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Do you think you are attractive?

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noddyholder · 16/09/2007 13:48

I ahev just moved and met the only neighbour i think who isn't about 100!She is about 35 boden-y with kids and seemsnice but we were chatting about annie lennox as she had a paper with her picture on it and she was saying how it is harder for women who are attractive to accept aging and she was dreading it as she had spent her life getting what she wanted because of her looks!I was speechless for once and said little back but i would never say that although I am not what I was at 42 I was ok in my youth but it just shocked me So come on do you think you're gorge and has it helped or hindered you?

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Dropdeadfred · 17/09/2007 21:31

Twinset...your family and friends sound like ugly people to me,,where it counts - the inside!

twinsetandpearls · 17/09/2007 21:31

But the fact that so many people have told me it means that there is one constant factor here - my looks - this has happened to me all my life so their must be some truth in it.

Dropdeadfred · 17/09/2007 21:32

at twinsets family!

ShinyHappySchmooo · 17/09/2007 21:33

Twinset... ex husband's SAY that kind of shit to hurt us.. and make it stay with us.. mine did too, I promise you.. and I haven't forgotten even though it was over a decade ago now. And sometimes people in general are right bastards and do the same... but it doesn't mean they are right!!

newlifenewname · 17/09/2007 21:35

twinset,

You cannot be ugly - ugly doesn't exist.

ShinyHappySchmooo · 17/09/2007 21:36

Actually, whilst posting on the er.. (sorry) minge thread (sorry for lowering tone!!).. I remembered what MY delightful ex husband said to me shortly after the birth of our child!

"You looked really ugly when you were pushing him out.. you had about 4 chins!"

I was speechless even though I was used to his silver tongue!

twinsetandpearls · 17/09/2007 21:37

very unnatractive then, it is just semantics

stressteddy · 17/09/2007 21:40

Twinset, you said your dp thinks you are a stunner
THIS is the phrase to remember and dwell on not what others have said in the past
AARRGGHH. I am very angry at how crass and moronic some people can be in this world - shame on your family members who have put this nonsense into your head
x

newlifenewname · 17/09/2007 21:44

at worst you could be not as attractive as a very attractive person surely?

I have a friend who is, in a sense, not attractive, she knows it, I know it but she has lovely hair, lovely eyes and is very, very lovely in many other ways. She has not been lucky on the attractiveness front because she is very, very short and quite large and her teeth aren't good. the combination is not the best I suppose.

One can't deny these facts and yet I and many women and men who know her do NOT consider her unattractive, we just acknowledge the small collection of unattractive bits about her as she will acknowledge my horrid nose and long face.

I don't look at her and think she's ugly, I look at her and think she is beautiful and wonderful and short and fat with funny teeth. I love my friend.

stressteddy · 17/09/2007 21:47

newlife - brill post

LongDeadMotherofHarryP · 17/09/2007 22:17

nangnangnang - thanks - you gave me my laugh of the day. I feel mellow now.

expatinscotland · 17/09/2007 22:19

No.

I know I was very attractive when I was younger, but I think I look dog rough now.

Monkeytrousers · 17/09/2007 23:32

I used to be proper drop dead - and I suppose could be said to be above average for my age, but that caveat is hugely important. Past your prime is past your prime, sadly, in this day and age when the war against aging is backed up by a massive consumer machine that orders you not to go gently into that goodnight!

Pinkchampagne · 17/09/2007 23:35

I can look ok when I make the effort, but other times I can look as rough as a rough thing!

Rosylily · 18/09/2007 09:42

I find all sorts of people beautiful and attractive. When I was drawing from nude models at college on of the most beautiful models was an old woman. The lines and character in her face, her body with all it's folds and wrinkles was inspiring and I loved drawing her and showing how beautiful she was in my drawing.

Now that I'm 40 with four children I'm not tuned in to the whole sexual attractiveness thing anymore. I want to be attractive as a person not a potential sexual partner...it's much more interesting now, I like being this age.

oliveoil · 18/09/2007 10:16

yes

but I have looked far better

anniemac · 18/09/2007 10:55

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lou33 · 18/09/2007 10:56

olive i always pictured you with short hair

FioFio · 18/09/2007 11:00

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oliveoil · 18/09/2007 11:05

no, have had short haircuts twice and regretted them both before I had left the chair

my pics are rubbish on my profile, how can you zoom in?

my beach pic of the girls is really good normally, it looks like two blobs on here

lou33 · 18/09/2007 11:17

dont think you can zoom in

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noddyholder · 18/09/2007 11:19

blimey this is the longest thread i have ever started!Who says looks don't matter!

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Sunshinemummy · 18/09/2007 11:21

I used to be a fox but these days I have big bags under my eyes and a chicken neck. I used to have a really lovely smile but even that's gone weird as I've gotten older and put on weight. I need to wear mascara as well as I have dogs eyes so always look sad (I'm the kind of person that gets 'why are you so miserable' comments in the street when I'm just not smiling - drives me insane.

Bink · 18/09/2007 11:38

In response to OP - very surprisingly open confession by your new neighbour there (I'd be worrieder by her confidingness than by her stance on attractiveness/aging ...)

My MIL was a very very pretty young woman, and mature woman. She does not now think she is attractive (though she is!!) and I believe that loss weighs on her. Not helped by men of her own generation who say things like "You must have been a looker" - can you believe!

I don't really mind what I look like, though I sometimes wish I had a friendlier face (I have small pale eyes and can come across as cold & a bit beady).

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noddyholder · 18/09/2007 11:50

The funny thing is she didn't seem to be confiding at all and was loud enough for teh whole street to hear!Haven't seen her since thank god as I am looking rough atm and permanently knackered

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