Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us?

[SadSam]

Howdy!!!! Squirrel 3 and I have decided that as we are a bit nutty, we'd like to set up the Nutty Stepmum's Club or NSC. If anyone would like to join us, please add to this post and prove that we are not the only nutters out there!

We would like to add a little bit more nuttyness to our already insane lives!!!!

Hi NAAM and Tarantula................. Not hard to see who the alcoholics are on this site!!!!! Lol

How are you both?

I'm fine thank you - how are things with you?

Hello,

Sorry I had to leave the bar yesterday, my neighbour and good friend was rushed into hospital with suspected Meningitis (either that, or the doctor said something about it maybe being a stroke, don't know which one is better for her). She is only a couple of years older than me, three kids, about to be a grandma for the first time.

Could do with a drink though, who is in charge of the bar today?

That's awful Squirrel, hope she'll be OK

Think you make the best barperson cos you know where to find the pictures I'll have a vodka and coke please

How are things with you? Did your "Christmas" go OK at the weekend?

What about this ?

Christmas went Ok, thanks. dsd wouldn't do the table decoration or the wreaths, she just stuck her nose in the air and said No, si that was that idea out of the window.

Also, I think I must be so used to dsd (the younger 1) being 'funny' with me, because dsd1 (the older 1) actually told her off for being horrible to me and I didn't even register that she was being horrible, its just 'normal' for her to be that way with me.

think I'll have this .

P.S. Just spoken to my friends DH and it is Meningitis, she is doing Ok ATM, I hope that she recovers and is out before Christmas.

Nothing wrong with sticking with what you're used to

From what you've said, I'm not surprised dsd wouldn't do the decorations - don't think my dsd would have done either. At least someone's noticing that she's not nice to you - even if it isn't who it should be, i.e. your DP. One day tho I really think your dsd will realise how horrible she was to you but it must be awful in the meantime. And I really think she's very much influenced by her mum - I'm sure she actually really likes you but daren't show it which is very for all concerned

Glad your early Christmas went well. Can't believe how fast it's creeping up now

I've got all of the present shopping done now!!!!

I finished it this morning, I'm amazed I usually wait until the last minute. Its probably you kicking me up the backside and telling me how close it is that made me go and do it!!!!

Thank you!!

I have only got one to get, Thomas Aquadraw for dgs. I did order it a couple of weeks ago and they waited until this morning to tell me it was out of stock and they couldn't get any more. If you know of anywhere I can get one I will be eternally grateful. I have search the internet for hours and the only ones I can find are on Amazon but they want £47 for a £27 toy and I'm not paying an extra £20 (plus postage and packaging) for it. The only other place I can find is ebay, going to try to get ds to bid for it, he is more experienced with ebay than me, so fingers crossed, but to be honest I don't hold out much hope

Have you got dp's personalised reg plate sorted out yet?

Yes I think it's sorted - Dad phoned me this morning to say there's a letter there for me from the DVLA so I hope that's it but I won't get it till Friday morning cos I can't get up there without DP till then. I've only got to get Mum and Dads presents now so I'm nearly done too

I'll have a think about the Thomas thingy - have you tried looking on Kelkoo? I find them a great help and can usually find anything on there

Just had a call from DP - big problems with his dd She had an after school detention last week for "talking in class". I thought it was a bit strange - they don't give out after schools just for that. Apparantly she's been smoking, back-chatting and not handing work in on time and she has after school detentions this week and next week too. AND she's got texts on her phone from a boy saying things like "I want to shag you" - she's 12 and the sender is the same age!! DP is furious, understandably, and I think he was looking for sympathy but I'm afraid my attitude was "well if you weren't so soft with her she might not think she can get away with doing what she likes". Probably a bit mean of me but it really winds me up. His ex had phoned him so he's decided (again!) that he needs to get tough with her. Don't know if you remember me saying but this exact same thing happened a few weeks ago and I was really angry cos I feel he should listen to me instead of it taking a phone call from his ex for him to realise he has to do something

Bloody men!! Where's that vodka???

I don't know what to say NAAM, you are right she needs to be brought back into line. Its very hard when they are that age because 'its their job' to push out the boundries and ours to pull them back in but at the same time allowing them to grow up. I don't envy your dp, his x or you ATM, this is only the beginning of a very hard time if your dp can not pull her back into line in a way that dsd will not resent or kick back against.

