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Creme de la Crepe

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MrsSchadenfreude · 22/08/2015 10:52

New thread...

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Rosebag · 25/08/2015 17:31

Bloody 'ell….I've been trying to get in all day…I think the site has been up and running for an hour or two but my devices just said "NO". This is beyond a joke. Who could hate MN so much….?

MI you need a secret garden…. Grin YANAT (You are not a troll)

Rudy this U coursework business is unacceptable….some teachers' heads need to roll. Hope you get some outcome from the meeting.

Beachy sorry about your cold…happy birthday to your DH, though…and glad the situation with DD is staying positive. What a girl!

I am emotionally and physically wrecked. Without bleating on endlessly…Have seen two care homes with DM…at the first she cried so bitterly (mostly with the realisation I think)…but the second was a breath of fresh air, literally…the only smell was of freshly baked croissants as the residents were having breakfast. Bright, cheery, clean, dignified and homely and only 5 mins from their flat. DM is going for it…and Ddad is on the waiting list for a place in the nursing home section of it, as this trumps his dementia needs at the moment. Good meeting with the SW, ever helpful and kind. I did nearly smack the OT who kept wittering on about Ddad being able to stay at home with a hoist and 3 carers. In the end I put on my best ex health service senior manager's voice (comes in useful once in a while) and said "Talking about my Father going home is HIGHLY INAPPROPRIATE" Angry Angry Angry I felt bad after, as she looked a bit deflated, but needs must.

Now I have to take the DC to the tube stn. as they are seeing a show…and then I have to push a trolley round the supermarket as we have No Food. DH is still in town….Big stuff going on re his work. No wonder I keep waking up at 5am….

bigTillyMint · 25/08/2015 18:20

That's brilliant Rose Flowers

BeachysFlipFlops · 25/08/2015 18:26

So glad you've seen something you like, Rose. I like the idea of freshly baked croissants myself.

Bah humbug to all you pre- term essay writers. DD1 has to complete a project which involves 'recreating a famous building in cardboard and painting it white' All good until it says 'the finished project should be the size of a medium sized dog'..... This is from a college which is at least 200 miles away from most of its applicants. So think of me, the weekend before term, in a small car with dd, all her stuff (including everything on the MN downloadable list which is stuck to my fridge) and a dog sized cardboard building on my lap Hmm

I would prefer some day activities on that Saturday as I hate catching the late night train home. Happy to start whenever.

BeachysFlipFlops · 25/08/2015 18:27

How do you do strike throughs???? I followed the instructions.

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hattymattie · 25/08/2015 18:44

Rose - that's great news to have found a nursing home that you like and that is nearby - that must be relief for you.

In S&B found some great ankle boots in the sale - was feeling very pleased until DD2 said they looked like "fake rich person's shoes" - she knows how to put me in my place.

bigTillyMint · 25/08/2015 18:44

I am Rudy!

Blackduck · 25/08/2015 19:27

I'm up for it (that is a Saturday right?)

motherinferior · 25/08/2015 19:33

I'm sure I could be too...

This house does afford escape - I go and sit by the pool - at leastGrin.

We all enjoyed Nijar GrinGrin. But yes a Crepey break would be fab!

wordassociationfootball · 25/08/2015 19:45

That sounds like exactly the right thing to say, Rose. I will try to remember it. 'Talking about X is highly inappropriate.'

bigTillyMint · 25/08/2015 20:07

Beachy, what day activities did you have in mind?!
And which famous building is your DD going to make?

addle · 25/08/2015 20:12

hello all, just testing my access
we had wonderful two weeks in Croatia - Split, Vis and Zagreb - thoroughly recommend though now long since back at work.

hope to be there on 26th but have a lovely uncle's 80th birthday teaparty somewhere in Surrey in the afternoon so will have to see. do we have a venue?

herbaceous · 25/08/2015 20:23

Zzzz... Crackle... Is this thing on?

Between site lockdowns and non-existent signal here. I've rather missed my MNing.

Still raining here most of the time, but when it's not larks are being had. And I saw stropps yesterday! And she briefly met DS and DP!

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MrsSchadenfreude · 25/08/2015 20:28

Yes to the 26th.

The man upstairs is driving me ABSOLUTELY CRAZY. He is coming down at least twice a day, usually around 7 in the morning and between 11 and midnight. I am going to put a notice on the door, saying Please DO NOT knock on this door. And if I ignore it, he is standing on the landing and catches me when I go to work, saying "Did you not hear me knocking?" I really feel that I am going to lose it and start screaming at him soon. It takes a LOT to make me lose it, but I feel I am heading that way.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 25/08/2015 20:30

I want to go and sit on a beach and read books and swim in the sea, and do some gentle pottering. I do not want to go to work, I do not want to write a "comms strategy" or a gant chart or anything. I have applied for jobs I do not want to do.

