Im not sure i can cope

[Tricks]

This is my first post so i'll just briefly explain my situation.

I have been in a relationship with my partner for the last 15 months - when we meet he had seperated from his wife 6 months prior and from that marriage has a 6 year old son. Ive never been married, am 27 and dont have any children.

Now, i hate, hate myself for writing these next words........ but underneath i resent my partner's child being on the scene, im jealous of the fact that my partner has been married before and has shared the closeness of having a child with some one other than me.

I have not meet my partners child yet, which i think has further developed my negative feelings .. my partner rationalises this, by saying that he cant introduce me to his little boy until his divorce, and settlement is sorted out. So, at the moment i have to stay away whenever his son comes to visit - i feel like a spare part, some sort of little secret, and this reiterates the fact that i feel hes ex's feelings are more important than mine.

The prospect of meeting this child fears me with dread, im not a kiddie person - i dont know what to say or how to act and am so concerned hes son is going to hate me.

Despite all of this i deeply love my boyfriend, and keep saying that this love will see us through, i know i need to be supportive and compassionate (after all his child is still only little, and needs his daddy very much) but inside im full of jealously and resentment and i just dont know how to get rid of it.

Please help me because i dont what my 'irrational' feelings to ruin a wonderful relationship.

bravo caligula!

Said with huge respect to all the step parents out there who do not brand their chidren first and second best.

I think it is very sad that Tricks posted a serious message on this website to ask us all for help and advice and the thread just turned into a bit of a bitch fight between certain members! Im sure she is really impressed and will come back if she wants anymore advice.......... NOT

hi iam new here iam a stepmum of three and one son of my own if you have any questions please ask me .i would like to tell you about my three children i bought up thank you

The first thread in this list I can kindoff relate to. When I met my partner his ex was 3 months preganant they had only been together a couple of months. Now his daughter is nearly a year old and she has spent every saturday with us but a feel still get anxiety about the situation. There is the problem that his ex constantly contacts him about trivial matters for example she had text him 4 times in the space of 12 hours confirming times dates of having his daughter, even tjough it has been the same for the past year this is just one example, also when I first got with my partner his ex was giving me dirty phone calls. She is contantly being difficult for example it is his daughters 1 st birthday soon and she won't let us have her that weekend we had planned to have a party for her.

What is happening whay am i getting the anxiety? Why is his ex like this.