Sorry but can I ask how you remove hair "down there"?

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Firstly I'd like to apologise if this is tmi or inappropriate...I hope it's not.

I'm really fighting a losing battle with this one.

I like to stay completely clean down there, like after a Brazilian, but waxing just hurts to much and I don't like having to go to a salon.

Shaving is easier but it grows back too quickly and I get inflamed hair sacks so get lots of red spots....not the look I'm after.

What magic tricks am I missing? Surely there's an easy, pain free method of getting smooth without the pain?

Apparently, women who shave their pubic hair make it the norm and then other women can't choose what to do for themselves.

Because we wouldn't dream of bringing our daughters up to be free thinking individuals... Oh no!

I really think I've heard it all now plus summore

"It does not affect anyone but me."

It affects me, and my daughter, and all women and girls.

Oh ffs!
Well said, aye

Can I also just say, I love how the OP says "sorry if this is tmi"
Since then there's been discussion of blood clotting in pubic fuzz, pubic fuzz collecting vagina sweat and the odd stray pube stuck in the teeth.

I've never had a discussion about any of this stuff before
It's been interesting, but I haven't changed my views on it.

Apparently, women who shave their pubic hair make it the norm and then other women can't choose what to do for themselves.

Because we wouldn't dream of bringing our daughters up to be free thinking individuals... Oh no!

Exactly.

Just a thought - but as a daughter, I'm pretty certain my mother has no care in the world what i do with my pubic hair. and if I had a daughter my age again I'd say it's not up to me what she does with hers

Quite a bit of naivity here about how impressionable young girls are.
It's already been said that adult women are susceptible to social mores and fashions- so young girls are more so. Of course young girls feel under pressure to conform- and if the 'norm' becomes no pubic hair then that is what they will aspire to. Just like 30 - 40 years ago no woman would consider getting rid of hers. It just wasn't done except for medical procedures.

The reasons that women have given here for ripping it off are bizarre to put it mildly - apart from maybe just not liking the look or feel of your own. They do make other women feel it's unclean to be hairy. So young girls will feel the same if their friends suggest it's normal or desirable to rip out the hair.

If my own mother's pubic hair style didn't influence my choice of pubic hair style, how the hell can my choice of pubic hair style influence any other woman or girl who has never set eyes on my fanjo!

I'm pretty sure my dd has no idea about the state of my pubic hair, nor I about hers. I don't even want to think about what my mum does with hers !!!!

It must be confusing when intelligent adult women, of varying ages, tell you that what they do with their pubic hair is their business.
When they explain that their choices are their own and may be multi layered but that they have thought them through and are happy with them - for them.

Especially confusing when you've point out that their behaviour and thought processes must be because they are victims of societal pornification that they are unaware of or perhaps some internalised hatred of their own sexuality and they - instead of understanding how wise you are and thanking you kindly for your repeated shaming of their choices - laugh their heads off at you and carry on.

Stop trying to tell women how to behave or what they must think.
You are acting in a much worse way than the patriarchy and media that you think you are protecting us all from.

Just like 30 - 40 years ago no woman would consider getting rid of hers.
I did - for the first time about 35 years ago, and I have continued to do it ever since, just because I liked it bald. I have always preferred it bald. It feels sensational.

Wow cardoon, thanks!

(Why on earth can't we just accept that people like different things!? I was only asking for advice on how to do it, I did not want this debate and definitely not pity!!!)

it is possible to do your own wax. you need to crouch over a mirror and use pre waxed strips cut into slightly shorter lengths.

I've never had a brazillian at a salon. I can get the same result after 20 mins in my own bathroom. just takes practice.

Having a discussion about this with DP, who shaves all his off. Asked him who he was influenced by...he is 45.

Apparently he hasn't been influenced by anyone. His exact word were..

"I have never looked at another mans bald cock and thought....oooo I really like the look of that"

He did it cos he wanted to, just like I did, many moons ago

Evening all
Bit of peace and love

Pre-pregnancy I was at the gym 5 days a week. For comfort I wear thick sweat wicking gym tights/capris. They have a proper stitched and cotton lined crotch/gusset and are designed to be worn knickerless.

If I didn't take off my coarse pubic hair it would snag, peep through like a pin cushion or Velcro itself through in spin class.

Also, I like not having a hairy pie. I'm 34weeks and not at the gym so not bothering but still trying to keep it short.

OK, I agree, "saddest" a bit of an overstatement, have asked for my post to be removed.

Pinkfrocks - It's not about how naive all of us who remove hair are. I don't have any Dd's, I only have now adult ds's. If asked by any of them or any hypothetical Dd's why I shaved then, of course, I wouldn't say my real reasons (mainly because of my heavy periods) which by the way I'm not calling myself or any other woman dirty, I don't have an issue with periods nor do I hate being a woman before anyone asks.
I'd simply say - because it grows fast and sticks out of my knickers if I don't and I don't like it doing so. End of discussion about it really.
I don't understand why you find some of the reasons so bizarre - they are personal preferences so are as valid as you and others not wanting to remove yours. Just because I don't like that my hair sometimes annoys me because of my period doesn't mean you or anyone else has to feel the same way.
I was a little surprised that you recommended Always towels up thread - I've been boycotting them for a while now because where I am I can't get any unscented - I don't like that their company insinuates that my vagina smells and needs a chemical aroma whilst having my period.

I have no clue what my ds's do with their hair and have no desire to know, it's their business. I certainly never consulted my own dm before starting to remove mine and at that point the only porn I'd ever seen was where the ladies had full bushes, so porn can't be 'blamed' for everyone removing hair no matter how much those with an issue would like to believe it. That's not to say that some young ladies haven't been influenced because they will have been.

To all those saying it's a negative influence on their Dd's - How do you imagine that you will control what your Dd's do with their OWN pubic hair? Enforce it as a rule alongside No smoking/underage drinking/drugs? Random spot checks?

I really don't see how it's any different to removing leg or underarm hair. Yes they are seen by people but why does that make it different? By removing any body hair, surely by the standards of some on here, this is body hating anti feminist actions which change the way nature intended women to be? If that's the argument then surely we should leave our legs hairy, our upper lips and chins as they are etc etc. FYI, I have smooth arms and legs and a neat triangle down there which is regularly maintained.

Carbe I'm not going to reply to all your points ( though a DD is always a 'DD' regardless of age- as is my adult DD!) because it's just going over old ground again.

But you can still buy Always unscented- I can't use perfumed products and wouldn't want to anyway. The unscented ones are the new orange and white packaging.

Carbe- it's peer and media pressure that I was talking about- not a mum's influence.
I'm a bit surprised you didn't latch on to that.