False lashes for labour??? Trying to look somewhat normal...

[thetwocultures]

Recently saw a pic of myself in the hospital after having DS and I am

I looked like an absolute mess which I know is partially due to just giving birth but I've seen lots of new mums and pictures of them post birth and they're all somehow managing to look fresh and...not like a beaten up jellyfish.

I'm currently expecting DC2 and looking into ways to look a bit less frightening for those initial days after birth when I won't have time for anything.

I'm going to have my hair trimmed a couple of weeks before, also looking at getting my nails done to feel more put together.

On top of that I'm considering having individual false lashes that last 2-4 weeks (I think?) nothing OTT or massively long just hoping to look more defined but still natural. But I'm worried they're bad for my real eyelashes?

Once they're off/fall off do some of my eyelashes go with them?
I don't want to ruin my own lashes as it would just miss the point of trying to look ok.

You are entirely free to feel your experience was a personal achievement, just as I am entirely free to feel it was not and that it was a biological process. this I agree with. Live and let live. But that wasn't your standpoint from the beginning, or we wouldn't have been debating it. You argued quite doggedly that birth is just a biological experience. I kept asserting it's not that for everyone. Glad we agree at last that each to their own.

I didn't say any of those things delta. The only assumption one can make from your determination to misrepresent the posts of those who disagree with you is that you have nothing sensible to say to counter them.
Either that or you're in one hell of a hurry

Anyone who can read can see you did, your posts are there in black and white. You've been called out; don't try and deny it now.

@IDoDa - I still don't agree it's an achievement in and of itself and my position hasn't changed on this. If people want to consider it a personal achievement of their own, that is up to them.

Sorry OP i havent read the whole thread but can anticipate some argument going on here. Im replying directly to the original post.

Absolutely do it OP, if you feel like it. Just keep the nails short if you want mani!

I have pampered myself to mani and pedi, mask, full wax, new hairstyle, and when my contractions started i was busy applying make up (no eyeliner and mascara though !) while my husband was running around trying to get all out hospital stuff before the journey to the hospital.

i wanted to feel and look like a goddess for MYSELF in a first place, for pictures for our private collection (never post anything on social media), for my husband, for family and for everyone else. Im not ashamed of this. Pregnancy and childbirth is a magical process but i dont like post birth look and appearance so wanted to look at my best.

Some of it isn't about looks though. For me, makeup is my normal. I get up, make a brew and put my makeup on. I would feel as weird not having the brew as I would not putting my makeup on if that makes sense?
We all have different routines and do different things, but even in hospital to make it more normal I did my night routine and my morning routine. It gave me control over the situation, plus I didn't want my skin to go to pot!

What about instead of false eyelashes getting them tinted? Looks like u have mascara on. That and a good eyebrow shape and my eyes look almost ok!

If people want to consider it a personal achievement of their own, that is up to them. if you'd made that clear from the start I wouldn't have bothered debating with you as I'm all for people having their own opinion when they can respect others' differs.

As an aside do all labour suites now have to keep nail polish remover in stock these days in case it is needed

I had a full face of makeup on and false nails and was fake tanned because that's how I normally am and I didn't see why giving birth would change that. Shoot me! That's how I am.
Do what makes you feel good :)

It's not about judgement, it's more about the sadness that this is even deemed necessary. Childbirth is hard work. It makes you look pants. End of. Let's just embrace that fact instead of deny it.

As for telling me I'm on the wrong topic, sorry, this is a public forum. We don't live in a bubble where we only talk to those who have the same opinions as us.

This thread has made me think, but it hasn't changed my view. It just made me realise how far societal pressure has become. If you didn't have pictures taken post labour and if you didn't see other pictures then looking good wouldn't have even crossed your mind.

Oh is going on my list of things that has dragged MN down in recent months.

Thanks for the reminder, I'm trying to compile a list!

Why compile a list? Why not just take a break from mn if you've got to the stage of list making.

Seriously, you've actually been quite rude and aggressive in your language. That, IMO, is the sort of thing that drags this place down. Why can't people have a debate on a thread?

@Believeitornot because I didn't start this thread for a debate!

I came on here asking for advice about false eyelashes, how practical/impractical they are and if they can damage my own eyelashes.

I didn't ask for people's opinions on false eyelashes, nails or makeup I.e. looking after yourself pre labour and I didn't ask anyone to tell me how "oppressed" women are if they make certain choices to do with their appearance.
And appearance has always been influenced by society, if it wasn't and people just did what they wanted without considering society at some level even the way people go about personal hygiene would be dramatically different.

But again this isn't the topic or thread for the "we are so oppressed and pressured by society" drama.

OP good luck with your second baby, it s much easier than your first ! I feel bad for you that looking at the photos of you after your first triggers negative thoughts. I hope this time around it s better.
I d say if you have time to do some maintenance and it makes you feel better then go for it. I love having a nice body moisturiser / oil for skin after it and lots of nice lounging wear for those few weeks after. It s nice to have your hair done. I used thinks like you about after my first baby - the 'ugh I look deathly' until I realised everyone is looking at the baby in the photo not me ! Go figure it s what happens when you have a baby now when I look at those photos all I see are my lovely babies and remember the smell and those snuggles.

I appreciate all of that.

However it sparked a debate amongst posters and it wasn't aimed at you, it became a general debate as the conversation broadened. You can't really dictate how people will respond to a public thread.

Haven't read whole thread. What about an LVL lash lift OP? Can look more natural than false lashes and last longer so you won't have to worry about getting them redone once your baby is born

Believeitornot I agree. The nature of conversation is tangential. People don't just rigidly stick to one train of thought.

'Seriously, you've actually been quite rude and aggressive in your language. That, IMO, is the sort of thing that drags this place down'

Swings and roundabouts. I find your tone to be quite hectoring really. And also, you can't dictate how people respond to a public thread...

Beautiful mommas do not worry about your eyelashes and eyebrows. You are amazing . You are giving birth. You are beautiful xx