What does one wear to a swingers club?

[SnowNotSoWhite]

Apart from not a lot
Have no intention of getting totally bare assed in public so any ideas on nice lingerie and clothes that would, be, ahem, accommodating?

Aww, I want to be near the smut shops in London.
I cannot believe this thread still has legs. We have a weekend date for our first foray in to swinging; the first weekend in April. Can anyone recommend anything/anywhere for then?

If you can get to the Wirral, TownHouse International is a cracking place. (They also do ace fetish nights. And toasties.)

Don't be frightening me with your expert fetish nights Kisses. At this point in time, I am a bi-curious amateur just looking for lots of hot, no strings sex. I am no sophisticated fetish vamp yet anyway. Unfortunately, the Wirral is too far unless we go up North and ask my family to babysit. Imagine that conversation .

DP and I dance a lot too. It's good cover.

Ahh, I admire your stealth.

Most of the time we actually are off to some sort of dance event/workshop/classs. Just now and then.... not.

To anyone Why are some people open to the whole bdsm scene and yet other people will not look at you in the same way if you are into the bdsm scene ?

It's just like talking about you sex life really, isn't it? Some people are happy to talk/hear about it and some are not.
I remember being a young thing of 19, just away from home, first "proper grown up man" boyfriend who had some lovely, horny gay mates. After a few drinks, one of them was giving me advise about how to tighten myself back up with a pencil should I decide to try anal. The 19 year old me was agog.

We've got a date (DH and I) and are going to a big club night in London soon. It will be our first ever foray into the scene and no way would I tell anyone, not even my bezzie of 25 years. People like to "know" you in a certain way, I think. Strangely enough, the person I have confided in is a nearly 60 year old grandmother. I picked my audience if you like. She was cool with it, didn't judge and the only negative point of view she expressed was, "you and your DH are really good together. Why risk spoiling it by living out a fantasy?"

I think it is because we are so sorted that we are doing this. Coming with us then, TheVictorian?

I am only coming back on this thread to spill the beans afterwards if someone gives me a good recommendation for a waterproof eyeliner. I wear lots and I need it to be waterproof on the night if it's going to be a bit steamy. I hope the natives don't eat us alive.

I hope the natives don't eat us alive.
They won't if you say no.

For waterproof makeup, I'd google to see what synchro swimmers use and recommend.

I'm no good at "no" Ebearhug. Try anything once, bar incest and Morris dancing.

I always thought the cat got off lightly, when it comes to curiosity.

Two books were recently recommended by a friend that i thought people may like:

1. The sex diaries project edited by Arianne cohen

2. Dare what happens when fantasies come true by Tracy cox

Another book recommended is Swingers by Ashley Lister.

cuntybunty how was the swinging ?

Its a pitty its gone a bit quite on this thread.

I want to know how cunty's swinging was too

Great this thread has started up again!

So I met a guy recently who's been going to this place for years. It's essentially a naturist town in the South of France but parts of it are very 'adult'...

It's even on Tripadvisor!

Should I go..?

www.tripadvisor.co.uk/Attraction_Review-g196602-d1553899-Reviews-Cap_d_Agde_Naturist_Village-Cap_d_Agde_Agde_Herault_Languedoc_Roussillon.html

This thread in general (apart from the judgyness which fucks me RIGHT off) restores my faith in Mumsnet.

Getting less and less swingy here and more and more subby. Which is half disturbing, half quite sweet, depending on how you look at it, but either way gets me and DP judged to hell and back. Still, never been happier and more secure in myself, and the only people who have to deal with seeing our frankly odd behaviour are other kinky types and the odd swinger that wanders in on us if we use a shared room on a general swinger night. Apparently we sometimes alarm them, and they dont always understand rules about not interrupting bdsm scenes, so we've started keeping it more private apart from on fet nights, but we do get some lovely respectful questions in the hot tub and bar, mostly about the collar and rope type stuff. Which is fair enough tbh, when I was a vanilla swinger I would have been a bit about what I suppose could look a bit abusive at first glance.

We've found a club that combines fetish and swinging really well, and the staff take no shit, which is nice.

Nc for this post. Just read this on the daily mail and thought that it would be suited for this thread:

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2633635/Dozens-super-rich-swingers-masked-orgy-Gogglebox-posh-couples-3-5million-mansion-red-wine-BANNED-protect-carpets.html

Is there a specific outfit that is worn at a swingers club ? or is it any outfit that a person chooses but obviously not too explicit ?

Stumbled upon this discussion - as you do - and would like to clear up some misconceptions.

The very nature of swingers/sex clubs means they are often - but not always - attended by those who are confident within themselves, but not necessarily beautiful - but sometimes are. Age ranges from 20s to 70s but in my experience mainly 30s to 50s. Some go to dress up in a sexy outfit and talk with liberated, open minded people. Some go to watch. Some go to as many people as they can. Some couples go and have sex in front of others (but only have sex with each other). Some go to use the sauna. Some husbands watch their wives have sex with other men (the cuckold scene). I have never seen a woman - whatever their appearance or age or marital status - treated without respect or courtesy. No means no - always and absolutely.

These establishments are one of the safest places a woman can visit. Single women included. Single women do not need a "minder" nor will they be regarded poorly for visiting alone. And for a woman it is often free or cheap entry. There are limits to single men entering and drunken disorderly behaviour is not tolerated.

Ladies, buy a nice sexy baby doll or body stocking. Or the classic bra/pants/suspenders/fishnets with heels. Go in street wear and change when you are there. 8 stone or 18 stone you will be fine (trust me - I know). The first time go late on a Friday or Saturday night (11 pm) so you can "hide" amongst the crowd. You will love it. Say to yourself I'll not have sex the first few times I go. "I'll just go to see". Then after a couple of times just have sex with your partner in a private room (which can be locked).

Don't be judgemental. Don't make opinions without knowledge.
I have introduced more than one lady to this lifestyle and not one has regretted it. Some never visited another sex club again but they are glad they have been to one.

Can in touch if you would like some more information. I am only too happy to help.

So wherevis the OP of this thread
Maybe someone has posted this in the hope of 'getting off' on the answers!

Wear anything that doesn't chafe - you'll get enough of that during the evening anyway.

For those that are interested I know through personal experience 3 clubs in the Manchester area (Manchester/Chorley/Swinton) and know through recommendation one in Sheffield.