The Shape of Crepes to Come

[hattymattie]

Here we are crepeys - Friday 13th!

WTF is coasteering?! It sounds horrendous Glad your BBQ went well

I will be away for most of the summer but would really like to come to a crepey meet up in the autumn, ds3 permitting!

OPM I am alzo on for a September meetup. Hopefully after we have dropped dd off as a fresher as uni.
Perhaps the last weekend in Sept?

QQ how did yesterday go?

I have spent most of the day lurking and trying to catch up with general domestic slavery. Had a desultory tour of tesco. Yay which was being rearranged so I was unable to find anything without doubling back 3 or 4 times. It took bloody ages ( as I was shambling with lack of enthusiasm )and I only went there because dd wanted a particular kind of facial wipe that they didn't even have. Then cooking and baking for week ahead, a bit of washing and a tidy up of all the stuff we've bought for Africa. Have now shoved it all in the rucksack until proper packing takes place. We needed to make sure it would all fit.
I have tasked dd with making a list of her kit( which she's ignored)
Now onto the drudgery of the ironing .
Dd has played mario cart for seven hours.
Dh has laid important looking work stuff all over the dining table and made stressed noises if I have asked him for assistance.

Crem, how well I remember the "getting ready for the week ahead" ordeal of Sundays. I am a bit at how DD can play a game for seven hours.

I am also at a loss to know what "coasteering" is - but it sounds interesting and, possibly fun.

QQ, yes, how did you get on?

MicroNU has had his first poo, and is out of the incubator (hooray!); he has lost about 4 oz which isn't too bad, really.

We have had a rather desultory Sunday although I've had a nice long chat with DD1 who is off to Pompeii with school on Weds. She is on vg form at the moment and very friendly.

Oh god, the inlaw visit looms. There is backstory here, of a degree I won't go into online, but also last time they came they flounced out and apparently this was All My Fault. I hold my hand up to some of this - I'm sure I was quite unwelcoming and I just don't like them but also (a) DP is more of a culprit too, surely, than anyone will concede (b) it was just after their mum had died and there was a lot of grief and emotion about. However, I am now the villainous witch who "made his family feel so unwelcome they had to leave". I am also, separately, the person who has made it "impossible to see his friends at our house" (in practice this means one friend whom he meets occasionally and I get on fine with).

When I started asking about when they were visiting this time - because there are quite a few weekend performances, mine and DD1's, which are coming up and it would be nice to know when the hell they are in fact due, he ended up saying "oh he was sorry they were coming at all". Because obviously I am going to create and make everyone miserable.

I am absolutely buggered if I am going to have this one pinned on me. I really am. Am behaving with ostentatious perfection about it.

And in the meantime every time I ask him for dates he kicks off.

FGS, of course you need to know when they are coming! How are you going to get everything ready, otherwise? Can you point out to him that it will look even more unwelcoming if you aren't ready - there is not enough food in/cooking, beds aren't sorted etc etc.

Can we lock them all in a room and leave them there, these men? DH said earlier I Hoovered Yesterday And There Is Already Cat Hair On The Carpet. And looked at me expectantly.

Cor Cremo, that sounds like a fun day

MI, how frustrating. MrsS is right about needing to know - does your DH actually know when they are coming?!

We have just taken in a Tesco delivery and the fridge is groaning with food that I think I can manage with very little preparation space, but I'm not looking forward to cooking it in the midst of plaster and yuk.

They aren't staying with us this time / they clearly think we live in unspeakable squalor. We are having a day out in Windsor or suchlike. Except I have only just found out when exactly, thanks to DP huffily digging out his outlook diary in martyred fashion. It does not clash with my singing more's the pity or DD1's bronze arts award.

I am not, not going to be the scapegoat this time. I shall beam welcomingly while BIL talks about his arms salesman friends. And refrain from voicing views on, well, anything. This will piss off DP grand style as it will defy his insistence that I am horrible and unwelcoming and have cut him off from friends and family.

Result, MI! (that they are not staying with you, I mean!) And only one day to endure.

I keep getting rather unnerved by the picture and friend request of my ex popping up every time I use FB

Oh hec BTM . Don't like the sound if that

I am FB mates with two of mine.

I work with three of mine

I split from him over 19 (where did that time go?) years ago.

It was a very passionate and ultimately unhealthy relationship, and I was much happier when I managed to extricate myself after nearly 7 years living together. It was another life and whilst I am nosey about what he has been up to, I don't think I really want to connect with him again at all.

I am FB friends with some of my minor boyfriends!

No, that makes sense. I feel the reverse - I like being able to know my alcoholic lefty hack ex isn't living a cutting-edge intellectual life the way I always thought he would.

Delete and block, BTM. I was FB friends with one of my exes, but he doesn't do FB any more.

You can just ignore him BTM you know! What's he going to do about it?

BTM - block and ignore - very liberating. I am pleased to see I am still on Mrs S's FB after her clearout .

I am waiting for the painters to turn up but am not optimistic as despite passing twice to say 30 June she told me tomorrow and showed me her computer chart (which she had not updated saying tomorrow).. We have cleared all the bedrooms and are sleeping on mattresses on the floor so they need to get on with it.

MI - in laws are always so complicated and a no win situation. Very annoying and you definitely need a fixed date.

Thanks Crepesters, I know I can ignore him (have other FB friend requests that I have ignored!) but his profile pic keeps popping up with a reminder!

Realises she doesn't have an exs who are likely to stalk her on FB....
Realises she has been with dp for a gazillion years........

I am starting the week feeling sick with nerves. This really isn't a good way to feel, is it.

What's you nervous about MI?

CDiff. Back tomorrow and will be critical about my work. Also application for Indian visa; am convinced I've got this wrong, and also have to do letter of disclaimer as I'm a journalist.

And DP is going to get @rsier and @rsier about BIL visit. I am NOT going to be cast in the role of evil witch again. Which I know he is longing to do. I really resent this insistence that I have a nice social life and he has none because (a) he's either working or doing childcare (b) I have forbidden him from seeing his mates.

Sympathies MI, that is a rubbish way to start the week.
I am also . Didn't sleep a wink last night ( sudden panic about dd going away) and now this morning I phoned to see how the waiting list was going for a physio appt , only to be told they had no record of a referral. I am holding back tears and it's not even 11am .
Not even mentioned my ddad. Things look scary there too .
Wobble

What about all his Tai Chi, MI? Weeks away!

I was feeling really stressed till I got to work - no time to worry about home when I'm here