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Is this ok to get married in?

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thisdress1234 · 18/08/2023 19:19

What do you think of this dress?

www.hobbs.com/product/scarlett-embroidered-dress/0223-5830-9045L00-NAVY-YELLOW.html

Eloping so just two witnesses in a registry office. I'm 36 and size 10 and same skin shade as the model. I'm not a girly girl so pretty clueless however I have worn navy dresses in the past so know they suit me. Don't want anything too fancy but I do like this.

Also it's on November so thought about a jacket like this?

www.hobbs.com/product/elize-textured-jacket/0123-4505-9045L00-MIDNIGHT-NAVY.html

What do you think? Or any other suggestions for a jacket maybe cheaper 😀 and shoes like the model has on seem ok.

Thanks if you have any thoughts.

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NatashaDancing · 19/08/2023 14:31

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 19/08/2023 13:28

Just because you are eloping doesn’t mean you can’t have a more bridal dress. This looks like something you could go to work in. You’ll regret getting married in this when you’re older.

Not everyone wants a "bridal dress"

NatashaDancing · 19/08/2023 14:33

weemouse · 19/08/2023 11:34

"This is lovely - just because you are eloping doesn't mean you can't wear a wedding dress."

www.monsoon.co.uk/zoey-floral-cape-bridal-dress-1499904612.html

This is stunning 🤩

Why are posters obsessed with bridal dresses? Not everyone wants a white dress.

MilkofMagnesia · 19/08/2023 14:37

I think it’s a lovely dress but would wear a pashmina, are you having a small bouquet at all hand tying some is really simple, have a look on you tube x

BungleandGeorge · 19/08/2023 14:48

I think it’s very pretty and a good choice for a small registry office wedding. Personally I don’t think it’s a work dress with the embroidered floral design, it’s occasion wear. I think the jacket would be ok but I don’t love them together as it’s a bit too formal maybe? I agree with others a good quality coat in a pale (or maybe bright colour) would look good with it.

Elapopo · 19/08/2023 14:48

I totally agree with PP saying just wear what you like and are comfortable in, don’t worry about what you ‘should’ be doing. I had a registry office with two witnesses wedding, and one of the big advantages of this is that you don’t have to worry about everyone else’s opinions! So if you want to dress up and wear a massive dress, you can, but equally if you want to wear jeans literally no one is there to judge you. 😊 I did buy a new dress for mine, but it was one I still wear all the time - not a wedding specific dress or particularly posher than my usual style. We had a lovely day.

BungleandGeorge · 19/08/2023 14:52

NatashaDancing · 19/08/2023 14:33

Why are posters obsessed with bridal dresses? Not everyone wants a white dress.

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Exactly, I’m sure OP would have thought to look at bridal ranges if that’s what she wanted! People complaining OP’s choice is boring but it’s actually a bit different to the norm as the vast majority choose a variation of long white frock (which doesn’t always suit a registry office vibe)!

ididntwanttodoit · 19/08/2023 15:42

I think if you like it, then go for it - your wedding, your dress.

PlumPeony · 19/08/2023 15:56

Looks great if it's one that you like, and can wear afterwards - very sustainable. The whole point of eloping is that you don't have to have the whole "bridal" thing going on I thought!

I would probably wear a dress with a blazer, but I like blazers (my fav is Whistles slim jersey jackets)

Moanycowbag · 19/08/2023 15:59

BlibBlabBlob · 19/08/2023 12:41

@thisdress1234 as others have said, honestly the ONLY thing that matters is that you like it and feel comfortable (in every sense of the word!) in it and that, when wearing it, you will still feel like 'you'.

I'm autistic too and got married in my early 30s. We had a really really small Register Office wedding - I wanted to elope but DH wanted his parents there, so we had to invite mine, so it became a 10-guest thing with a pub lunch afterwards. I was persuaded into a wedding-type dress, the £100 off the rack ones they used to sell at Debenhams and BHS by others who thought I should look 'correct' for my wedding. I was uncomfortable all day, both from a sensory point of view and because I felt like I was dressing up as somebody I wasn't. I didn't even know I was autistic back then but it still felt wrong.

Many years later I'm fully unmasked and 'out' as an autistic woman. My style now is very specific and I wear a variation of the same thing most days which is very 'me' and very comfortable! If I were to marry again now I'd be in something very comfy with a loud print and trainers/Docs on my feet. No make up. Just ME. I'd buy something new but something I would also wear every day afterwards, and that would make it special.

But of course the most special thing of all is getting to be married to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Wanting to BE married is the best start to a successful lifelong partnership. Wanting to GET married (big princess dress, 200 guests, etc etc) feels like a red flag to me although I know many will disagree and come onto the thread to tell me about their Princess Wedding and how they're still married 30 years later!

