Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us?

[SadSam]

Howdy!!!! Squirrel 3 and I have decided that as we are a bit nutty, we'd like to set up the Nutty Stepmum's Club or NSC. If anyone would like to join us, please add to this post and prove that we are not the only nutters out there!

We would like to add a little bit more nuttyness to our already insane lives!!!!

Get well soon tarantula, colds are the pits, still I guess if you are going to get one its better to get it now rather than just before Christmas.

You dd sounds so adorable, glad eating the salt dough didn't make her ill.

I told dp about you making Christmas decorations with the kids and he quite liked the idea of getting dsd to make some Christmas wreaths, have planned to go collecting holly and stuff at the weekend and start making them with her.

She can make a table decoration for next weekend too, as dp's parents are going to America they are having 'Christmas' at the weekend for the family living here. We are going to be having presents and Christmas dinner so a table decoration made by dsd would be quite a nice idea.

the Christmas wreaths sound like great fun. Hope dsd enjoys making them with you. Im sure she will. Next weekend sounds like fun, an early dinner to whet the appetite for all that is to come .

Don't know about it being fun, I seem to find all of the 'family' stuff that happens with his family a bit of a trial. I'm just not used to the whole 'family' thing, I've never had one (apart from Grandparents and my kids). I know its wrong, but the visiting the in-laws, making small talk and all of the 'nicey, nicey' doesn't sit well with me.

Don't know if I feel so uncomfortable with it because my own relationship with my parents was so tramatic or because I'm just not used to it, mind you MIL can be very, erm, shall be say less than tactful at times and opens her mouth before she thinks about what she is saying and hurts alot of people without realising it. She doesn't mean to, don't think she is malicious, but then again we have visited a couple of occasions and she said hello to everyone and made everyone a cup of tea apart from me!!!!

Apparently, so I've been told, she did the same to dp's exes only more so! Dp and his brothers swear blind that she actually likes me (which she didn't the exes).

I hate to think what she would do if she didn't like me!!!!

oh dear maybe not quite fun then. your MIL sounds a bit wierd. I guess all family gatherings are wierd when they are not your own family. I know dp finds my family strange as we are quite closeknit and mum is a bit uptight and likes everything done properly (tea in a teacup not a mug and all that kinda stuff)
I have luckily had no experience of MILs as dps mum left when he was young and his ex-stepmum lives up north somewhere and we rarely sees her cept at large family gathering.

Its a bit wierd as I am from a very 'normal' (1 mum 1 dad 6 kids, lots of cousins etc) and he is from a very atypical family (1 brother, 3 step siblings and 1 half sister).

Well Im off home now for the afternoon so hope you have a nice day. Chat tomorrow hopefully.

Have a lovely day Tarantula.

Morning all

Squirrel, glad things got sorted and VERY glad your DP stuck up for you on this - about time too . I know where you're coming from about the 'family' thing - it is difficult, I'm from a big family like MsT as you know but we've never done the 'getting together' bit and my exP never had hardly anything to do with his family. Have to say tho I'm quite enjoying it, when I met DP he hadn't spoken to his parents for over 3 years - BMs fault!! And they had done nothing either - just a few normal family squabbles and I can't believe DP allowed his ex to manipulate him into denying his parents their only child and grandchild for all that time BUT at least it's sorted now. His parents are really nice people

That's a lovely idea to make some wreaths with dsd for the weekend, bet she'll love it and it'll be something different for you

We had a lovely weekend, dsd stayed Friday and Saturday, on Friday she wanted to put some photo's in her room of me/DP/my nieces and nephews so I helped her to cut them up and put them into her photo frames. Then when dsd went back DP and I made a start on decorating the bedroom - can't wait to get that done, should have done it before now really but never mind, we're getting there

NAAM, thats so nice about your dsd wanting photos of you in her room, can't see my stepkids ever wanting a photo of me.

Think I managed to upset DSD1 (22) at the weekend, we were talking about dss and I jokingly said that I'd love to strangle him and I think she got all defensive of her little half brother. It is a bit difficult with dss1 as she is still close to her 1st stepmum (EX no2), it gets blooming confusing at times. I get on well with her BM but as everybody knows the EX no2 is a nightmare.

I'm dreading it when dsd1 gets married because she will want her Mum, Dad, her 1st stepmum and respective partners at her wedding and I can just see it being everybodies worst nightmare!

I think it will be more uncomfortable for BM2 as I get on well with BM1's family and they all think that BM2 is mad, they do refer to her as 'the mad woman'! Can't make them wrong there!

How did I go from having no family, to a family as complicated as this?

