Help! Do I look like a twit?

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DP has just informed me that he has arranged swanky birthday drinks for me tomorrow. Have delved into my wardrobe in a bit of a mad panic.

Are people going to look at me with raised eyebrows...? I know most people will not give a tiny rats behind.

This is a little more daring than I would usually wear... I need reassurance or alternatively an intervention before I wear this out of the house.

Will obviously wear magic pants to keep the jiggly bits in... I am also aware I am slovenly and the mirror is filthy...

No I don't agree with that Usual. OP knows the dress is a bit out there and wants to know what we think. Well that's how I took it. And bullshit to judging women, yes, the sluttish description is not appropriate but my comments are based on the dress, not women in general.

I think you look amazing- I also think a couple of stitches to slightly alter the proportions of the V will make it perfect. High heels, tape, and stand up STRAIGHT.

Words like sluttish have no place here or anywhere else. It says so very much about those who choose those words - shameful really.

Usual

Have you clocked that this isn't AIBU?

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Aren't you the one chastising people for being unkind korma? Maybe you should take a look at your last comment.

Beanzmeanzcoffee

I am really sorry, I didn't mean to hurt or put anyone down.

kormachamelon We should not be jealous of one another, to be honest I do not like the word jealous me myself I can honestly say, I don't have an ounce of jealously in me.

I really hope this thread has actually given you more confidence OP as I think that's the issue, you shouldn't feel you need to ask for opinions on what you want to wear? *
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If you do want to ask however and people want to offer an opinion, perhaps it could be along the lines of people offering their comments about the dress (too high, too low, too tight, too yellow for my taste) without using misogynist shameful words judging the OP herself (sluttish, desperate, trashy).

Can people really not see the difference? How would you feel reading those comments made my men, if OP had posted on Dadsnet for opinions? Seriously. We need to stop this sort of bollocks!

I'm very conservative (small 'c') in style but I think you look great.

I'm a Bloody Sunday School teacher and I don't think you look the least "slutty" (and shame on those who do!)

As you asked for comments:

If you are going to wear that dress you have to own it totally. No pulling at it all night or asking others in RL what they think. Total confidence only while you drift about looking wonderful.

I might be tempted to sew it up a tiny bit. Just a inch or two.,

I don't think the shoes are right I'm afraid. Do you have some strappy sandals in gold or silver? They'd look better.

As a pp said I'd wear it with lots of little chains or a at least a long necklace to balance things up a bit.

I think hair up is a good instinct. It brings the eye up.

Have a wonderful birthday!

I think you look fantastic. If I looked like you, I'd wear that dress all the bloody time.

korma are you stalking usual?

I don't think a vest would work but I'd definitely stitch it up a bit. Otherwise, it's very nice.

I can't understand why you're so worked up about it usual, so what if it's an attention-seeking look-at-me thread which I don't think it is but even it if was why does if affect you so much? A touch of the green-eyed monster?

I wouldn't wear a long necklace, your eyes will already be drawn to the deep slash. I'd wear a very light short necklace or bigger earrings to balance it out. And yes the shoes look a bit worky, I think you need something dark and strappy.

Well from this end it certainly seems like you're over-invested in where usual usually posts. Which is a bit sad, really.

Harsh Usual

The OP has been extremely polite and sensible in the face of some erm robust replies.

You can be honest and constructive without being mean. You've drifted into mean Usual. Be nice.

theyoncesaid maybe my reaction was a bit ott. Unfortunately there are many people who lump 'fat people' into one homogenous subclass and I've encountered it more times that I could list so im probably a bit over sensitive.

Ultimately I think we're both making the same point. What right has any of us to judge? Even the most perfect women have their flaws.