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Sorry but can I ask how you remove hair "down there"?

298 replies

mindifidont · 03/04/2015 09:08

Firstly I'd like to apologise if this is tmi or inappropriate...I hope it's not.

I'm really fighting a losing battle with this one.

I like to stay completely clean down there, like after a Brazilian, but waxing just hurts to much and I don't like having to go to a salon.

Shaving is easier but it grows back too quickly and I get inflamed hair sacks so get lots of red spots....not the look I'm after.

What magic tricks am I missing? Surely there's an easy, pain free method of getting smooth without the pain?

OP posts:
SkaterGrrrrl · 04/04/2015 10:53

GAH pressed send before spell check.

Deeply horrified by own spelling

PurpleSwift · 04/04/2015 10:55

I'll take that as a yes then Smile

Koalafications · 04/04/2015 10:56

Oh and I'm 27 and have a full bush. So, what does that make me? I'm under 30 but haven't been influenced by the porn industry?! Confused

pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 10:56

There are so many references to minging/stinky/dirty/sweaty on this thread.

Precisely.

And their defence is that their vulva is just so much more sweaty, mingy and smelly than the next woman's. Though quite how they smell it I really don't know.

I think perhaps it's a perception not a real smell.

SkaterGrrrrl · 04/04/2015 10:58

Again, with actual spelling:

There are so many references to minging/stinky/dirty/sweaty on this thread.

Women who remove their pubic hair have truly internalised the narrative that the vagina is evil/other/dangerous and must be punished (quite literally: hot wax on a place with so many nerve endings??) with expensive, time consuming, painful punishments to render it sexless, childlike, unthreatening and inhuman.

SinclairSpectrum · 04/04/2015 10:58

insancerre
Got to pass the day somehow!
In fairness to the older lads, they don't seem to give a shit whether we are hairy or not, as long as they can have access they are happy!
The younger ones seem to have more expectations / opinions on genital hair.
As for the beard comment, its not a sexual issue is it? And men have been free to make facial hair choices for hundreds of years, no one tells them they are sweaty or dirty?
Most young men are thrilled to reach sexual maturity and celebrate their 'bumfluff'.
Young women now see pubes as disgusting and their removal as another chore of womanhood.

CookPassBabtrigde · 04/04/2015 10:59

Why is a beard different? Presumably the hairs there for a reason too?

mindalina · 04/04/2015 11:01

your choices don't exist in a vacuum. it's hard to fathom why intelligent women get so defensive about removing their pubic hair. I can only assume on some level they realise it's bloody stupid. and yes, there is a definite (and wildly incorrect) implication that hairy women smell - you can fuck off with that, I assuredly do not. if your bits are bald you're far more likely to noticeably smell because there's nothing to trap the sweat and move it away from the skin and the skin's bacteria.

pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 11:02

Kaola you only have to look at the uniform of what women wear ( and read some more threads on S&B) to know that being the same as other people is a factor- think of young girls, skinny jeans, similar handbags, add a scarf, etc etc- not much individualism in all of that.
And pubic hair - removal of- is a fashion.

Have you missed the surprise there was when ( think it was Paltrow) a sleb clearly sported a bush under an evening gown? Or the mannequins in the US that were dressed with a big bush?

The implication was 'real modern women do not have pubic hair.

It's not just about porn. No one has said that. But women have at some point been made to feel that pubic hair is distasteful ( pun intended) and they ought to rip it out to feel clean aka hygienic.

CookPassBabtrigde · 04/04/2015 11:02

The younger ones seem to have more expectations / opinions on genital hair.

Not in my experience. A lot of generalising and judging going on here, based on assumptions.

SinclairSpectrum · 04/04/2015 11:07

I have 3 young boys, they see me and their dad naked daily - in the bath, getting dressed etc.
They understand that adults have body hair.
When they get older and grow hair they will understand it is normal.
When they are exposed to porn, which inevitably they will be, probably before their first real sexual encounter, I would like to think they would see it as titillation / entertainment, not a representation of real life, real sex or real women.
This is why its important.

Koalafications · 04/04/2015 11:08

Yes, I must have pinkfricks I don't remember that at all.

I just find the assumption that anyone under 30 must be influenced by porn etc a bit off. As I say, I'm under 30 and have a full bush - I don't know what the perception of me is?