Bet my DP asks that question too - he only has his dd, Mum, Dad and Gran (Dads Mum) and that it - then there's me with all my lot....I do sometimes wish my family weren't so complicated and I'm sure your DP does too, then again DP says he sometimes wishes he had more family so I guess it works both ways - we always want what we haven't got don't we?? Well I do anyway

Agree it could be a bit of a nightmare with your dsd1's wedding - is she actually planning to get married or are you thinking ahead? Sounds like you could have a laugh with BM1s family tho - they seem to have BM2 weighed up

Yes it was nice doing the photo's with dsd. Have to say, I know I grumble sometimes but she is generally a good kid. Coming on here and reading about you/FANC etc. has made me realise that things could be a heck of a lot worse!!

dsd1 is not actually planning to get married yet but she is in a relationship that looks like it may be heading that way.

I don't wish I had more family, I sometimes wish that my family had been different. I listen to dp going on about his childhood and it was idyllic. I must admit that I do get pangs of jealousy, but you can't change the past and I have tried my best to make sure that my kids have a better one, with plenty of lovely memories to tell their kids and grandkids.

Going off on my driving lesson now, if you know anyone in Kent tell them to get off the roads for an hour!!

LOL

Hope you can enjoy driving soon, it'll give you a new lease of life when you pass your test - honest!

Hello, I'm back and I only hit three cars and one pedestrian!

I?d really better get to work on the theory because the driving instructor told me I?d better pass it ASAP as I?m going to be ready for my test soon! [scared emoticon]

I?ve been having a go at learning it and I tried that link you put on here yesterday NAAM and I passed both of the mock tests but I can?t remember stopping distances and I have trouble remembering some road signs, so a bit more work required I think!

Oi! I said get off the roads not MN!!!

Where are you all?

I'm here

Have one day off and everything goes tits up!!

Glad you're nearly ready for your test - have to say I wouldn't like to take the test again, I didn't have to do parking or a theory when I took mine! Might have a go at that theory test myself see how I get on. Not telling anyone if I fail miserably tho

You mean you have been working!

BTW dd has her driving test on 1st Dec, so good luck to her. Mind you it will be her fourth test and the last one she didn't even get out of the test centre! Its nerves, she can drive but when it comes to the test her nerves get the better of her.

I really hope she passes this time though it will make her life so much easier, disability allowance will help out with the cost of a car for her. But then again having a car is no good if she can't physically down the stairs out of her flat to get to it! Blooming council GRRRR!

Blimey I missed out a whole word!

I mean physically get down the stairs...

Yes, I know it's hard to believe but I have been working

Hope your dd passes her test [fingers crossed for next Thursday emoticon] Is she any closer to getting a proper house?

No, sadly she is still stuck in a third floor flat with no lift and no way of her being able to get down the stairs without help!

The result of the formal complaint were, suprise, suprise 'they were happy with the way things have been handled' and the as for lies about the so called parlour house...get this they say that it is a parlour house as they checked the woman that was being investigated records!!!

I have been in that house, dp did the work on that house, no way is it a parlour house, I've seen it with my own eyes, I could draw a floor plan of it! Bloody Council!!!!!!!

I've just been on a council web-site and this is how they describe a parlour house; 'A parlour house has two downstairs living rooms, usually a front parlour and a sitting room or dining room.'

That house only had a small kitchen and a lounge, upstairs a bathroom and three bedrooms. I used to work in an estate agents and I know about property!!!!!!

Rant, rant, rant!!!!!!!

for you. It's so annoying that a genuine person like your dd can't get what she so desperately needs then some people who don't need a place are just given them. Not surprised it makes you rant, it would me too

Going to be very controversial and say if she was Kosovan she would have been given house years ago!! She has been on the waiting list for three years now!!!

Well actually I was thinking along those lines too!!!

It's just the same around here - there's a man lives near Mum and Dad who's registered disabled and gets a free car every 2 years and he's fitter than me! He claims he buggered his knee up working down the pit years ago - doesn't stop him walking to the pub every lunchtime and evening to spend his benefits

DS has arrived home from work early, his new bed arrived yesterday and it had a bit missing so I phoned up for him and told them "what bit is missing?" the man asked, I looked towards dp and ds and asked them what bit it is "number 7" they said, "what is the number 7 bit called?" asked the guy on the phone, I again look towards dp and ds, "Well, we don't know but it holds the headboard to the bed", I tell the man on the phone.

The man on the phone again asks me what the bit was called, again I ask dp and ds, they look on the instructions and say "its number 7". The guy on the phone sighs and says "its ok I will order bit number 7 for you, it should arrive in 14 days". I put the phone down and take the instructions out of dp's hands and right there next to the number 7 was the bit name; 7) headboard strut!!! Why couldn't they just bloody read the thing!?!?

That's men for you Two of them as well and they still can't do it They'd be buggered without us women wouldn't they??

Do you ever wonder what our DPs would talk about if they came on here? I'd love to see that conversation

"Those women, mad they are.......erm........erm.......yeah mad! ................erm..............erm............

Did you see the latest FHM?"

I don't know what do men talk about?