What does one wear to a swingers club?

[SnowNotSoWhite]

Apart from not a lot
Have no intention of getting totally bare assed in public so any ideas on nice lingerie and clothes that would, be, ahem, accommodating?

Victorian, let me introduce you to the concept of 'pervertibles'. Much of what one uses - not just me, but lots of others into this sort of thing - is stuff bought from DIY shops, garden centres, cycling shops (seriously, butyl rubber inner tubes have so many uses I'm amazed nobody sells the stuff on a roll) pharmacists, cake decorating suppliers, clothes shops and fitness suppliers. Most of what you need is probably already lying around your house. Grab an object at random, the simpler the better (and nothing with mains current in for safety reasons, electroplay is for the advanced and experienced kinkster) and ask yourself 'how could DP and I have fun with this?'

Basically, with the right mindset, the answer to your question is 'the entire contents of whatever buildng DP and I are currently in.'

Ha ha totally agree with Kisses. Certainly makes a trip to B&Q more interesting....

Not Basically what do you currently have in your collection of items eg for the sex toys eg vibrators ect, for the bdsm eg whips, chains, hand cuffs ect and also any items you have customized ect. Kisses Brings a whole new meaning when looking at items in a diy store

DP just asked, incredulously, 'CAKE DECORATING suppliers?' and accused me of making that up.

She really, really doesn't want to know. (I really didn't want to know either, but you know what lesbians are like for over-sharing when they've a few drinks down 'em.)

Kisses - It may not matter to you, but it does to many people if the person 'fellating' them is a man or a woman.

Yes, and it it matters to you, it's on you to check. Seriously.

I have only just read this amazing thread.

The honesty of some posters is very welcome. Both good and bad.

I think I like this kind of thing in the fantasy of my own bedroom iyswim. This thread has certainly opened my eyes though.

If it was the recipient's first time at such a club, he may not have been aware of that possibility. I wonder what the fellator thought that the recipient thought?

(Now there's a sentence there's not much call for in life!)

The fellator probably thought "oh lovely, someone wants me to give them a blow job dressed like this, this outfit must suit me, I should wear this top more often, maybe I should reapply my lipstick first cos lots of people like that and I enjoy it too"

Or something.

Not "oh dear, someone is interested in performing sexual acts with me, in this outfit that I am wearing to an open minded sexual event, how terrible, they must want to know all about me and I should point out everything that they might not have noticed about me"

Yeah, you're probably right Britta!

Ok Victorian, you are sooo curious!

Equipment I have includes a spreader bar, leather wrist and ankle cuffs, different floggers, a whip, nipple clamps, latex gloves, butt plugs, a strap on dildo, different vibrators and dildos, rope, a ( male) chastity device, a cock ring, feathers, a paddle, a ping pong bat, clothes pegs,bondage tape, a blindfold, lube, chains, other restraint devices, a Jennings gag and the fantastic Magic Wand. There may be other bits and pieces but I can't remember them right now..

HTH

Wow, Destinty, you are, er, well equipped!

Well, if we're posting catalogues: all the kit for shibari - over a hundred metres of rope of varying guages and materials (there's a specialist website out there with DP looking VERY beautiful in nothing but rope and my knotwork), assorted silks for tying, a couple of carabiners, all my braiding and splicing tools, and a 180g pulley set - a leather belt with a non-slip rubber grip, a metre and a half of rubber hose (VERY versatile) a cane, a braided-rope ball-gag, a pack of clothes pegs (for when DP has been VERY naughty), a pot of tiger balm (mostly for provoking DP's imagination about what I MIGHT do with it, heh heh heh), about half a pound of well-aged ginger root, couple of butt plugs, one inflatable, assorted dildi and vibrators, a g-spot thingy, lube, a roll of pallet cling film, the various collars I've made for DP since we've been together (a braided rope one, a metal one with a pretty blue pendant that she can wear in public, a paracord one with a puzzle lock and a heavyweight steel - and - chain one I'll finish some day) and the braided rope slave belts she wears under her clothes most days because she finds the constant reminder soothing. Assorted ancillary bits and pieces for when I'm in a mood to improvise.

I've built assorted items for local pro-dom(me)s as well. YOU try riveting the plates on an Iron Maiden without singing 'Run To The Hills' at the top of your voice. Or having a conversation with a ball-bearing supplier about why you need a 37mm surgical steel ball that doesn't have to be the nanometrically-precise engineering part that is his firm's USP 'because it's going up a lady's arse, mostly'... that was the most uncomfortable silence I've ever heard on a telephone line.

Hahahaha brilliant!

Well I've just been on another thread about. BDSM in Relationships. Never knew there were so many kinky types on MN! Maybe we could persuade them over to this thread...

Tbf, if any parenting forum would have this thread, it would be MN...

I've had a few, so bare/bear (? WTF, I really am pissed) with me; I am having all sorts of fun in my head, looking at different locations for swinging clubs and doing the local accents: Birmingham, swinging central: "just slip it up me, Brenda love". The place in Wigan/Widnes with the cheese toasties: "eh, Derek and Ryan, give us a good, rough spit roast before they dish up 'toasties" and so on and so forth. Here in the South West (although not a native), "'ere Pete, slip a Johnnie on, I don't want no 'erpes".

Mind you, we are watching "extreme Dog Grooming" and I have asked DH to do some similar artistry with what is left of my muff. I not sure I need any clubs, I have it all going on in my head. Oh dear, half term is hanging heavy and then I can come on here and open my bad brain. Ahhhhh.

Destinysdaughter you certainly are quite equipped. I must admit that when it comes to bdsm / swinging, I am quite curious. To everyone thank you so far for being open and answering my questions, the answers have been quite interesting.

The wicked side of me would love to go to a swinging club and just wear bra and sarong. Then watch the guys faces when I drop sarong and see who still wants some 'swinging' action.....;-) those who don't know what I mean see my profile and pics!! Great thread guys and girls and all in between

Sarah you look great! Very elegant... And you would be very welcome at a fetish club. :)

Lol, well thank you....x

Well... Last night I went to my very first ever fetish night ever...

IT WAS BLOODY AMAZING

Swingers nights are fairly accepting and relaxed, but this was a whole new level. SO friendly, it wasn't scary at all (well some bits were bloody terrifying, but that wasn't the people or club, more what DP was threatening to do to me in it ) and so relaxing to not feel like I had to explain myself or whatever. No actual sex or anything, just amazing outfits, chatting, romance (admittedly our definition of romance is maybe unconventional...) and people having a lovely time hurting each other and being bossed about.

Covered in bruises, like. When I stop giggling like an idiot I predict I will be sore for AGES. Can't wait to see how the marks develop

Oh, and since this is style and beauty, by the end of the night I was wearing belt, collar and tortoiseshell rope body harness. And a massive daft grin and faraway look...

Found my way over here from the thread in relationships. I was intrigued so decided to take a nosey.

So lovely to meet/read of others on here. Though I'm not totally surprised.

We're in the middle of doing up our new playroom since moving and seeing some of those posts have reminded me that I forgot to order a few things!

BrittaPieandChips What were the various types of the activities that were taking place in the club ?