SinclairSpectrum · 04/04/2015 11:10

And my earlier comment about younger ones having opinions was in reference to the 50ish male colleagues I asked about the matter earlier today.
Already acknowledged not a scientific sample etc, just anecdotal...

BayMax · 04/04/2015 11:11

I'm 30 and find waxing bizarre. Why would you get your fanny out and go through all that pain for something no one is going to see? How can it be 'fashionable ' when it's tucked away in your knickers?!

I haven't got time to care what my vag looks like. Good Lord, I have things to be getting on with!

pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 11:19

ok- apologies to the 30-ish year olds who have posted. But it's very rare that older women will do this. In fact in the late 60s/ early 70s there was a furore over Mary Quant who designed some clothes that had a hatch at the front to show your pubic hair! Funny how it never really caught on.

The only older women I've heard of who get rid of it all, are those whose has gone white and skimpy, so they whisk it off rather than having a few straggly white hairs there.

CookPassBabtrigde · 04/04/2015 11:24

I'm in my 20s so grew up in the era where porn became very accessible with the internet and not a single man I have ever been with has cared either way.
You're right to care about your kids perception of what is normal, but I don't think it's a surprise to anyone when they first have sex that their partner has hair, even with widespread access to porn.
I believe schools are now including the topic of porn in sex education and debunking some of the myths that come with it, so children are learning that what they see is not exactly a true reflection of what normal sex is like.
pinkfrocks i remember when I was a teen, my mum had a book about fashion and there was a pic of Vivienne Westwood wearing a dress that fully showed her pubes. I have to say, I was a bit shocked and surprised she had her fanny out, not the fact that it was covered in hair.
I've since learned not to be shocked or surprised by anything Vivienne Westwood does Grin

FiveLittlePeas · 04/04/2015 11:25

Whoishillgirl Fri 03-Apr-15 15:03:34
Fuck me these threads make me so glad I am 40 (and a bit....). This whole genitals as fashion statements thing totally passed me by. The whole pubes being in or out or making a comeback is so so bizarre. And trying to pass it off as a health and safety issue so that your pubes don't snag in knicker lining actually made me laugh out loud.
+1

I also wonder if those who say it's cleaner to "go bald" have also shaven heads...

pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 11:28

LOL at VW!

I once recall DD seeing me naked when we were changing for swimming. she said in a VERY loud voice ( audible to everyone) 'Mummy, you have hair there! I think I replied along the lines that when she was older she would too.

Imagine if I'd been bald. What comments or lesson there?

CarbeDiem · 04/04/2015 11:36

I also wonder if those who say it's cleaner to "go bald" have also shaven heads
I can only speak for myself as a muff shaver but no, I don't have a shaven head. I don't often get blood clotted into my head hair so there's no personal need for me to remove it.

pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 11:43

Ah but blood is only once a month and that can be got round with tampons.
what about all that sweat which makes you smell and feel mingy? That's there every day surely?

KatoPotato · 04/04/2015 11:46

What a sad contrast this thread is to one of my favourite threads ever started by GetOrf about nair on the fanjo about 2011?

There was live de-fuzzing, a husband who shrieked and reference to 'an old lady who had been through a nuclear winter.'

It was fun. And not one reference to porn or 10 year olds...

Koalafications · 04/04/2015 11:47

Those who oppose women removing their pubic hair, would you support a ban (not that one could actually be imposed) on women being able to remove their pubic hair?

Koalafications · 04/04/2015 11:48

*enforced not imposed

CookPassBabtrigde · 04/04/2015 11:55

I was in a shop the other day flicking through the Kate Moss book - if you ever see one do have a look, it's basically a book of photographs and lots of nudey ones - and you'll find she quite often sports a full bush. She does seem to do a bit of 'gardening' sometimes though.
Kate Moss was and is a huge icon and influence on women in the last few decades, and she's quite proud of the pubes, openly. My point is, I've never felt compelled to remove them, and it's not exactly seen as weird to keep them (in my experience).

SinclairSpectrum · 04/04/2015 11:56

A ban would be silly.

Women being enlightened enough to realise they are being duped into doing something painful and expensive for no good reason would be sensible though.