Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us?

[SadSam]

Howdy!!!! Squirrel 3 and I have decided that as we are a bit nutty, we'd like to set up the Nutty Stepmum's Club or NSC. If anyone would like to join us, please add to this post and prove that we are not the only nutters out there!

We would like to add a little bit more nuttyness to our already insane lives!!!!

Hello again FANC

I remember my brothers passing out parade - I agree they're really good

I'm OK thank you, bit of bother with dsd (bit further down the thread) but DP has promised he won't be so soft with her so hopefully it'll get sorted. A big part of me, tho, is thinking "yeah right, I've heard all this before" but I'm trying to adopt the Innocent Until Proven Guilty attitude and give him a chance. Having said that, at the moment, her TV/DVD is still in her bedroom when we agreed that one of her punishments would be to have it taken off her for a while......so if it's still there when she comes on Wednesday he'll be in trouble. I could, of course, move it myself but I don't see why I should [stubborn old moo emoticon]

How are things with you?

Nightmare, it sounds like you do need to stand your ground. TBH if DH doesnt move the TV then I would. A punishment is a punishment, if she sees punishments not being put into place then she will continue to play you up (in my opinion anyway).

Im okay, things havent been too bad at home, but I must say the whole situation still gets me down sometimes. I know I shouldnt let it, but it does. I so wish things could be different sometimes. Since going to the solicitors, although that has got BM off our back, things are a bit harder now, in as much as we have to have the kids for 2 whole weeks in the summer instead of spreading it over the year (we normally try and get a week over the easter bank holiday)this saves us holiday. However, now I can't see us having a holiday again as I just dont get enough holiday. I don't know if I can imagine not having a week away somewhere with DP on our own, I dont even care if it is in this country, but we just wont have the holiday.

Never mind, BM is going away with her fella this year, she deserves it more than us!!!!!!!

FANC what's your DPs holiday situation? Could he not have them for a week himself in the summer holidays then you could both have a week off some other time to go away on your own? I assume it was BM herself who said she deserves a holiday more than you? for you

I know exactly what you mean about things in general getting to you, I'm exactly the same. I get so fed up with having all the expense and problems of having children but none of the pleasures! Suppose it comes with the territory of being a stepmum tho. Normally I absolutely love Christmas but I just can't be bothered with it all this year, haven't written a single card, wrapped any presents or put my decs up yet, home or work. People keep coming into my office asking where all the stuff is cos normally I've had everything up for a week already. Heaven only knows when I'll do it

Need some motivation......wonder if Squirrel has any "kick up the arse" pictures

Yeah I know the feeling NAAM. I too used to adore Christmas, but I just dont get any pleasure from it anymore. I am seeing my parents on Christmas Day this year but that is it as from Boxing day until New Years Eve we have the kids. If BM had her way we would have had them until January 3rd but we put her foot down as DP and I havent seen the New Year in together for the last 2 years!

Yeah BM implies that as she has kids 24/7 she needs a holiday and as her new boyfriend has money, she will take advantage of that. However, she wont be taking the kids with her, yet we are not allowed to have a holiday on our own without the kids as its "unfair"! Grrrrrrrrrr

DP has a little bit more holiday than me but not much. This year, by the time we had the kids for 2 weeks, plus we both have to take holiday between Xmas and New Year to have the kids, it only leaves us with a couple of days holiday.

I think you hit the nail on the head, its that old "all the expense of the kids but none of the pleasures" that gets to me. Last time we had the kids they were looking at some old photos (at their nans) and DSD was so pointed when she said "oh look, picture of me, daddy and mummy, not you, mummy"! It really hurt me and I guess there is always going to be the "me and her" scenario. I dont expect to ever replace their mum but I would love to be made to feel special once in a blue moon! still I guess its too much to ask!

Sorry for rambling, just feeling a bit low again, Xmas doesn't help. I havent even started buying anything yet, apart from the kids, we have all theirs (so that BM cant start telling us what to buy them)!

You don't have to apologise FANC, we all get a bit down sometimes

I really wouldn't put up with your holiday situation. Who does BM think she is saying it's "unfair" for you to go on holiday without the kids?? Grrrrrr!! I'd tell DP he has to come to another arrangement so that the two of you can go away on your own, even if it's not for a full week. Difficult tho, I know, if your DP is anything like mine and doesn't seem to mind that BM still has so much control over his life

Well done for insisting on having New Year to yourself tho Have you planned anything yet?

Thanks NAAM. DP doesn't like to cause too much of a fuss. He stands up to her when he feels like it but not all the time, he lets things go over his head more than me. They dont even communicate anymore, so it is done by notes or through a solicitor, but we cannot really afford a solicitors bill all the time so he just rights a note and puts it in the kids bag when we have them. He doesn't see it that she is controlling our lives like I do, he just shrugs his shoulders and gets on with things. So infuriating, I wish it got to him as much as it gets to me. Doesn't it just seem to be the way tho that women take things harder than men?

As for New Year, not sure yet, we have to take the kids back teatime New Years Eve, so we will be down their neck of the woods (over 200 miles away). We will probably stay at his parents and go for a meal/few drinks over the pub with them. (They have a pub opposite their house which is handy)! How about you, what are you up to this New Years Eve?

This is for you NAAM.

These are to cheer you up FANC. {{hug}}

Hello Squirrel, thank you so much for the flowers, Lillies are my absolute all time favourites!!! Thank you xx

Mine too!

My DP is the same FANC, he doesn't see it as his ex controlling his life either, he just sees it as helping his dd out. He can't see that there's a big difference in him helping his dd and helping his ex, it causes so many problems between us

We're going to a hotel in Derby with one of my work friends on New Year's Eve for a 5 course meal then staying overnight, we did the same last year it was great. It was the first time I'd ever been out on New Year's Eve and I really enjoyed it so looking forward to that

lol Squirrel

I needed that! Might do some wrapping later....

Lol @ NAAM's cartoon from Squirrel!

I know what you mean NAAM, our DP's sound very similar. I think that it is a major "guilt" thing with them! My DP can't seem to see why things upset me so much, hes very much a "get over it, life's too short" kinda guy! So infuriating!

Lol Squirrel, we have the same favourite flowers. Lillies are so beautiful, they always cheer me up. If I have a little girl Im going to call her Lilly!

Uncanny, dd was going to call her dd Lilly, but her dp didn't like it so she called her lea instead.

We quite often call her Lilly lee as her nickname.

NAAM your New Years Eve sounds like fun, can I come? lol

I would love to have gone away somewhere nice (different) for New Year, but I mustn't complain, at least we are spending it together this year! Last year DP was very ill, bedridden infact and Doctor wanted to put him in hospital, but he wasnt having any of it. I had to look after the kids as he wasnt really well enough to. The year before DP was working on nights so it will be nice to let our hair down this year

How spooky Squirrel! Sometimes I think I have too much in common with you guys on here! Are we all related? lol

OK, done the name change

That was my first attempt at kicking my backside into the Christmas spirit

Well done NAAM

I'm so proud of you!

P.S. Your turn FANC

Sorry that should be NAAMC!!!!

Wonder what's happened to MsT?

Show her some alcohol Squirrel - that usually brings her out of hiding

Here!

Did you enjoy your night out Tarantula?

Hope you had lots to drink

here MsT - have lunch on us

YAY!!!!! I'm getting good at these links

Lol

happy Christmas! what have you started NAAMC