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ApuskiDusky · 12/02/2011 20:32

New thread!

Not that I've been on the old one much Blush)

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hf128219 · 13/02/2011 13:42

Vin that is crap - really feel for you. Please don't flounce!

You could ask for your posts to be deleted?

vinvinoveritas · 13/02/2011 13:47

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TheAllNewOoooh · 13/02/2011 13:53

Oh crap, Vin, that's my worst nightmare. There is so much across here that literally I haven't voiced to anyone in RL. It's rather liberating being able to say these things without fear of anyone you know connecting you to them.

Has the emailer given you a friendly heads up or is it something a bit more stalkery?

How about something yellow themed for your new name?

pickledsiblings · 13/02/2011 13:53

Vin, PM us with your namechange and then as hf says, get posts deleted. It is a good idea to start afresh every now and again anyway, so as to maintain one's anonimity.

traceybath · 13/02/2011 14:02

Afternoon!

Oh NY poor DD - she is in the wars! Hopefully she'll be out soon and if she does have a congenital weakness - hopefully they'll be able to give you some advice as to how help prevent future problems or at least they'll treat anything very promptly in future.

Vin - am never sure name-changing really works if you have a distinctive style which I think you do. I tend to work on the proviso that I don't post anything that I wouldn't be happy for anyone I know to read in RL.

carciofi · 13/02/2011 14:36

Gosh Vin, that person has way too much time on her (or his) hands!

pickledsiblings · 13/02/2011 14:44

Ladies, are any of you expert macaron makers? If so, can you recommend a book.

I have seen this beautiful book in Waitrose but it hasn't had good reviews; This on the other hand has.

There are countless other mouthwatering books out there on the same subject - how to create the perfect macaron, just like the French. Can anyone comment? Bonsoir?

loobylu3 · 13/02/2011 14:45

Thank you so much for the bag suggestions yesterday.

tracey- I have been looking at Peony and Moore rather a lot recently and have even shown several to DH who made disapproving noises about the price!
I have signed up in the hope that I may receive a discount code. The Lucia bag looks like the sort of thing I am looking for although prefer it to be a little darker (fussy).

red- I do like the Zara bag but wouldn't fit all my clobber in it. I still tend to carry a changing mat around for DD2 which is about A4 sized, although I guess I could manage without not.

carciofi- a couple of the Boden bags look nice but I think the slouchy one is a little too big for everyday (definitely unreasonable and fussy)!

NY- your poor DD really has been in the wars. I hope she makes a complete recovery this time.
Sorry to hear about your DS too exhausted. Nursery can be dreadful for picking up infections :(

vin- what a horrible thing to happen and what a mean person :(
If you feel anxious about it, I would name change and stop writing so much personal stuff. It would be such a shame to do that though as I think this thread is great for support and advice in so many ways.
I can I can understand why you are drawn to HC, especially after your lovely DD's illness. I do love my job in many ways. It is a very privileged position to be in and one that can make a lot of difference to people's lives at a difficult time.
However, I can promise you that long, irregular hours has no appeal to me post children. Indeed, one of the main reasons I choose GP was because of the flexibility. DH has to work v long/ antisocial hours as he is in a competitive hospital specialty. Although he enjoys his job (he might not admit it) and is talented he very much dislikes not seeing the children more and being able to have regular family time at the weekend. It is also hard being married to someone in this position as so much childcare/ housework, etc falls to you and it can be lonely being alone a lot. (I know I'm not the only one on this thread in this position by any means)! Compared to other professions, he doesn't really get well paid per hour of his time nor does he get corporate perks which you would if you continued long term in a top law firm.
I know it sounds as if I am trying to put you off and I don't mean to. I just really hope that you accept the job which is going to make you happiest and most fulfilled in the long term.

annie- I sympathise about your bad hair cut. I had my hair cut last week and am not happy either. She cut the layers around my face too short :(
I am having a really ugly day today in general. I don't seem to look any good without make up any more- pale and dull. All topped off by a bout of conjunctivitis!
I have put on my navy Janice because at least that flatters my figure!

Can I ask you guys a question? This is not relating to me but to a friend. What age would you TTC up to assuming that you already had two healthy children? Obviously, it is an individual decision and hard to give a general response but at what age would you personally decide that it wasn't worth the risk?

AllBuggiedOut · 13/02/2011 14:46

oh vin that's carp. I tend to agree with others that it would be difficult to maintain anonymity even with a name change on a thread like this. How well do you know the person that's mailed you? Could you reply to say that you're sad to have been recognised, but hope he/she will respect your privacy and not let anybody else know your MN id? I know you may still feel restricted in the future as to what you can say on here as there's somebody out there who knows who you are. But if you make clear how uncomfortable you are at his/her actions maybe he/she will respect your privacy and stop "stalking" you?

mrsJ photo now working, sorry!

traceybath · 13/02/2011 14:56

Vin - also it may be that the person who emailed you did so kindly perhaps. There have been threads before where someone has 'recognised' someone on mn and the received mn wisdom seems to be to let the person know that some-one has recognised them.

So that you can either namechange or avoid posting so much personal info.

I posted on a thread recently which was by a name-changer though and made it clear I recognised her just by her style and she subsequently got the thread deleted. Many people 'recognised' her because of her style - hence my reservations about name-changing.

