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Sorry but can I ask how you remove hair "down there"?

298 replies

mindifidont · 03/04/2015 09:08

Firstly I'd like to apologise if this is tmi or inappropriate...I hope it's not.

I'm really fighting a losing battle with this one.

I like to stay completely clean down there, like after a Brazilian, but waxing just hurts to much and I don't like having to go to a salon.

Shaving is easier but it grows back too quickly and I get inflamed hair sacks so get lots of red spots....not the look I'm after.

What magic tricks am I missing? Surely there's an easy, pain free method of getting smooth without the pain?

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mrssmith79 · 03/04/2015 21:30

Another vote for Nair. And an exfoliating mitt for rinsing it off. I generally, whilst going about my day to day business, take great care not to flash my bare fanny at impressionable ten year olds Hmm

Witchofthenorth · 03/04/2015 21:30

And FWIW...I'm a bawhair away from being 40, so not some 20 something who has only been surrounded by bare legs and hair removal subliminal messages Hmm

CookPassBabtrigde · 03/04/2015 21:32

That may be so, skater but so what?
I'm sure I'm influenced on a lot of things by people around me but that's the nature of society isn't it? I don't watch porn, have never had a discussion in real life with anyone about pubic hair and what to do with and I don't spend an awful lot of time worrying about it.
It's only the people on here that don't shave that seem to have an issue with people that do, not the other way round. Why? It's hardly a big issue is it.

RonaldMcDonald · 03/04/2015 21:47

Skater

How do you know if I have any children?
What an utterly bizarre thing for one of the sisterhood to say

Why must you come on style and beauty threads and spout boring boring boring utterly basic feminist themes and views?
It is like a trot through feminism NVQ1

I believe it is trolling as you have utterly no interest in supporting any women on this Board in any of their choices
You just want to ram your unasked for and uncourted point of view down their throats
You are behaving in the exact opposite way you should and your unevolved representation of feminism would put anyone without a better grasp off

RonaldMcDonald · 03/04/2015 21:50

Also Skater darling

I'd guess that many of us have achieved rather a lot

Your views are so basic it hurts

MoveAlongNow · 03/04/2015 21:51

This has been an interesting read. My own two pence worth is that I feel sorry for anyone who feels a need to wax, shave or neet their genitals!! Eek indeed, I'm crossing my legs at these stories of boils rashes and burns!! Poor tortured bits...

Even though it may not be a conscious porny thing, it can certainly become an unconscious aspect of societal pressure. Your idea of what it normal, or right, or clean, or sexy, or feminine can be formed by society you know. It has been known to happen once or twice before..

violetwellies · 03/04/2015 21:54

But it is a big issue, the subliminal messages that tell us that public fuzz is bad comes from recent (last 30 years) pornography. Which if nothing else I find rather distasteful. Makes my feminist hackles rise.
No individual (unless in the sex industry and providing for, ahem, specific tastes, wants to look like a pre pubescent (or extremely aged) female, but that's what happens. And we think it's entirely free will. Choice does not happen in a vacuum.

violetwellies · 03/04/2015 21:55

Pubic not public. (Notwithstanding certain caveats)

Only1scoop · 03/04/2015 21:56

Feminism NVQ level one Grin

Koalafications · 03/04/2015 22:00

These threads always leave me Hmm

Some posters feel so passionately about women shaving/waxing/epileptics and I just don't get it. Let them do it if they want to, why does it matter?! Freedom and choice, surely?

CookPassBabtrigde · 03/04/2015 22:03

Who says pubic fuzz is bad? Not a single poster on here has said that.

avoiretre · 03/04/2015 22:05

I just use scissors to keep it short and shave with a razor every 3 or 4 weeks.

plinkin · 03/04/2015 22:16

Ladies, Thank you. You've made me feel normal. I have been completely shaved before and am now currently sporting a full 'head' of hair down there (purely down to laziness more than anything else) and I can honestly say that I've been feeling a lot less clean and a bit whiffy and I was concerned that there might have been something wrong as it couldn't possibly be due to my pubic hair as it's 'meant to be there' after all... But it seems I'm not alone in feeling this way so will be taking steps to tidy myself up and see how it goes. To be honest, whatever a woman (or man) chooses to do with their pubic area is of no concern to anyone else but themselves. I don't see how judgement can be made against someone for doing something to their own body which has no impact on anyone else what so ever.

pinkfrocks · 03/04/2015 22:39

I'm with movealong and others who are really Shock that women want to do this to themselves.

I'm all for women doing what they want. But I feel sad that so many women feel that pubic hair is dirty and smelly- and have to remove it. On a 1:1 level I really don't care- live and let live.

But I do think that people who feel unclean with hair are kidding themselves about the smell issue and do want- subconsciously- either to revert to being pre-pubescent- or have been influenced by porn. You can't ignore the fact that the rise in removing hair coincides with accessible porn and young men's expectation of hairless women.

As I asked someone upthread- unless you get your own face down there, you cannot really know if you smell. This smelly thing is a red herring. I don't get that close to women personally, but in my day to day life I've never ever had the remotest whiff of another woman's hairy pussy.

The reality is that hair serves a purpose- to trap sweat - so removing it, you still sweat but it goes onto your skin or your knickers anyway, and if you smell of wee then you aren't drying yourself properly after having had one!

