This is really embarrassing but could you please tell me which dress you prefer?

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I would never normally do this, being the size of an elephant and everything, but I have a wedding very soon and need to pick a dress. Have had mixed opinions so far so hoping to get more opinions (sorry about the state of my living room as well)

Please try not to laugh at my headless pictures, I've name changed as I post quite a lot and don't want to be outed 

The green I feel more comfortable in as it doesn't cling, is comfy and is my favourite colour. But the high neckline makes my already huge boobs look matronly (I am wearing a new, well fitting bra so it's not the bra making them look saggy but the dress!)

The blue I prefer the neckline but feel the top is too big and the bottom part too small (hate that you can see my tummy as well )

I have ginger hair, blue eyes and as you can see, Casper skin!!

Any tips on how you would style either dress? I have no idea! I can only wear small heels but would prefer flats even though I don't think they would go. The shoes I'm wearing are just to see what the dresses look like with tights and shoes! Oh, and to make it more difficult I need size 9 extra wide fit so not many places I can buy shoes from

Please help me!!

Agree with Shirley . To me, the narrow- minded attitude is the assumption every woman with a large hourglass figure should go for retro fancy dress for any and every smart occasion. Fine for those who really want to, but don’t push everyone to do it.

I vote for the blue dress, btw.

On tights,agree less is more and the fishnets would detract from rather than add to the statement either of those dresses would make. M and S do excellent 5 denier nudes in what I think they call a comfort fit- they’re incredibly comfortable anyway. Far prefer them to Wolford ones I’ve splashed out on for weddings in past.

Blue one is more slimming because of the neckline but the green one is a nice colour and both look lovely you are definitely not elephant like at all!

They are both nice colours, but I think the neckline on the blue dress is way more flattering. If you really like the green, I’d get the neckline altered. If it’s a summer wedding, go for nude tights and bold shoes and accessories.

I don’t wear retro styles because I am not blessed with an hourglass shape. I thought the OP had a downer on herself which is very much removed from the va-va-voom reality.

I put some alternatives forward (and for the record I haven’t ever ‘pushed’ this style before) because it demonstrates there are clothes that celebrate her shape and that you don’t have to blend in. Fine if that is what you are most comfortable doing but sometimes people do so by default as they don’t know about other options.

I think it is unkind to refer to it as fancy-dress as many women do pull it off and look fantastic. Be aware that other women might read the comments made here re ‘costume’ and internalise a message that you should be aiming to hide away or faced being ridiculed as a curvy woman if you choose to explore something new, which is nasty bullshit.

Anyway I have said my bit. Enjoy the wedding OP 🙂

I a d o r e the green dress! I think you look lovely! I am about yr size but possibly a bit taller (?) - I actually am jealous of that dress, that is how much I love it! The blue one looks a teensy big on you at the top ........the green? Fantastic! I agree too with argumentative fem that flats would look fab - you can get great flats plain or decorated. I even saw a lovely pair of black small wedge shoes in (cough) Asda that would go beautifully...............

ONLY my personal opinion but I think those earrings look too old for you? Too conservative? You look like you could pull off more trendy danglies imho. Some folk here may go errrrrr/really (!) but I like those dangly black fringey type earrings you can buy (almost anywhere) if you wear black accessories to the wedding.... espec with lovely red hair to set them off! Only saying......... :-/

The green one definitely looks better and I love the colour, plus with ginger hair green looks so nice. I dye my hair ginger and wear green a lot because I think it goes so well 😂. I prefer the heckling of the green too actually.

Neckline

I like those eating a they're not too big. Get a spray tan and let perfectly cream. I got one (very cheap in the reduced bargain bin in superdrug. Can't remember what kind but it's basically bb cream for legs) it's great covers lots. Nude shoes might look nice too.

I’m sorry, Iwanka if my post was badly phrased at that point but I didn’t mean to imply you personality were ‘pushing’ the retro style on larger hourglass women. it’s just that it always comes up as a suggestion here for people with that figure type, as if it was the perfect answer for them all which it’s not as they are as individual as everyone else.
As a very large hourglass myself, I’d be the last person to suggest large women should either ‘hide away’ - which I’ve never done - or be ridiculed. I want to have the same choices as everyone else, to find something stylish that suits me, as the OP is doing.

Personally, not personality!

Can we see a pic of you at the eventual wedding?
You can blur your face if you'd rather not be identified. But I'd line to see how you end up rocking the outfit!