Sorry - very waffley.

FritziGreenEyes · 13/02/2011 14:57

looby Get disposable changing mats. You can fold them really tiny and put in any bag you like. Navy Janice is my favourite feelgood dress at the moment. Hope conjunctivitis will get better soon.

vin Please don't leave us. Although I can understand if you feel the need to. Hope it wasn't your not-so-nice colleague who is stalking you here.

I'm in old jeans and cotton Zara shirt today doing tons of laundry. The glamour...

bonsoir I just googled the hotel and the place looks like heaven. Have bookmarked and would love to go there with DH for a long weekend. Although it would stress me without end what to wear!

I'm in bit in love with this dress although it wouldn't look right on me as I'm not tall or svelte enough and also too pale. For a bit of colour this looks also nice.

Anyone still looking for cake's Edelman boots: Here on sale at Asos

AntPants1 · 13/02/2011 14:58

vin what a nasty piece of work that person is. It goes against all MN etequete and decent behaviour to out someone in that way. Please do not stop posting and please don't feel that you cannot use this as a place to vent. Given all that you have been through I am amazed that someone would be so either cruel or maladroit to let you know that they have spotted you.

So sorry NY and exhausted that your DC are still unwell. Am thinking if you an hope this week is better.

lobby gosh what a difficult question. A lot depends on the general health of the woman involved I would imagine. If she is generally fit and healthy I would imagine that she will be less likely to suffer health problems in pregnancy. However, I would be very very concerned if a friend over 45 was thinking of having a child. I really hope I do not offend anyone here but its not just how well your body copes with pregnancy it's also being older parents and having the energy to run around after a young child. Also I hate to say this but there is an increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities isn't there the older you are?

FritziGreenEyes · 13/02/2011 14:58

abo Fantastic cake! Can I book you to come over and make one for DD at the end of May? Grin

MarshaBrady · 13/02/2011 15:00

A quick one, had a lovely lunch in Hyde Park with family. Although it is cold again!

Vin, ah, that is hard. I like to talk about life and stuff on here with you all, but post only what I don't mind others knowing just in case.

I have a dislike of shopping centres too. Too many people, noise and lights. NaP is the best thing for me these days I think.

Fritzi love the redness of the red silk top.

pickledsiblings · 13/02/2011 15:04

Looby, I would say up to 39, no older than 40 at the birth but that's a psychological barrier rather than a heath/risk imposed one.

ABO, cool cake.

AntPants1 · 13/02/2011 15:14

pickled I do have a couple of friends who had their last child in their early 40 s and they have been fine. About 41/42 I think. So I think early 40 s is probably fine.

However, I don't think you can underestimate the increased risk of abnormalities after 35. Of course there are tests you can have to screen and then to confirm but it would be heartbreaking to get bad news. I do have personal experience of this I am afraid. Looby what is prompting your friend to consider another child? How old is she?

FritziGreenEyes · 13/02/2011 15:16

What is the verdict on shoes to wear with skinny flares until we can get summer wedges out? High-heeled loafers a la WIT? Or the much raved about Clark's desert wedges?

AllBuggiedOut · 13/02/2011 15:18

looby That's really hard. I'm 40 soon, and a few years ago I'd have said that beyond 40 was too old for me. But we remain undecided about whether a 4th DC would be right for us, and I don't yet feel like I am "too old" to have another. Although becuase I think I would think that another would be the last, I worry that a big gap between DC3 and DC4 would be odd if DC4 wasn't going to be rapidly followed by DC5. And I think I am too old for that Wink

Thanks re cake ladies, and Fritzi book me a ticket!

vinvinoveritas · 13/02/2011 15:22

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pickledsiblings · 13/02/2011 15:25

Fritzi, I say get that georgous P&W dress and try it on, you never know Smile.

MarshaBrady · 13/02/2011 15:25

Vin I hope you don't feel too uncomfortable to stay and chat. I know I say I only post blah blah blah but really I like to chat freely and don't hold much back at all (so don't feel bad about that iyswim).

Abo I'm sure your cake is lovely but I can't see it for some reason, just a lovely pic of you!

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TheAllNewOoooh · 13/02/2011 15:33

Vin is there a job where you can tick both boxes? Eg working for a children's/medical charity (albeit at vastly reduced income) but where your existing skills could be put to great use?

Or could you go part time - PSL work maybe? - then spend 1-2 days from your working week as a volunteer?

I know what it is like (as does DH) to feel as though you have sold your soul to the devil from time to time, and while the money is always nice it's difficult to shake the feeling that you are spending the prime of your life doing something you don't love.

But then

FritziGreenEyes · 13/02/2011 15:38

pickled I have not dared to post a pic of me yet so you must confuse my physique with someone else's Grin. Will wait a few more weeks before buying any summer clothes.

TheAllNewOoooh · 13/02/2011 15:39

On babies later in life: I tend to think that my body would let me know. I know that doesn't always happen, but most people hit an age where either they lose the inclination or their body makes it impossible.

Logically I think I'd be happy to give it a go until 38, 39 but as 40 approached I'd be questioning it really seriously. In reality, though, if I still had that desire, I would be at its mercy.

ATM I know I want at least one more, possibly two, and despite a couple of medical issues which scare the bejeezus out of me, I don't contemplate for a second not taking the risk.

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