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is this too slutty?

195 replies

Mummyoftwo91 · 18/05/2016 09:24

Life is shit, husband just left, got a girls night out Saturday to drink my sorrows away, is this outfit too much? I'm thinking along the lines of look what your missing you bastard but I don't want to look like I'm for hire either!

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MiddleClassProblem · 18/05/2016 15:21

I looked good though and glad I owned it.

DocMcFanjo · 18/05/2016 15:21

I'd wear it backwards (making sure there's no butt cleavage visible!) or with a lace cami underneath (so a bit more subtly revealing).

Slutty is a yuk word and you'd look fabulous in a black sack I suspect.

KnitFastDieWarm · 18/05/2016 15:22

bloody hell blithering, just stop digging Hmm

OP, that outfit is fine and probably more covered up than what the half people you'll meet on a night out will be wearing!

I got harassed on the street the other day wearing jeans and a t shirt and pushing my son in his pram. last Saturday I went out in a skin tight, low cut dress and didn't get a whiff of harassment. the only person to blame for harassment is the harasser! I despair of the bizarre prudish, victim blaming attitude here.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 18/05/2016 15:25

I was there eatsleep Smile although maybe a couple of years before you! Still do my housework to some tunes.

Now you mention it, a furry bra could work with OP's dress and would add some extra warmth. It's worth considering.

squizita · 18/05/2016 15:27

Middle just discovered Cyberdog sell this cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0805/2243/files/10339216_739661686111697_4009491301810228871_o_1_large.jpg?9229605735075562967 That's the next NCT Chapter Mum & Baby picnic outfit sorted for me! Grin

Hiphopopotamus · 18/05/2016 15:27

Bloody hell blithering is the right name for you! Shut up. The 'bad guys' as you call them do not rape because they see boobs and can't control themselves. Rape is about power and control and violence. And to put any blame of that kind of behaviour on the clothes the woman is wearing is offensive, and more to the point, totally and factually wrong. So shut up.

Hiphopopotamus · 18/05/2016 15:28

( I'm aware I might get deleted for a personal attack. If so, sorry MNHQ in advance!)

Kennington · 18/05/2016 15:30

That would look great with a different bra
Otherwise it looks a bit too much and you could risk popping out in error.
Go for it though if you feel comfortable!

squizita · 18/05/2016 15:32

I did a see through top and black bra like I was in a girl band. A lot of crop tops and bra tops. I think I thought I was Brandy...

Suits with bras underneath were my 'classy' take for a while.

Also my leaver's party (aka prom nowadays) dress had hella piping on the bodice like something Mariah Carey would wear to sing opera. It was so tight I could only walk slowly and my hair had flicks that could hold weight (we tested it with pencils etc).

And very, very, very cropped/tight long sleeved tshirts with low waist flares. And very very big shoes.

MiddleClassProblem · 18/05/2016 15:45
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00100001 · 18/05/2016 15:47

"All I'm saying it don't give the bad guys ammunition. Go out, stay safe and don't get separated from your mates. I don't think that's being unreasonable."

No.No NO!

If you had said ""All I'm saying is go out, stay safe and don't get separated from your mates. I don't think that's being unreasonable." then we'd agree with you.

But that's not what you're saying. By putting "don't give the bad guys ammunition" in your statement, you're basically saying "Don't give the bad guys a reason to rape you".

Would you say that was reasonable? Are you really saying that a woman wearing a dress is an invitation to rape? Do you really believe that the only people who get raped are those that dress with cleavage showing? Do you not see how you are blaming the victim?

ghostoftheMNchicken · 18/05/2016 15:54

Oh my god, squizita. Cyberdog! That takes me back. Grin haven't been there in years, and I didn't know they did children's clothing.

OP, I think a top underneath is the way to go, but what that dress really needs is a metric fuckton of cleavage. So don't go too modest, eh?

squizita · 18/05/2016 15:57

"All I'm saying it don't give the bad guys ammunition. Go out, stay safe and don't get separated from your mates. I don't think that's being unreasonable."

The sad thing is this is a case of someone who thinks they are wise and real-world savvy when actually they are being incredibly naive.

In this 'real world', you just need to cover up and stay with your mates and nothing bad will happen. A dream world.
Nasty men who beat and rape their wives aren't part of this logic.
Guys who slip things in any woman's drink aren't part of this logic.
Date rape isn't part of this logic.
Gropers on the tube at rush hour aren't part of this logic.
Workplace harrassement doesn't happen at work as everyone wears office clothes and other people go there.

All very easy: do the right thing and no monsters will lurk. Phew.

It's quite a sheltered and innocent view of the world, NOT NOT NOT 'telling it like it is' as the people who perpetuate it imagine.

cherrybomme · 18/05/2016 16:00

I haven't read all the posts but I think that dress would look stupid with vests, camisoles, bandeau tops etc underneath.
Too bulky and mismatched. I have tried doing things like that in the past after people have said the original outfit shows too much. I ended up actually looking frumpy and lumpy.
The hair down pic looks stunning. You're young and gorgeous, Go for it x

FlindersKeepers · 18/05/2016 16:29

Recently I got a jumpsuit with a wrap front - unfortunately my boobs decided to break for the border... I found that the bra camisoles from Uniqlo gave me enough coverage to not scare the horses, but still have some shape. I wouldn't run for a bus in one though. Bandeau tops could look good too. Your figure is FAB.
Hope your night out does you good!! Wine

KittyKrap · 18/05/2016 16:31

You look fab, just go for it and enjoy the new you.
The only warning is have is tit tape, lots of it and try not to bend over!

rightmywrongs · 18/05/2016 16:50

I don't really like it...
It's when you can see bra I'm just not keen.
Nothing wrong with cleavage it's just not my style,
I would feel really self conscious wearing it & if one of my pals rocked up for a night out wearing it I would probably spend the whole night looking at their rack.

RickOShay · 18/05/2016 17:31

Op your ex is a FOOL
Hope you have a great night, wear what makes you feel good, if that means the bra and the dress then wear it. Have fun sweetheart.

Goingtobeawesome · 18/05/2016 18:04

Way to make a woman feel all she is is a body.

KittensandKnitting · 20/05/2016 19:31

I don't think that was the intention of rick

OP what did you decide?

chocdonutyy · 20/05/2016 19:46

If you wanted to wear something underneath a lace or sheer (think that's what I mean, something like tights material I'm thinking) body suit in black and no bra. Might make it more classy that the other word i dare not mention!

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Mummyoftwo91 · 20/05/2016 20:14

I bought a bralet will post picture tomorow!

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Mummyoftwo91 · 20/05/2016 20:16

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KittensandKnitting · 20/05/2016 20:33

You go OP!!!

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