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Help! Do I look like a twit?

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Nksw · 09/07/2016 17:20

DP has just informed me that he has arranged swanky birthday drinks for me tomorrow. Have delved into my wardrobe in a bit of a mad panic.

Are people going to look at me with raised eyebrows...? I know most people will not give a tiny rats behind.

This is a little more daring than I would usually wear... I need reassurance or alternatively an intervention before I wear this out of the house.

Will obviously wear magic pants to keep the jiggly bits in... Blush I am also aware I am slovenly and the mirror is filthy...

Help! Do I look like a twit?
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squoosh · 09/07/2016 19:52

'It's so fucking depressing for women to be judging another woman, her body and clothing choices like this.'

But she did post a photo of herself asking for people's thoughts. I certainly don't agree with 'sluttish' comments but don't see anything wrong with someone saying that in their opinion it's 'too low cut', or 'far too revealing'.

Doje · 09/07/2016 19:56

You look incredible in it! Go out, be confident and look awesome! Xx

Doje · 09/07/2016 19:57

(oops, sorry about the DC's)

Doje · 09/07/2016 19:57

Crap... Xx's.....

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milkbottle · 09/07/2016 20:01

You look beautiful. And the dress is great and very fashionable atm, I don't think anyone in real life will think you look 'trashy' or 'sluttish.' If you feel comfortable in it then wear it!

TheyOnceSaid · 09/07/2016 20:04

It's so fucking depressing for women to be judging another woman, her body and clothing choices like this. People who have said things like this, especially the "sluttish" comment need to really think about what message your words are conveying?

I totally agree with this, if you haven't got anything nice to say don't say anything at all, OP doesn't look sluttish what she is wearing is not one bit revealing, as woman on a parenting site we should be boosting one another's confidence, NOT putting one another down, a lot of people are just plain horrible on this site and there's no need for it.

All I can assume is those who are making nasty comments are a size 18+ I bet you won't post a picture of your body or face.

Believeitornot · 09/07/2016 20:05

I have a figure like yours and wouldn't wear it. But I'm a bit lacking in confidence!

You got the dress because I assume you like it? Then wear it.

Idiotxit · 09/07/2016 20:08

All I can assume is those who are making nasty comments are a size 18+ I bet you won't post a picture of your body or face

TheyOnceSaid How can you post what you did, and then make this comment? Confused

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 09/07/2016 20:08

All I can assume is those who are making nasty comments are a size 18+ I bet you won't post a picture of your body or face.

That kind of comment is also not called for.

I don't like the dress. I am a size 10 not that it matters

I agree that some of the comments are below the belt however I disagree that everyone should always agree. We don't live in a dictatorship.

MarshaBrady · 09/07/2016 20:10

It's fine to say you're not keen on the dress.

Idiotxit · 09/07/2016 20:11

'I'm not keen on low cut dresses'

Fine.

'It makes you look a bit sluttish'

Really not fine at all.

ShatnersBassoon · 09/07/2016 20:11

I'm trying to think of what my opinion would be if a well-toned man described the same scenario and asked if he'd be OK with his shirt unbuttoned to the navel. I think I'd tell him it wouldn't be a suitable choice in a swanky bar. I suppose I should say the same to a woman.

BennyTheBall · 09/07/2016 20:12

The op posts a picture and actually asks for opinions.

It's constructive - some people love it, others don't. S&B would be a very dull place if we all embraced the (faux) sisterhood and refused to comment honestly.

If I were in a changing room with my friends we would not be just saying nice stuff to boost each others confidence. We would be honest.

AliceThrewTheFookingGlass · 09/07/2016 20:12

Ive got a very similar figure to you op so this really isn't a jealousy thing but I also think it's a bit too low cut. I think stitching it up so the slit stops just below your boobs rather than your waist would be far better. I would also wear a long necklace with it just to break the chest area up a bit.

I quite like the nude heels with it and don't agree that you should swap them for black ones. Do you have a similar coloured bag to match?

LavenderSugar · 09/07/2016 20:12

You look great!

I really don't like the nude shoes with it though. It's all a bit Kate Middleton from the ankles down, which doesn't work.

I'd keep it all black with very undone, natural hair.

EvansAndThePrince · 09/07/2016 20:14

Oh you look amazing!!! Show us it with it seen up a few inches, bet it's perfect. What I'd do for a smaller bust than my awful GGs, can't bloody wear anything nice Sad

squoosh · 09/07/2016 20:15

'I'm trying to think of what my opinion would be if a well-toned man described the same scenario and asked if he'd be OK with his shirt unbuttoned to the navel.'

Simon Cowell's a fan of this look. I can't say I'm enamoured with the look on men either.......

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MumOnACornishFarm · 09/07/2016 20:21

I think you look great OP, I hope you have a wonderful time. Once upon at time I had the figure to wear something like this, but didn't have the guts. Now I don't have the figure (I've had a baby and now 24 weeks pregnant) and I really wish I could get away with it!
I agree with those suggesting black shoes. I would keep jewellery and makeup very minimal, or it could be overkill. And tit tape!

TheyOnceSaid · 09/07/2016 20:22

Yes maybe I was wrong for writing that comment, but that's how I feel.

People who put others down are not happy with themselves, I hate to see woman one another down.

How many of us on this post can post a selfie of ourselves or post a picture of our bodies?

The OP had the confidence to do so, now her confidence as probably dropped!

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Nksw · 09/07/2016 20:23

Maybe the OP should have posted her selfie on FB? She would have got lots of likes and you look gawgus hun posts.

Erm... I posted on this thread for honest opinions. Not once have I been upset when someone has expressed their opinion, and I have welcomed the criticism. Another poster is correct - I actively asked to be judged.

However, I'm just not sure this is the right place to be using terms such as sluttish which is demeaning to women.

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Beanzmeanzcoffee · 09/07/2016 20:25

theyoncesaid As someone who is a size 18+ That comment just makes me really sad. I wouldn't dream of criticising something just because i wouldn't suit it (the implication presumably being that I'm jealous-I am a little OP but in a nice way). I think the dress would have been nicer if it had had just a couple of extra inches. It has looks a bit disconnected. But OP your figure is amazing and you can totally pull that off. The only thing I would say is that anything a bit 'daring' as others have put it needs to be worn with absolute confidence (to the point of a great big fuck you to hoikers of judgeypants) and in that pic you look a little uncomfortable. You look phenomenal.

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