm sorry op, i think u will look back on that and go how boring!
ur a young girl, i honestly think this is soo frumpy even for a guest let alone the bride.
it doesn't sound like you even love it that much.
hold out and find something that u adore.
and price is way ott for that too. sorry hun

crazeekat · 19/08/2023 11:47

VerbenaGirl · 19/08/2023 09:25

The dress is great. How about a little fur shrug to go over it?

seriously hope u mean a fake one

ParisDispatches · 19/08/2023 12:09

Sorry OP but I don't like that dress at all & especially not for a wedding dress. I get what you're saying about not liking 'all eyes' on you but since you're eloping the only eyes on you are the only ones that count - your dh!

Surely you want to look and feel as beautiful as you can? I think in your 30s size 10 you can do a LOT better!

No to those little mother of the bride jackets too and def not a cardigan over that dress!

For a winter wedding if I were eloping I'd pick a beautiful dress & coat & stunning shoes

AlwaysGinPlease · 19/08/2023 12:26

weemouse · 19/08/2023 11:34

"This is lovely - just because you are eloping doesn't mean you can't wear a wedding dress."

www.monsoon.co.uk/zoey-floral-cape-bridal-dress-1499904612.html

This is stunning 🤩

Love that dress!

Seriously OP you need to LOVE your dress or you'll look back with regret. No matter how simple the wedding is.

Moanycowbag · 19/08/2023 12:27

Dora26 · 18/08/2023 19:42

Not a cardigan for a wedding! Dress is lovely - keep looking for nice jacket

Why not? I wore a cardi to get married in, it was a casual affair and fluffy cream cardi was the perfect thing for me.

TetrapanaxRex · 19/08/2023 12:38

The monsoon dress is lovely.

Moanycowbag · 19/08/2023 12:41

AlwaysGinPlease · 19/08/2023 12:26

Love that dress!

Seriously OP you need to LOVE your dress or you'll look back with regret. No matter how simple the wedding is.

I would disagree, I wore a very plain navy linen dress to get married in, quiet do in registry office with only very close family, I cared. not a jot about what I wore, I was still debating jeans on the morning, as the wedding meant very little to me, but the marriage meant everything, and I didn't want a big circus as hate being centre of attention, so quick and quiet was the order of the day.

OP if you like the dress and feel good in it that is all that matters.

BlibBlabBlob · 19/08/2023 12:41

@thisdress1234 as others have said, honestly the ONLY thing that matters is that you like it and feel comfortable (in every sense of the word!) in it and that, when wearing it, you will still feel like 'you'.

I'm autistic too and got married in my early 30s. We had a really really small Register Office wedding - I wanted to elope but DH wanted his parents there, so we had to invite mine, so it became a 10-guest thing with a pub lunch afterwards. I was persuaded into a wedding-type dress, the £100 off the rack ones they used to sell at Debenhams and BHS by others who thought I should look 'correct' for my wedding. I was uncomfortable all day, both from a sensory point of view and because I felt like I was dressing up as somebody I wasn't. I didn't even know I was autistic back then but it still felt wrong.

Many years later I'm fully unmasked and 'out' as an autistic woman. My style now is very specific and I wear a variation of the same thing most days which is very 'me' and very comfortable! If I were to marry again now I'd be in something very comfy with a loud print and trainers/Docs on my feet. No make up. Just ME. I'd buy something new but something I would also wear every day afterwards, and that would make it special.

But of course the most special thing of all is getting to be married to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Wanting to BE married is the best start to a successful lifelong partnership. Wanting to GET married (big princess dress, 200 guests, etc etc) feels like a red flag to me although I know many will disagree and come onto the thread to tell me about their Princess Wedding and how they're still married 30 years later!

So you're already doing brilliantly by recognising what you really want and choosing to elope. It really doesn't matter what you wear as long as YOU love it and feel great in it. I honestly recommend dropping any ideas about what a bride SHOULD wear, even for a Register Office elopement-style wedding. In any wedding photos, the smile on your face having just married the love of your life will be what makes those photos into treasured possessions. It's not about your outfit.

Wishing you all the best for a long and happy marriage!

BlibBlabBlob · 19/08/2023 12:42

PS I've just realised my post perhaps suggested that I might actually be considering marrying again at some point - I'm not, I'm still happily married to DH after our tiny wedding 15 years ago!

BlackJumpsuit · 19/08/2023 12:43

I really like the jacket actually 🤷🏻‍♀️
It's unfussy and will let the dress shine.
Maybe try them on together?

VerbenaGirl · 19/08/2023 12:43

crazeekat · 19/08/2023 11:47

seriously hope u mean a fake one

Oh my goodness! Yes TOTALLY a faux fur shrug.

VerbenaGirl · 19/08/2023 12:45

Delia123 · 19/08/2023 11:36

Fur? 😡

No no no! Faux fur! Totally faux. Would never even consider real fur.

BelovedLucy · 19/08/2023 12:47

Well, I'm a decade older than you and I'd wear that outfit to work. I think you could find something much nicer for your budget, especially as you are so young and slim.

(That said, you should wear what you like- but it doesn't sound as if you particularly like it.)

TiaraBoo · 19/08/2023 13:05

I like the dress. What will make it ‘wow’ and ‘weddingy’ will be your beaming smile as you get married in what you want to wear in the wedding you planned ❤️😊

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 19/08/2023 13:28

Just because you are eloping doesn’t mean you can’t have a more bridal dress. This looks like something you could go to work in. You’ll regret getting married in this when you’re older.

DomPom47 · 19/08/2023 13:45

Would you consider something like this
https://www.lilysilk.com/uk/lilysilk-x-natasha-draped-silk-midi-dress.html#color=1894
it comes in two other colours perfect for November and as it is silk would feel lovely to wear.
It is a website I have used before, saved up as a treat and bought a few pieces for my self. Would highly recommend them for their quality.
Ultimately, whatever you decide to wear I hope that you are comfortable and very happy 💐

LILYSILK X NATASHA Draped Silk Midi-Dress

22MM soft and shiny mulberry silk Slim fit Midi length Asymmetric cut: slit on the side A softly structured silhouette Special occasions Designed by Natasha Gibson

https://www.lilysilk.com/uk/lilysilk-x-natasha-draped-silk-midi-dress.html#color=1894

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 19/08/2023 13:50

Beautiful dress!!