is this too slutty?

[Mummyoftwo91]

Life is shit, husband just left, got a girls night out Saturday to drink my sorrows away, is this outfit too much? I'm thinking along the lines of look what your missing you bastard but I don't want to look like I'm for hire either!

If you feel good in it then that's all that matters. I think you look lovely.
Enjoy your new life.

Oops, pressed enter too soon. Meant to add: Not what you're wearing, not where you were, not what you drank.

If you could wear it feeling confident, and sassy, and sure of yourself, then absolutely go for it. You look fantastic.

I couldn't wear it because I'd feel self-conscious and would be adjusting it, rearranging my hair, and the tape, and everything else all night. And I'd look daft because I'd look and feel uncomfortable.

But you're 25! You're gorgeous! If you feel confident in it, go for it. Expressions such as "slutty" are misogynistic and outdated, designed to keep women down.

By the sound of it she's going to attract more attention from judgey women, than from most of the men.

OP I don't like the plunging neckline, but not because you look 'slutty' (bleurrgh at that word), but because imo even the smartest bra, somehow makes that very smart dress look 'scruffy'.

I agree with PPs who say a camisole might look just right underneath it.

If I were you, I'd get supplies when buying the top to attempt a tit tape construction on Friday to see how you feel and how secure it is etc.

are you comfortable in the dress, OP? If yes, Wear it. If not, Don't.

pretty simple if you ask me but If I was going out and wanted to do a big 'fuck you' to an ex I'd wear something red and something that pushed my tits up. I would wear something I wouldn't be feeling self concious in so I could go out and party with my friends and enjoy myself.

In my experience Nothing will kick an ex in balls more than a woman who is happy and enjoying herself.

all my exes tried crawling back when they saw I was happy, sorted, on top of things and actually ploughing through life with confidence. It was a boost to see they wanted me again but the best thing was to tell them to fuck back off to the hole they crawled out of ;)

Thank you guys I appreciate ur positivity! I will post the final outfit on Saturday and hope I don't get flamed to fuck

You look fantastic!
But if you're worried you might be uncomfortable or adjusting it all night could you pin it together a bit at the bottom, if the material's stretchy enough? Or stitch the bottom of the v up a little? Then you'll still have the plunging v but without showing the bra?

Have a fab night!

Why do you think fuck it though? Why is showing your breasts making you feel better about the fact your husband has left? Why are you seeing your body as something to use to boost yourself?

Be classy, smart and confident. That picture doesn't say that. Sorry.

Violet agreed on the term 'slutty' - it's not one I use in everyday conversation. I was quoting the post subject/question. To disambiguate the term would have detracted from my message of 'wear what you want'.

Mummyoftwo a less bra-y bra will look, erm, less bra-y... so a plainer bralet could be the way forward (more JoLo). But, more than anything it's clear you're having a tough time - so be kind to yourself.

You look fabulous but...... I'd definitely stick a camisole top underneath, so that just a bit of your cleavage is on show. Not to mention, those puppies will fall right out when you are dancing your heart out. . Have a brilliant night out OP.

I agree that style only really looks good on the flat chested, and even then it's risky.

The dress is designed to be worn brakes, usually with thin slinky chain necklaces. By the time you've fannied around with tape, bras (no!) Camis (absolutely no!) you might as well change tack.

Rule of thumb: if you're pulling it about before you've even got out the door don't wear it.

BTW I think you look great and you could probably wear a dishcloth and pull it off. It's a shame your DH has kicked your confidence to the kerb, but you need to start your fight back.

Might actually sow the bit at the bottom so it's a less deep v!

Those deep v dresses are gorgeous on women with smaller boobs, but you can't do them with bigger boobs or a push up bra I've got a wardrobe full but can't wear them because the boobs just make it look wrong.

I love your hair though and I think with less boobage - a cami or bralette would work if there's less padding - it'd look gorgeous.

I think the neckline is way too deep for a cami underneath. I'd go with the tit tape and NO bra. You could wear a long necklace to draw attention away from the boobs. Good luck and hope you havens nice time.

Hi all,

Just a quick reminder that we do not advocate victim blaming on Mumsnet. A while back we ran the We Believe You campaign on mumsnet and one of the Myths we busted was about the way people dress.

" MYTH: Women provoke rape by their appearance or their behaviour

REALITY: Dressing attractively, or flirting, is never an invitation to rape. Rape is not a 'crime of passion' - it is an expression of power and control.
No woman 'asks to be raped' or 'deserves what she gets' - only the rapist is responsible for the rape. Rape happens to all types of women, from the very young to the very old - physical appearance is irrelevant.

There is no 'typical rape victim'. There is only one common factor in all rapes, and that is the rapist."

A less lingerie style bralet is what I will try and failing that I'll sew it up a little

I think with boob tape it will look lovely, and exactly the sort of thing the women I know who are your age wear for a night out. You have a fantastic figure and can wear whatever you feel good in. Just beware of drinking too much as my first night out post break up with my ex-fiance I got very drunk and cried everywhere.

Have a great time with your friends.

Wow, you look amazing.

I dressed like this til my early thirties and I still would if I wasn't three sizes bigger and lumpy and bumpy!

It is for a night out, not work, not school visit. On a night out you want to feel hot and look great.

I think this fulfils that goal.

I don't get this 'you'll attract attention', one reason people go out to bars and clubs is to meet other/new people. If you didn't want to attract attention, you could go to a quiet cafe round the corner with your friends or stay home!

Oh and have a fab night OP

I don't think you should wear anything underneath a neckline like that, bralet or not. It's designed to plunge and reveal. And you certainly look to have the kind of body to carry it off - you look fabulous. People will look, of course. I would. I would be wishing I had the body and the confidence to wear something like that. It isn't too revealing. There is nothing 'naughty' about the space between your boobs. Ridiculous.

Looks messy with a bra underneath though, and can't see that altering with a bralet. Maybe - maybe - a bandeau? A clean vertical line. But I think you should have a play with tit tape first.

I know you haven't asked me but I'd just get a different version like so

Bandeau. Scarlett Johansen is on the cover of a magazine this month in the sort of bandeau that will lift the outfit.

all depends on how old you are and where you are going really....40s in a pub....definately a bit ott........20s nightclubbing and it seems the norm!

Wow! That's why you need the whole thread!

Just caught the MNHQ intervention. Think I might give the thread a miss. Sounds as though it went well grim.