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BeachysFlipFlops · 25/08/2015 22:49

Just had a pay phone call, how retro, from the little one, who has broken her phone and all seems good.

Mrs S, have you had no joy from Social Services? They really should be involved on a noise disturbs level, if nothing else.

Events for the day on that Saturday could include a vintage bike ride around London, maybe climbing the O2 or similar? Frankly, I watched the O2 climb on YouTube and I really may need your help on that one Smile

Cremo · 25/08/2015 23:03

Omg are we up and running yet?? I've only now found a minuscule scrap of wifi. Interesting Times here in France Pofonde.
More tomorrow with my super fresh Croissant Grin and a caff with le wifi BrewI had a dream about you Mrs s last night. We were out on the piss and having a great laugh

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MrsSchadenfreude · 25/08/2015 23:38

Oh that sounds a fun dream, Crem! GrinWine

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MrsSchadenfreude · 26/08/2015 08:25

Beachy, no, no joy from social services. They are trying to get him to move into sheltered accommodation. He has been to stay a couple of nights at one and hated it, and is refusing to move. They can't force him to go, apparently, according to his carer. DH went up and had a cup of tea with him last night. He is lonely, but there must be some reason that none of his children have anything to do with him. We thought he had one daughter (whom we have met) from his first marriage, two sons from his second and one daughter from his third marriage (who is the same age as DD1). Apparently there are two more daughters and another son. And a sister and a brother.

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motherinferior · 26/08/2015 09:18

I had a bizarre dream I was out on the piss with Monty!

MontserratCaballe · 26/08/2015 09:49

That sounds fab, MI. When shall we go? Your manor or mine? Just a short bus ride round the A205....

Rose, so glad you have found a place for your dad. I think that they are a bit like nurseries, in that you just get a feeling as to whether it would work for you. My dad is in a wonderful home with a lovely room and the kindest staff. I hope a place becomes available for him soon.

MrsS, huge sympathy on the neighbour issue. That must be both difficult and exhausting, not to mention exasperating. Thinking if you.

Glad DD is holding her own, Beachy.

After a rainy day yesterday the sun is out. Dh got up at 5.30 to go on a walk avd the kids and I are going to the beach. Good times. Looking forward.

Hope entry in has a good day avd the sun is out for you all, esp the holidaymakers.

hattymattie · 26/08/2015 10:17

Mrs S - do you think he's got confused about how many relations he has?

I am vaguely hung over from book club - only had two glasses of wine. Think I will have a nurofen and some coffee.

Weather has become hot again. I have painted the garden gate with anti rust paint. DH did not trust me to do it as he said I would leave orange blobs all over the drive. I have only left twoConfused.

Crem - intruiged by goings on in France profond.

bigTillyMint · 26/08/2015 10:34

Beachy, vintage bike ride? Are the Santander bikes now vintage or is there a specialist place?! Not sure about O2

Jeez, MrsS - do you think he has pissed them all off in the style of your DM Wink or are they just spectacularly disinterested in him? And 3 wives? Sounds like it's him rather than them.

Glad you have sun, Monty. More rain here. The weather was way better in NZ and it was their winter FFS.

And Cremo, what is going on over there?!

Rosebag · 26/08/2015 10:47

MrsS you also need a secret garden. I'm so sorry about this poor wretched man. The only way is a section but he has to go really OTT for that. Is there any way of getting hold of a relative? They might have disowned him but they can't expect the neighbours to take responsibility for his antisocial behaviour.

Thanks you all for your very kind comments about DDad. I was completely worn out yesterday. The care home staff are coming to meet him at the hospital to do their assessment this afternoon. He's first on the waiting list for a place. DDad is now confined to bed as his pressure sores are too painful to sit.

monty I didn't realise your DDad was in a home. I would love to meet up sometime and talk to you about it all. When are you back?

Going to take the DC to see DDad later and then meeting BFF for tea and a bit of downtime. Hope DM doesn't want me at the hospital when the home come to asses. I'm desperate to get away from it all temporarily.

Blackduck · 26/08/2015 11:52

I think we will need to get some day care for dmum before it drives everyone round the bend..... I suspect a home will end up being on the cards in the long run.
It's very sad, but my ddad and dbros really can't keep this up for much longer (distance means I am less effected by it all)