Have just received the 'schedule and dress code' for a wedding I'm attending.

[ShowOfHands]

I'm screwed.

I'm seriously screwed.

I'm disappointed - I could do with a laugh but you just look gorgeous. Humph.

Arf at that link "it's that simple, 1 2 3 " Yeah right. I go to the school of hairdressing you went to indith. Wash, go. Don't go to the hairdressers. Wondering if I should though.

You look lovely. Probably a neutral jacket/posh cardigan would be best to complement the purple.

Hairdressers are high-risk, in my experience. There's always a possibility they'll get it totally wrong (especially with styling) and you'll have to run home and put your head under the tap, so maybe best to go a day or two in advance rather than on the day itself.

You look ber-yeeeeutiful!

Agree about a neutral jacket to sling over the top. Keep your hair under the hat/in a bun/nice ponytail and don't worry about hairdressers.

Shoes ... flat neutral brogues? Aldo have a sale at the mo, as do Clarks. Or ebay. Ballet flats would be nice too.

It actually is simple though, I promise. Even I can do it and I can't locate a hairbrush most days. I went to a hairdresser to get my hair done once. It had all fallen out by the time I got half way down the street.

Aww you're all drunk very complimentary. Lying obv. Please be honest. Do I look ridiculous? I don't feel like me.

I love brogues. Colour? No to ballet whatsits.

Will attempt uppy, twisty hair.

I am not drunk! Well, on tea and biscuits maybe. [rock n roll]

Paleish neutral for shoes. Not too tan/yellow. This kind of business

Or these.

You don't look daft, you look great. Do you look like you? Perhaps not. So then what do you want to do? Borrow a dress that you think is more in keeping with the wedding but not feel comfortable or wear something that is more your thing but not up to scratch for the dress code? The borrowed dress might feel more you once you've teamed it with a jacket and shoes that you like.

I have never attempted big hair. I have dyed it ridiculous colours if that helps? I suspect not. I don't do anything to it. I braid it or put it up simply, that's it. Usually do bog all to it tbh.

I wish I could wear heels. I'd get these in a flash. I'd love some brogues. Ballet flats I won't wear as I feel like an infant in them. I like a bit more chunk iyswim. I wear Doc Marten's as a rule. I like to know I have footwear on.

Not feeling like me is fine actually. Not sure what 'me' is. I'm thinner than I've been in years, look totally different and nothing from my old life fits. DH is similarly pale over the whole wedding. I feel like a poor friend and don't want to get it all wrong. I'd like to look acceptable and not like I'm wearing somebody else's clothes. I love the dress actually and it fits perfectly. I'm not used to having a figure though. I wear baggy stuff all the time. DH says I dress like I'm hiding.

don't wear the heels.
unless you're tiny, you'll be fine.
it's only the "dress code" they can enforce - they can't exactly force you to damage your feet for them!

You don't look like a poor friend in the pictures. Did my links help at all? I saw too late that you don't do ballet flats ? sorry ? but I liked the brogues I linked to.

Schedule sounds OK. People might have babies to feed and so on. Or just going for part of the day. But dress code isn't on. I wouldn't bother going.

Be proud of yourself!

shoes?

it looks great.
if you're worried about your figure showing, you could wear a shawl or cardigan when you feel self-conscious.

Really vivienne? DH's best mate of 20yrs? I would never not go. Schedule I wholly appreciate.

Linked brogues look a bit, um, orthopaedic. Woud never wear again either.

Indith shoes are fine but meh. Too dainty and girly.

I have no intention of ever wearing heels. I suspect after 32yrs, I couldn't do it comfortably anyway.

It's not so bad having a dress code is it? I suppose they are just having their day and you're at liberty to conform or not?

Oh, sorry, I quite liked those brogues. And to be honest I thought all brogues looked a bit orthopaedic ...

But that's the kind of colour I think would be good with your purple dress.

they'd be too high for me.