Haircut disaster. Gutted

[FatBallsAndSunflowerSeeds]

I went in with lots of pictures, told her I wanted a long pixie that I could push over my ears, like Emma Willis. She seemed to understand and even said she would do it a bit longer than my photos as it would feel too short for me otherwise (my hair was past my shoulders).

I've ended up with it cut over my ears which I didn't want, and really short at the back. I hate it so much. I look more like Bruce Willis than Emma. I told her it is too short and she said it had to be short over my ears or it would be too bulky (so why didn't she say so before she cut it?) and I should go back in a few days if I still don't like it. Why? Is she going to glue it back on?

Why do hairdressers do this? I have a thin scarf tied round my head at the moment. Is there anything else I can do to disguise it or make it grow quicker

Dalmatian - the op hasn’t asked for extensions as far as I can see. She hoped he’d offer extensions.

I don't think it will take weeks, I reckon more like 3 months. If you look at the styles I wanted (particularly over the ears and the back) how long do you reckon it will take?

I'm trying to stop covering it up. I answered the door to a workman like that so I'm making some progress. I feel incredibly unfeminine, even though I've never given a shit about looking feminine before. I suppose because I just did

Some women look great with very short hair, I don't.

Sorry, I got the impression she was planning on asking for extensions.

fatballs I know exactly how you feel and get the "unfeminine" thing.
If its any consolation I have some short bits in my fringe I'm not happy with..I have to wait till they grow to optimum length ( about 6 weeks I reckon).
A lot of straightening and wax here.

I moan about my shapeless locks as I’m old and feel like I should have a style, as such. Yet, whenever I think to make an appointment I remember the last time I felt like this and ended up with a pixie which aged me terribly.

So my hair remains shapeless and just...there, really.

You have my sympathies. Now is the time for lipstick and earrings. I know you can make the most of this and look chic!

I know a young woman who’s going through chemo and has ended up getting experimental through necessity. She’s got strong features too. For styling very short or no hair, if you’re not quite feeling it, the tips i’d Take from her are: defined eyes and lips; large stud earrings; a turban (she unexpectedly rocked a turban!); if you can’t quite do a turban then a scarf. You kind of have to embrace it. But hey! An opportunity for some style experimentation, you might find some new keepers.

If it helps, I had a very short cut that I didn’t plan on (used to do demo modelling for local salons). I wasn’t a fan at the time, but looking back at photos it’s actually fine. The drastic change threw me.

You also have my sympathies.

I got my red hair dyed once. Asked for chestnut brown. Got jet black.

I felt like a monster and nothing would get it out. Anyway. From the pictures I've seen neither you nor your hair is horrible but - at least it will grow. I'd go nuclear though at the HD. I've always wondered why they ask you to go back to do something to it esp if it's too short. What are they going to do - glue it back on? I hope you get your dough back.

I really hope they're helpful for you OP when you go in. About 8 years ago I went to a salon for highlights, I was very open with them about having dyed my hair a warmish colour not too long ago and not being sure if it would be possible to get blonde, I was told no problem. ... 5 hours and £160 later I was left with completely orange hair (not ginger, orange!!) I was so ashamed of it I ended up dyeing my hair near black 48 hours later. In the interim I went back to the hairdresser and they said as they'd used the dye and time they weren't prepared to offer me a refund... or to fix it without further payment. Suffice to say I've never been back!

It makes me feel somehow comforted to hear about your bad hair experiences! Thank you for being kind everyone

I've just let DH see my terrible bonce. I had been cleaning the bathroom and was too hot to cover it, and thought sod it. I can't do this for three months. He said it looks nice but he has never said anything negative about any hairstyles or clothes etc I've ever had.

I am paying extra attention to my make up and I am going to start wearing my earrings.

I really feel for you. Having a play around with different types of earrings is a good idea and make up. Maybe something like eyelash extensions might help you to claw back a feeling of femininity.

I think short hair looks amazing with slightly edgy androgynous clothes so it all becomes part of your look. Stuff like long vests, fitted blazers, sleeveless silk shirts, cigarette trousers, chunky necklaces, that sort of thing. It can be a really sexy look. I just think it will take a while for you to find your new short haired style and make it part of your image.
Don't hide away OP!

So my hair is as sort as yours, but unlike you I like it and think it suits me. There are differences though; mine is as long but choppier across the top and front so I spray it with sea salt before I dry it and add wax for texture.

Also, mine is tinted all over with foiled highlights through the front, that makes it coarser and easier to style and breaks it up even more. That's the way to go with the salon owner I think.

Mascara and blusher are your friends with a pixie.