Do you or dp smoke? If you don't maybe you can talk to her, infact you seem to have a reasonable relationship with her, you are not mum or dad, but you have some authority, and at the same time you are her 'friend', she may listen to you if you try to talk to her in a non-judgemental way. Try to listen to her, but at the same time be firm and tell her that 'yes! she messed up!' but also suggest ways of trying to make things right. I feel that you could have a very valuable part to play in this. Who ever really listens to their Mum or Dad?

And I agree your dp should listen to you instead of waiting for the x to phone! Bloody infuriating isn't it!

Here

Thanks for the drink

Yes it is bloody infuriating! And boy will he know about it when I get home!!

No, DP nor I smoke - it's actually one of my pet hates and no-one smokes in our house and never will. I will try to talk to her - don't know when she's coming again tho probably next Wednesday. I'll start by telling her that she's really upset her Dad, she is generally a caring person so that may just strike a chord. Another thing I'm thinking is that if DP won't get tough with her then I'll do it for him, starting by not allowing her on the internet (which, believe me, no MSN will really hit her hard) and taking her TV/DVD player out of her room. Also, she's had £250 spent on her for Christmas - I've paid for all of it and I'm seriously thinking of not giving her the main present - an ipod which she specifically asked for. Do you think all of that's a bit harsh? Or do you think I should keep out of the punishment bit?

Glad your friend's doing OK, at least she's in the right place to get better

I have to go now - thanks ever so much for listening

Talk tomorrow hopefully

I think that you should talk to dp about the punishment thing, it will only work if you are both agreed. If you go ahead and do it on your own it may only serve to alienate you and you realu don't want that, especially as you seem to have a good relationship.

I agree that the talk should start along the lines of "You have really upset you Dad", thats a really good start.

Oh poop! It took me too long to reply!!!

Talk to you tomorrow hopefully.

Morning all

Squirrel DP and I had a talk last night, he completely agreed about no internet and no TV in dsd's room but wasn't very sure about not giving her the ipod for Christmas so I'll wait and see on that one. Poor chap was really upset. BM has suggested changing schools but I think that's a really bad idea - for all dsd's wrongdoings I think she's had enough upheaval in the last 2 years and IMO it wouldn't solve anything cos if she's going to misbehave surely she'll do it whichever school she goes to

How's your friend doing? Hope she's OK

Been looking for that Aquadraw for you - you're not kidding about no-one having any, I found plenty of websites that sell them but they're all out of stock!! Doesn't it look great tho?? I want one

Squirrel you probably already know but there's an Aquadraw on ebay "buy it now" but it's £37 and £6 postage. Also quite a few with lots of bids but looks like bids might go quite high. There's always some toy at Christmas that's hard to get - looks like this could be the one this year!!

NAAM, bless you for looking for me but I had a brain-wave last night (see I'm not just a pretty, long, bushy tail) I thought I'd look in Southampton Argos (ds's girlfriend is in Uni there) and they had one left, so I reserved it ds's girlfriend is picking it up today for me!

It must have been the last one at the recommended price in the country!!!!!!

Glad you had a talk with dp and have agreed a suitable punishment. I do agree, changing schools is not the answer.

Sorry I've got to go, be back later this afternoon though.

Glad you got one sorted

I need to find one for me now

Hello, I'm back!

Guess what I'm doing?

Erm, let me think.....

Wrapping presents? Writing cards? Putting your decs up?

How many guesses was I allowed?

~sigh~

Your no fun you guessed right first time!

Feeling a little bit Christmasy now.

BTW its better with sound.

lol

I haven't done any wrapping, card writing or put any decs up yet - very unlike me! But we've been so busy decorating the stairs then the bedroom I just haven't had time. We're away Saturday night cos it's my birthday, doubt we'll do any Sunday but might do it in the evenings next week. I've always been a serious Christmas freak but I just can't be bothered with it this year - probably because I've got better things in my life to do now, which is good of course

How's your friend doing?

I spoke to her DH this morning and apparently she is being a stuborn moo and won't let them do the tests that they need to do on her.

I think she is just enjoying the rest in hospital.

I think she is getting better slowly, well she is well enough to refuse the tests now which she wouldn't have been in a state to do so a few days ago, so it must be an improvement of sorts.

That's good, glad she's getting better - don't blame her for wanting a rest

Going to Mum and Dads later so I'm going to sneak a look at DPs number plates, what I've bought him is A777 BCD, A being the first letter of his first name and BCD being the first 3 letters of his surname. Can't wait to see it

Going to ask Mum and Dad what I can get them cos I really haven't got a bloody clue!!