So you're already doing brilliantly by recognising what you really want and choosing to elope. It really doesn't matter what you wear as long as YOU love it and feel great in it. I honestly recommend dropping any ideas about what a bride SHOULD wear, even for a Register Office elopement-style wedding. In any wedding photos, the smile on your face having just married the love of your life will be what makes those photos into treasured possessions. It's not about your outfit.

Wishing you all the best for a long and happy marriage!

So very well said.

Mummyofbananas · 19/08/2023 16:42

unicornsandchocolate · 18/08/2023 22:08

I like the dress, and agree with pp that Hobbs clothes tend to fit well. I think if I were eloping I would wear something like this; sleeves, so no need for a jacket, and Ghost clothes also fall really nicely....www.ghost.co.uk/madison-dress15-d05g001-k10

this is stunning and this one that had been shared too Jolie Moi Rachelle Wrap Neckline Maxi Dress, Navy at John Lewis & Partners

think these look younger and a bit more special for a wedding

WinterDeWinter · 19/08/2023 17:07

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 18/08/2023 21:31

That IS beautiful - just a little bit more memorable/elegant OP, and obviates the need for a jacket?

CapaciousHag · 19/08/2023 17:41

I hate to be mean, but I do sometimes wonder if some posters are aware that John Lewis is not the only source of clothing in this country.

(Or even that it’s possible to order clothes from outside the UK …)

Ebidebslim · 19/08/2023 18:02

Congratulations I am sure you will have a lovely day - have a look at the Bombshell website - here is an example that may suit what you are looking for.

Is this ok to get married in?
KathrynWheel · 19/08/2023 18:17

How about a little jacket like this?
P.S Have a wonderful Wedding Day.

Is this ok to get married in?
NatashaDancing · 19/08/2023 18:22

WinterDeWinter · 19/08/2023 17:07

That IS beautiful - just a little bit more memorable/elegant OP, and obviates the need for a jacket?

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That navy dress in the John Lewis link is so dull one wonders why anyone bothered making it.

panko · 19/08/2023 18:24

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 18/08/2023 21:31

AWFUL! like a Kate Middleton rip off. So dated.

NatashaDancing · 19/08/2023 18:35

panko · 19/08/2023 18:24

AWFUL! like a Kate Middleton rip off. So dated.

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It's not being "dated" that's the problem ("dated" is generally as useless a descriptor as "frumpy")

It's the copying, in nylon, of a dress which would be fine if made of silk, or very fine wool or wool crepe and consequently would cost at least 5x's the price. It's the faux glamour which is the problem.

I'm not saying only expensive dresses can look good. There was a navy Boo Hoo dress around for a while which reminded me of the fantastic dress Elizabeth Murdoch wore to her father's wedding to Jerry Hall which I liked a lot but the Boo Hoo dress somehow managed to be a great looking dress in its own right, not a cheap copy of a more expensive dress.

panko · 19/08/2023 18:43

NatashaDancing · 19/08/2023 18:35

It's not being "dated" that's the problem ("dated" is generally as useless a descriptor as "frumpy")

It's the copying, in nylon, of a dress which would be fine if made of silk, or very fine wool or wool crepe and consequently would cost at least 5x's the price. It's the faux glamour which is the problem.

I'm not saying only expensive dresses can look good. There was a navy Boo Hoo dress around for a while which reminded me of the fantastic dress Elizabeth Murdoch wore to her father's wedding to Jerry Hall which I liked a lot but the Boo Hoo dress somehow managed to be a great looking dress in its own right, not a cheap copy of a more expensive dress.

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I think its dated. It was fashionable when Kate Middleton got engaged

Daisyhillsareblooming · 19/08/2023 18:52

Aww, dress is nice but very average . I would look for something more bridal for your special day .

theclockticksslowly · 19/08/2023 19:16

TiaraBoo · 19/08/2023 13:05

I like the dress. What will make it ‘wow’ and ‘weddingy’ will be your beaming smile as you get married in what you want to wear in the wedding you planned ❤️😊

Absolutely this! If this is the dress you like and feel most comfortable in it then it is the one for you. (Speaking as someone who is not a usual wedding dress type person but felt pressured to conform and consequently felt very self conscious on the day)

as for what to wear with it I think I’d go for either a white/ivory thick pashmina (if not having to be outdoors too long) or I also like the idea of a long coat. Although I think the pashmina might be more of a nod towards wedding-like and show off the dress a little more and let the skirt move a bit more as you walk.

fifteenfifty · 19/08/2023 19:21

I think it's lovely. You should absolutely wear it, and be glad you've found something that feels right for you.

Jodiewa · 19/08/2023 20:07

Yes you will look gorgeous. Congratulations x