I do sympathise OP, I've had some dire dos in the past but I guarantee the scarves will call more attention to it.

I agree it's not what you asked for, but i don't think it's too bad. I think you could 'unmumsy' it a bit with a nice rich colour and some styling. Smoothing and shaping with straighteners would make a big difference (speaking from someone who has had many a disastrous haircut!)

It's not what you asked for but I genuinely really like your new hair. Please please look on YouTube for tutorials on how to style short hair. I think it can look really very feminine with the right styling/makeup/accessories.
You look lovely.

I think I would actually go and get it done shorter at the back and sides...it's a bit inbetween now which might be why you are a bit meh about it. Then let the longer but just grow over it before your grow the underneath out? (My dd had half her head shaved and is now growing out and this is how we've done it so she looks half decent during the grow out)

I’m amazed this was a prestigious salon as the cut you’ve had is absolutely nothing like what you asked for. If she couldn’t do it she should have said, and it’s absolutely fair for them to do whatever it takes to fix it, even if that does mean extensions.

She had absolutely no right to chop all your hair off against your wishes! It’s almost as if she got distracted and just forgot what she was meant to be doing.

I'd visit the salon ASAP to get them to have a chat with you with a view to offer a refund etc. The longer you leave it, you're weakening your chance of them refunding you as your visit including what you asked for versus what you actually ended up with, will be a bit of a vague memory to them.

Op from the photos it really looks fine. Ok so maybe not what you wanted, but I do think with some styling products and messed up a bit it will look like any other trendy short hair cut.

But- I do understand how you feel. To make you feel better when I was 32 weeks pregnant when I was 23 (many years ago now!) I went for a haircut at a very trendy hair salon and they persuaded me to have it cut short (from near waist length). I was thinking messy layered crop and we agreed that was what we would do. I came out with hair that was literally - and I’m not exaggerating- one inch short all over, the same length all over. It was the worst hair cut I have EVER had. Ever. I wanted to throw my head in a bucket - especial being huge and pregnant and feeling totally unsexy anyway!

I can laugh about it now but at the time I honestly just wanted to die!

Thank you MyKingdom that is how I feel but thought I was being a bit melodramatic. I think she just went into the zone and kept cutting and trying to make my hair less thick! Like when Father Ted tried to knock a tiny dent out of a car but kept going til it was dented all over

I have an appointment Thursday with the salon owner. I'm glad I put my thoughts down- with photos- in my email, as I'm already starting to feel less cross, and I don't want to capitulate and not get a refund. He is well aware how upset it made me.

Oh God Fairy that sounds awful, and the worst possible time for it to happen, when your self image is already under threat! I think that is part of why I find this so hard - I have MS and the increasing disability, using walking aids etc has made me feel unattractive and old anyway.

I remember being in a really low place, suffering from depression and going to hairdressers for a cut to cheer me up.
My goodness, she obviously saw a Nanna, thought oooh Nanna's like having tidy neat Nanna hair, so she gave me tidy neat Nanna hair!
I was heart broken!
Luckily I found an amazing guy who saw "Me"
He has been on a course and said could he try a cut in me.
It was when asymmetrical cuts first came in, so I said yes
I loved it, really short at back and on top with a side ways fringe.
I dyed it white blonde, put some blue dye in the front and went off to that there London to Ronnie Scott's to see Joan Armatrading.
Well, was my hair a hit that weekend!!
I was stopped everywhere I went and asked where my stylist was. Young gay men adored it and we had so much fun
My wife cuts my hair now, gifted amateur, and it's still vaguely that style, I grow the back longer, or have the top short, turn the fringe to the other side, have an undercut.
I hope you can turn your experience round and that it grows quickly for you
The worst thing is everyone else will think you look great but you KNOW that it is all wrong!!

Read your update, oh no, that's even worse.
I always pay more attention to makeup when my hair isn't brilliant
So try that too
Let us know how you get on xx

Exactly like that fatballs!

I don’t think you’re being melodramatic, it’s hard to imagine how strongly something like that can make you feel until it happens to you. It’s not like you weren’t clear in what you wanted - you were absolutely clear. Really hope the meeting goes well on Thursday

Good luck fatballs today!!

Thank you!

The scarves and hats have been returned to their drawers now and I am out and proud with my Bad Hair. Although saying that today will be the first time I've left the house since The Haircut of Doom

PPs were right about product! Roussette that BedHead stuff is great thanks- it really lessens the fluffy frump effect. Here's a picture from yesterday, as you can see my hair has a natural curl which comes out when my hair is shorter. I still hate the back but have made peace with my appearance in the mirror.