The Shape of Crepes to Come

[hattymattie]

Here we are crepeys - Friday 13th!

[Auriga]

One of my exes was at school with DH. They once went on a coach trip to London to sing Mahler and he recognised DH from that trip, 25 years later.

The same guy knew two of my other exes, for unrelated reasons (this is a lot more coincidental than it may sound, given that they were such an assorted bunch and from different countries) but he's the only one who's still a friend. I was no good at switching back into 'just good friends' mode.

Musing on The Crepey Anthem as a possible source of titles.

[NUFC69]

A sunny day here: the GC will be arriving shortly and we have decided to go to Alnwick Gardens for the day.

I have no exes here or anywhere, although I do recall coming back from a daytime date and getting changed just in time for DH when he arrived to take me out for the evening. (I was also dating his flat mate - am now wondering about my morals).

New baby is still losing a little weight, but that's only to be expected atm. DS was telling me that he saw an old lady at SCBU over the weekend who has been knitting baby clothes for them for over 15 years - how lovely.

[lalsy]

Holding hands with Crem and Hatty. dd has become (mostly) great company this year - wise, funny, witty, able to laugh at herself. Gulp.

Auriga, that sounds wonderful.

Crem, that's completely rubbish about the physio - I hope it gets sorted pronto.

[bigTillyMint]

I don't think any of my ex's know each other. Quite a few very non-significant ones seem to be very successful (if a well-paid job is how you measure success) Am In awe of all of you who have happy relationships with your ex's!

NU, glad to hear DGS is doing OK (DD didn't put any weight on for 6 weeks)

Not feeling on top form at home ATM. Feeling completely knackered and worn down by teen issues. Fingers crossed my BP is OK - off to GP shortly.

[lalsy]

BTM good luck at the doc, and sympathy on the teen issue front.

[herbaceous]

Crikey. Despite combing Facebook, I have no idea what any of my exes are doing. Well, apart from the one who is now gay and living in New York. And another one who's an architect.

I met someone at a party a few months ago who was the spitting image of my first big love. It was most disturbing. Got me trawling social media to try and find FBL, but to no avail. I suspect that time has not been kind to him, and as he smoked a lot and worked outside, he is no longer the bronzed Matt Dillon lookalike of my youth. < drifts off into weverwie >

[Rosebag]

I'm more than happy not to see or hear from any of my Ex's although seem to have some morbid curiosity about whether they made a success of their lives or not. Get a certain amount of satisfaction if they've grown bald and fat if they ditched me for a prettier slimmer model, back in the day...
Crem any news re physio?
Tilly I hope you're ok. Don't let the buggers get you down. With all the advice out there on how to manage teens, I don't know any parents who doesn't tear they're hair out. Maybe teens have to be revolting otherwise they don't break away and become independent. How long is DD's school day being extended to? Mine already does 8.20am-4pm.
My DD is only partially better. GP hasn't got culture results back yet. I have to send her to school…she ok in herself…just got discomfort and soreness.
Working at the theatre this morning and then lunch with a friend Hope it will lift my mood…those of you who are on my fb may have read how I was struggling to find my 3 positive things to post yesterday….

[Blackduck]

Here we are in the last those of primary school which seems to involve ds bursting into tears at the drop of a hat
we had two major outbursts last night over really trivial matters. Have told dp to wind his neck in a bit as he has a tendency to be somewhat robust in his responses to ds.

Part of my meltdown on Sunday was the realisation I am losing my mum - she isn't the person she was after the health issues of last year. Only to be expected as dp tactfully pointed out to me sigh

[Stropperella]

Hello all. Completely knackered here and everyone a bit frazzled. Dd is immensely excited about Prom, which is tomorrow, but she keeps having stress attacks about (variously) her arms being too fat (no part of her is fat), she and "all" her friends having blue dresses and other such things of importance. It now looks like she and a friend are going to prom in a (free) chauffeur-driven Merc, thanks to someone in friend's family, but there has been no word about how they are getting home. Suspect I may have to volunteer my services and am not looking forward to hanging around the local agricultural college at 11pm looking for my teen among the presumably several hundred who will be there (year group of nearly 600, but plenty of prom-refusers).

Ds had a very exciting time wild camping at the weekend. I was glad I didn't know about what he was up to until afterwards - when I saw the baked bean can they were using for target practice with the air rifle. They all came back with homemade spears and ds said they got up at 4.30am to "go hunting". We endured a long story about digging a hole to have a poo in. With his friend. Next time, they want to go for 2 nights. I will have a hard time with that, now that I know what they're getting up to. But hey...

Had a huge row with dh yesterday about hedge-cutters, which culminated in him having a Basil Fawlty-style tantrum and breaking said hedge-cutter. This is totally out of character for him and he blamed it on my nagging, so then we had an epic row. Took several hours of utter unreasonableness on both sides for us to get to the point of laughing hysterically about ourselves (at about 2am). One bin down, one hedge cutter down and two examples of how not to behave. All this change is getting to us, I think. The dcs will soon be spotted on some forum asking for help with dealing with moody, badly-behaved parents. Also will need to have a word with dm, as dh is fed up with her pointedly not introducing him to her friends whenever we are out with her and meet them. This came up during the epic row, and tbh, he has a point. She took us to an open gardens do on Sunday and there were a lot of people she knows there and she very obviously only introduced me and the dcs. I didn't think she would be that rude, especially as she seems fond of dh, but she seems embarrassed by having to introduce him to her friends. Which is ridiculous and hurtful.

