I want to dress upper middle class

[ConfusedWife1234]

I actually am upper middle class, live in an upper middle class neighborhood and because of this I would like to dress more upper middle class.

A woman I know told me she thought I was desperately poor first time we met... and I am really not happy with the way I dress.

Can you help me?

Take your very upper class self off then OP, this is all very ridiculous

You didn't get flamed, OP. Unless flamings are very different in upper middle class Germany?

Anyway, wishing you a less angsty 2019.

There is a one trick pony stuck in a rabbit hole.

Class !! Wtf it’s like reading a bad episode of Downtown. Find your style OP what you think suits you, your body shape, colouring etc etc

As I've said before op your money would be better spent on counselling and therapy.

Absolutely Baltic, it’s been said over and over but OP can’t hear us

There are German parenting fora, I used to be member of one of them until not that long ago but I don't think the OP's questions would be answered any better there. It's almost as if she is posting from a parallel universe where there is version of Germany that is similar but not quite like the Germany I know.

Where I come from everyone uses the informal address and first name. My mother, who grew up just 60 km away in the same county, was appalled when she first came to my home village and even little kids where saying "Du, Willie" to my grandfather who was the mayor at the time. There are big differences between the various regions.

The thought of an upper class woman not knowing how to dress to look as if she is from that class is bloody ridiculous imo.

Perhaps having a husband who sneers & looks down his nose at her doesn't help though.

OP, you thought you were being ‘flamed’ back on page one. As was said back at the beginning, it seems you are very fragile with a high anxiety level. So long as you do not address this, you will always feel like you are not accepted. The recommendation of counselling is sound, perhaps the stress of living with and watching a loved one who is struggling with PTSD is affecting your health too?
I hope 2019 is a more positive one for you.

@ConfusedWife1234 having read through most of this thread I don't think you are going to get the answers you are looking for on Mumsnet.

I would guess that most posters are not familiar enough with either the culture that you originate from, or the culture where you are currently living to be able to either empathise fully or to offer appropriate advice.

Do you have any friends where you are living, or at least people you have a friendly enough relationship e.g. Through your work or your DC's friends, maybe you could get into conversation, compliment them in what they are wearing, ask where it's from? Or can you internet search are there any bloggers who dress in the way that people who live near you seem to dress?

WHAT have I just read? And who's Jack Wolfskin when he's at home? Sounds like a guy who would worry the 3 little pigs.

It could be how you hold yourself...
Sorry but it is easy to see someone who tries too hard...
People watch sometime, no phone in hand, head up looking ahead, shoulders back, walking with a firm determined stride, enjoy the rain in your faces as much as the sun shining on you.