Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us?

[SadSam]

Howdy!!!! Squirrel 3 and I have decided that as we are a bit nutty, we'd like to set up the Nutty Stepmum's Club or NSC. If anyone would like to join us, please add to this post and prove that we are not the only nutters out there!

We would like to add a little bit more nuttyness to our already insane lives!!!!

P.S

ROFL

Squirrel - you are so organised taking back unwanted pressies already!! Is there some link with organisational skills and lack of alcohol intake I wonder??

NAAM - just read your other thread. My heart goes out to you all. Your brother is lucky that he has you out there trying to help him in the midst of all of that. Take care.

Thanks loopy

Wish I was as organised as Squirrel too

BUT I am going to get organised this year - I've already done my list of who I need to buy Christmas presents for and there are 24 people on it, so I'm aiming for 2 a month. Probably won't work out that way but I'm determined to be more organised this year because I got really stressed out about it last year - didn't even start shopping till October!!!

How is everyone today? And where's MsT? Think we need to bring out the booze to entice her out of her hideaway....

This happens to be the world's largest bottle of wine. It should entice her out of her web!

Squirrel - I know you said you had some left over Christmas drink but that is ridiculous!!

NAAM, Did you have a chat with dp?

LOL loopy

Wonder who's going to drink that??

Lea is here and she wants to say HELLO, =]', UIPPMNKL ;LKKKKKKKL;

There, her second post on MN (makes as much sense as mine do some days )

Hope you had a good Christmas Loopy.

x posts Squirrel - kept getting interrupted!!

Yes I spoke to him, didn't really get anywhere tho - he won't change his mind. I asked why he didn't want any more children (still can't believe I haven't asked this before - why??) and he said:
He really loves our lifestyle and doesn't want it to change
(I love our lifestyle too but would still swap it)
It's at the back of his mind that he could lose his child again
(Someone on my thread suggested I ask him this, I hadn't even considered it but he did say yes it was on his mind - not a chance of this tho)
I would have to give up work so he would have to work all hours for us to survive
(I hadn't even thought about the financial implications - this is actually true)

I stayed very calm and didn't get upset - DP however got really upset, floods of tears, kept hugging me and telling me how much he loved me, how happy I make him etc. and saying he was scared of losing me

HELLO LEA

Don't know what to say, maybe give him a few days to think, don't touch the subject for a little while.

You never know he may change his mind now he knows how important it is to you.

But I guess the most important thing is you know he loves you very much.

I wish I could be more help.

That's OK believe me you are a big help on here

Forgot to say he also said he wouldn't want to go through a reversal because of the awful time he had having it done in the first place. Obviously I wasn't around then but he really did suffer badly. DP isn't mardy (as men go ) so it must have been bad - he says he wouldn't wish it on anyone. He also said there's no guarantee it would work anyway which would cause more hurt - something I have said myself

I'm sure we'll be fine. I hardly slept last night but I did finally come to the conclusion that I want him more than I want a baby - I really couldn't imagine life without him. Don't want to make you reach for your bucket but he is wonderful in every way and I really do think I've got one in a million and I'd never find anyone like him

Thats really sweet, didn't throw up at all!!!

I wonder how FANC is, I would CAT her but I think she uses the computer at work to post and I don't want her to get into trouble at work if anyone see's it and realises that she has been using MN there.

I've been thinking the same, really hope she's OK. Don't know how a CAT works but I assume the MN team send a personal message via e-mail which, as you say, may not be a good idea. If it was me it wouldn't matter but of course it depends on her employers

My laptop will be sorted by the end of the month, got all my broadband stuff yesterday, just waiting for the connection to be made Haven't got a bloody clue how to set it all up, have to ring the helpline and say "now take me through this in plain English please"

I had to do that when I got my first computer with broadband.

They are really good and will take you through it a step at a time, or you could ask Tarantula, I'm sure she would be able to help (when she is back on MN after Christmas that is)...

Oh No! I've just had a terrible thought, what if her New Years resloution was to give up MN?!

Not a chance - think we're all addicted

Our "computer man" at work said he'll come to my house and help if I need him - bless him - so I'll be OK

Bet MsT is busy at work

Keep forgetting to ask you, did you hear from reflection? I read your messages asking her to CAT you

No I haven't heard from her . I hope she is ok, I wish I lived closer to her and FANC.

Next time I am near the New Forest I am going to get aloud speaker and drive around shouting "Reflection, get your bum on to MN NOW!"

Not sure where FANC lives... Mmmmmmm

{{{{hugs}}}} to both of them.

Yes {{{{hugs}}}} from me too for them

I don't know where FANC lives but I know when she said she might be going to Superbikes at Donington (near Derby, quite close to me) she said it was a 2.5 hour drive but I don't know in which direction

Have you started a diet? From what you've said it doesn't sound like you need to

I will be starting to diet soon, but as we were all ill over Christmas I've still got loads of chocolate etc left over and I am not going to throw away my Thorntans for anything!!!!

Promise, give me a week and they will be gone and I'll have to work hard to 'work them off', loads of excercise for me, I really need to tone up and loose a few pounds!

LOL at the Thorntons comment

I have a few stone to lose not just a few pounds

Thanks for the admission NAAM - I'm on the stone rather than pounds side too unfortunately....

Strangely enough there is a direct link with my weight increase and moving in with DH - hummm. Could it be:

1. Stress of stepparenting and BM and desire to comfort eat?
2. Starting to eat same size portions as DH and growing boys?
3. Or sad lack of will power on my behalf?

Well at least I'm not short of excuses - hee hee. Maybe we should start a separate weekly weigh in thread once the wine and chocs have been finished?

NAAM - on a more serious note, following up on your converation with DH. That sounds a really tough break. Hate to mention another website - but there is one specifically for stepmums without children of their own (Childlessstepmoms) which has a whole section on this topic and loads of people in the same shoes as you. Just wanted to flag in case it was any use to you?

Loopy, I agree with you about the link between finding the right partner and an increase in weight, I was a size 8 when I met dp.

He is a great cook and I am now a size 10/12 (don't know how much I weigh, I don't own scales). He says its because I am now content and happy (not because he likes to cook with cream etc).

I'm refusing to weigh myself at the mo because I just know I'll get upset if I do but I'll happily join a weigh-in in a month or so (cop out I know but I really don't want to weigh myself)

SNAP by the way - when I met DP I was about 10.5 stone. I'm guessing of course but I reckon I must be well over 15 stone now

Reasons? I'm definitely with you on stress of step-parenting and BM and on sad lack of willpower and I'll also add being able for the first time in my life to try food which is foreign or "looks funny" as my sad git of an ex used to say before he banned me from eating it