Strength to all those dealing with dcs on the cusp of leaving home. And MrsS, I am really sorry to hear you have had yet another funeral to go to. Crem, hope the physio appointment is sorted soon. And BTM - sounds like you need a break.

[Stropperella]

And exes - nooo, I don't want to go there. There are too many of them who were mad, bad and dangerous to know. Thankfully, a couple at least are dead and there are another two who I never want to see again, ever. I always made crap choices in men and have never had a half-way healthy relationship until I met dh - and even some aspects of our relationship are probably a bit suspect (epic two-sided rows have only occurred on a handful of occasions in more than a decade - the other rows have tended to be me shouting at him about stuff - cf. "nagging" - I suspect two-sided rows might be healthier - up to a point).

[motherinferior]

I have dropped off DD2 at her Big School induction day. Absent-mindedly said Hello to a smallish girl who is spitting image of WAF, who looked rather bemused.

DD1 has to depart for Pompeii at...2am tomorrow. DP is taking her. It is possibly the most inconvenient time of the 24, being neither a late night nor an early morning.

I have a piece out in a Telegraph supplement soon about 'hover or hands-off' re kids starting university.

[bigTillyMint]

Hope your DD has a great time Stropps. And when is your interview? I had a feeling it was today, but I must be wrong!

BP was apparently OK, so I do not need to up the meds to the highest dosage, phew. And I got passed straight onto the nurse to have my smear At least it's done! Still not sure if my iron levels have improved as the blood test last week didn't cover that, but I have the Haematology consultant next week for my annual check-up so hopefully he might test for that as I'm just so tired. Mind you that might be just down to not getting enough sleep.

MI it is precisely the hover/hands off dilemma that is causing me the most stress with DD (though not uni) - I still feel really responsible (and so culpable) for her behaviour

[hattymattie]

Ooh MI - you'll have to PM it when it comes out .

[bigTillyMint]

MI, hope it's online - couldn't be seen buying the Telegraph!

[wordassociationfootball]

I must ask DD1 who the likely mini me was. I don't think it was her... not sure she looks like either of us. Tall and sporting two plaits today tho?

Auriga love your doggy treats story. Reminds me of how I apparently took hold of my first ice lolly by the ice and happily chewed on the stick.

Of my exes, the last one (before DH) arrives in our sitting room as a voice from the TV several times a week. But everyone's used to it.

[motherinferior]

Should we call the next thread 'Older laydeez are divinely Crepey'?

[cremolafoam]

Crepeys I have started a thread in off the beaten track.
Things are not good here and I wanted to keep this off the regular board. (Dd)

[CointreauVersial]

Oh Crem, will go look.

Strops - sounds like the wild camping was excellent character-building stuff. I cannot imagine DS digging a hole to poo in - he won't even use the loos at other people's houses, let alone the great outdoors. He's a bit odd like that.

Secondary School induction day here too. DD1 made sure DD2 looked appropriate before we left the house, whipping out the hair straighteners and checking for correct use of deodorant. DS has been charged with collecting her at the end of the day and walking her to the station. (Beachy - her Peer Mentor is "F"!) She is very excited.

Ex-boyfriends? I'm not exactly tripping over them. Ex One lives in California, is still single, and I see him on occasion when he comes over to visit his brother. Another lives somewhere near Manchester, married with kids, and is apparently a Big Cheese in Environmental Consultancy, and another was also last heard of in California, and an academic. The first and third of these I'm still on excellent terms with, but the second hasn't forgiven me for dumping him on Valentine's Day and running off with Ex One.

[hattymattie]

Crem - for all of us - there is "empty next support thread" for next year.

MI - I'm picturing David Walliams saying your thread title.

Painter arrived an hour late and then had the temerity to sleep in his van on the drive over his hour and a half lunch break! I opened the letter box very noisily and probably with cats bum mouth.

[hattymattie]

Crem - I'm really sorry - I thought I was worries about uni next year. I've had a look at your thread. Much love xx

[herbaceous]

Light-relief S&B.

I have been coveting these brogues for some time. They are now in the sale. It would be foolish not to buy them, wouldn't it?

New thread title idea: crepeys jiggle when they wiggle.

[motherinferior]

My silver sandals arrived...in a size 6.

[bigTillyMint]

Herbs, I was thinking about that for a title too! Nice brogues too!

MI, linky?

[originalpiratematerial]

I love these crepey threads - look forward to the next one, whatever the title .

I am having a "forget what did" sort of time at the moment. Let's see - yesterday in a fit of something - madness ? I went for an introductory session at CrossFit which is a scary sort of gym where they concentrate on old-style weight lifting, pull-ups etc. And my complete failure even to attempt a pull-up led to them declaring me unsuitable for CrossFit. Probably quite justified, but still also mortifying . It reminded me of when I had riding lessons when I was little, you had to cross your stirrups over the the front and then trot without them and I fell off every single week, invariably into the wettest/muddiest corner of the paddock .

Crem I've not seen your other thread but .

[originalpiratematerial]

Oh cremola I have seen it now - I am so sorry .