You also run the risk of inflamed hair follicles, itching, boils, and worse by being hair free. So the logic of being 'clean' and what you are at risk from doesn't stack up.

chickenfuckingpox · 03/04/2015 22:58

to answer the poster on page two who asked why we shave arms and legs and not pubes my underarms are sweaty as hell having no hair there helps reduce that plus i have a huge mole which needs watching and i just got into the habit of keeping them shaved my legs i have occasional eczema on when you put cream on hairy legs it itches and twitches like nobody's business! so i shave and cream regularly

in the winter i dont often bother with my legs

i occasionally trim the bit at the front of my pubes only if we have an extremely hot summer so i haven't had to do it for 5 years!

i dont really care if anyone else wants to shave wax cream there hair off i just find it a whole lot of fuss shaving my armpits and lower legs takes a second or two everything else is just too much like hard work Grin (confession is i dont even own a hairdryer as i find it too much bother my hair dries by itself it doesnt need help!)

good luck in your defuzzing ive been told an epilator is best for down there

plinkin · 03/04/2015 23:01

Um. Yes. You can tell if you smell down there. You don't have to 'get your face right in'. Trust me, As I'm speaking from very personal experience. And I haven't ever shaved because I want to look pre pubescent or like a porn star. I didn't do it because I was asked. I did because, initially I wanted to see what it was like. I liked it and continued to do it because I liked it. Nothing 'influenced' me except my own curiosity. Hmm

CoconutAmericano · 03/04/2015 23:04

I dont give a fiddlers what anyone else does with their pubes. Personally i strim them down to a number 1. For me it's more a sensory thing than a visual thing. I don't like the feel of long pubes against my pants. And that's really all there is to it for me.

babygiraffe86 · 03/04/2015 23:06

I don't know if it is an age thing - I'm 28 - but friends (the girls) and I have discussed our hair removal, mainly on a recommendation basis 'do you get waxed?' 'Yea I go here its great and costs this' ' oooo ill try there, all off?' 'Nah just a tidy up for me' and so on, so I'm aware in my group of friends who has a bald one, who has a shape and who just tidies - and I don't try and force my opinions on them, nor them onto me, but must be a lot more open to discussion than in the last clearly.

I first ever did mine when I was one day shaving nu legs and genuinely thought I'm gonna get rid of it all, did, and from then on preferred the feeling. 12 years later and even if I leave it a couple of months I still love that fresh all off feeling - pure personal preference.

babygiraffe86 · 03/04/2015 23:08

And chicken I will vouch for an epilator hurts like hell haha!
again curiosity - epilate my legs, so one day thought 'I wonder' f**k that ever again!!!

Witchofthenorth · 03/04/2015 23:26

Ok...

I do smell down there when I don't shave. I smell sweaty and I don't like it.
I hate the way it feels
I hate the feeling of blood and discharge being trapped in my pubic hair
I don't want to look like a 10 year old...my fanny hasn't looked like a 10 year olds since I was 10. You can clearly see I am a grown assed woman.
I haven't been influenced by porn because I didn't watch it when I started shaving
I haven't been brainwashed by some male dominated cult who feel the need to objectify woman
I ain't ever going to look like a porn star

I do like the extra sensation during sex, especially oral
I do reserve the right to do with whatever the fuck I like to my pubes
I do respect all you non shavers rights to sport a full "head" of fanny hair, and do so without resorting to insulting you and making wild sweeping assumptions about all of you

I am going to leave this thread as the urge to throw my phone off the wall is becoming too great to resist.

Only1scoop · 04/04/2015 02:50

What witch says

Couldn't give a rats arse

Especially a hairy rats arse....

freelanceconundrum · 04/04/2015 06:07

You may not have watched porn, but you certainly didn't just come up with the idea yourself.

I do both and i had a couple of laser treatments on my 'undercarriage'. I accept that porn has most probably infulenced it though and wonder if there is a subconsious pre pubescent desire. Not that it stops me.

I think that is why these threads get so frothy is that those who strip refuse to acknowledge either of those things and claim that it is all their own idea.

I also wouldn't have shaved under my arms if it hadn't been for fashion and cultura norm. I have them and my legs lasered thoroughly too now.

Aussiemum78 · 04/04/2015 07:02

I used to try and shave when I was 10 and I wasn't influenced by porn. I also love women's figures that small breasted. I just like that look. If I were an A cup I would be sooo happy. No bras!

I got everything lasered. Legs, Brazilian, underarms. I like it, no time wasted shaving, no ingrowns, no rashes. Before that I barely shaved as I couldn't be bothered doing it everyday (I'm very hairy).

Feckeggblue · 04/04/2015 08:41

I agree with the porn influence- if doesn't matter whether you've seen porn or not, it's about the idea penetrating pop culture and fashion from porn (after all it's not going to be direct is it? Who looks to porn for fashion and lifestyle advice Easter Wink)

However I disagree with pre pubescent. There are many differences between a 10 year old pubis and a 40 year old one and hair is only one. Shaving that off isn't going to make it look 10

SinclairSpectrum · 04/04/2015 09:22

Next year a (no doubt male) fashion designer will decide clothes look better on women with no toenails. The porn industry agrees and a (no doubt male) porn production company will start shooting with women without toenails.
Fast forward 10 years, women will be filing / cutting / lasering off their toenails citing that shoes fit better, their feet feel cleaner, never mind the excruciating agony, its their freewill and choice.
We will then all fight with each other about whether its a feminist issue, all the while men will be picking their intact toenails not giving a shit.
I despair at us sometimes.