Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us?

[SadSam]

Howdy!!!! Squirrel 3 and I have decided that as we are a bit nutty, we'd like to set up the Nutty Stepmum's Club or NSC. If anyone would like to join us, please add to this post and prove that we are not the only nutters out there!

We would like to add a little bit more nuttyness to our already insane lives!!!!

You're so right about feeling better when it's "us" and not "me and them". So glad you said that cos sometimes I think I'm either bonkers or selfish (or both!) for thinking certain things so thank you for that

I think dsd is quite fascinated with my family cos there are so many of us and she's not used to it!

The 'them and me' feeling is quite a common one I think, I find that doing things to make yourself feel more involved (like involving other family members) really does help to make it feel more like us.

I always felt like an outsider at first (still do occasionally) but the more I made myself get involved the better it was... Yes I did say made myself, because I must admit at first I didn't really want to, and it was a really hard thing to do but I'm glad I did now. The more you make yourself become involved the more 'natural' it becomes and gets soooooo much easier, if you 'kick against' it it will only make life harder for all concerned, yourself included.

I'm not saying thats how it is with you but thats the way it was for me, it was only through talking on here that I realised it was the only way forward and the only way that we would all be happy.

That's exactly how it is for me, it's just - and only just - started to get a little bit better very recently and we've been together 15 months

I'm hoping, of course, that it will carry on getting better. Don't think it helps my case cos I haven't got any children of my own

But...I love him to bits and he's wonderful so I'll stick at it

NAAM, 15 months isn't long really, it takes years so don't worry! Hope that didn't scare you!!!

Glad you are going to stick at it, and don't worry, you have found all of us nutty step-mums to help out a bit. I can honestly say I wouldn't still be with dp if I hadn't found this site and got some really good advice from other people. Also it helps to know you are not alone and the way you feel sometimes is quite normal and you are not an ogre.

BTW having children already in my case doesn't help much because dp and I, at first, had very different ways of parenting, I thought that his kids were spoilt and undisiplined and they were, they were spoilt by BM, then they were spoilt by dp when he had them because he didn't really want to disipline them when he had them because he wanted them to have a good time here without being told off etc. I think that it was the guilt thing of not being there everyday with them so when he saw them he wanted everything to be all fun and games. I had to point out to him that he wasn't doing them any favours being like this, kids do need boundries, it makes them more secure when they know where they stand.

Don't know if I explained this properly, I'm not awake yet!!!!!

Yes you explained it fine NNN and no you didn't scare me - everything you say is absolutely right and I can relate to most of it

You and the other stepmums on here have helped me out so much - I really did think I was some sort of monster at first for thinking certain things. Reading about some of your situations has also made me realise how lucky I am in some ways, I've had nothing to put up with compared to some of you ladies

I totally agree that discipline is an issue - I think it almost always is from what I've read from different people on here. The way dsd talks to DP sometimes really makes my blood boil! But overall she's a good, polite kid - always says thank you if I do anything for her/buy her anything, gives me hugs when she goes home etc. so I can't grumble generally

I don't think I'd have got this far without MN either. It was such a relief to know I wasn't a monster

BTW, dgd goes to Great Ormand Street on Monday to see the specialist there, here's hoping that its more good news.

Hope it's good news too NNN, I'll keep everything crossed for you all x

I'm struggling to keep awake again today, don't know what's wrong with me this week - think I must be getting old

Although it was 1 o'clock before I went to sleep this morning so that probably explains today

Do not click on /link{http://www.dagoweb.net/dago/images/wakup.gif} link, Its very rude, but it WILL wake you up!!!!!!!

GGGGRRRR! this even.

Sorry, but I did say don't click on it!!!!

this is much better.

PMSL!!

Don't know which picture I prefer ? ? ?

It certainly did the trick anyway, I feel quite awake now

Did DP get another telling off about his driving last night or have you let him off the hook?

I let him off the hook, the driving instructor told me I should 'have words' with him about it, because it was sooooooo dangerous.

Thing is the same driving instructor is starting to teach dsd next week too, I hope they don't 'bump' into dp!!!

Bet your instructor hopes so too

Wonder what's happened to everyone else ? ? ? ?

Had a look at your DPs boat earlier on the "what's your garden like" thread - looks very nice . Must be lovely going out on the sea in your own boat

Maybe everyone else has bumped into dp too!!!

Actually the boat is much nicer than the one in the pic, and yes, I do like going out to sea (when I don't break my fingers that is!). When it is really hot you can sunbathe naked, there is no-one around for miles so no 'white lines' for me!

And we catch some really nice fish for tea, dp is a good cook, he enjoys it, so I 'let' him.

I also go fly-fishing, we catch some really big trout (also good eating).

Because its such an unusual hobby for a 'girlie girl' I have even got it on my CV under hobbies, fishing, deep sea and fly fishing! It does get a possitive result.

I had my CV done professionally and I was talking about it and other people in the office overheard and couldn't believe it, they said they don't usually recommend a hobbbies section but I should add it because of the 'wow' factor!

P.s. that is the fishing bit, not the bit about being naked whilst catching the fish!

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Lol, I must need some

Ooohh thank you, that'll go down nicely

Actually maybe you should put the bit about you being naked whilst catching the fish on your CV??

Only kidding of course

I really love the sea and wish I lived nearer to it, we're about as far away from it as you can get in this country - at least 2 and a half hours' drive

I have an unusual hobby for a girlie too - I absolutely LOVE football. (Sorry!!) DP thinks it's wonderful, we watch any game that's on telly. Going to the England v Austria match next Saturday, neither of us have ever been to an England match before so really looking forward to that

Sorry, I can't stand football! DSS plays and we have to go to football training or to a match every other saturday and sunday when we have him, I do try to look like I am enjoying it but, bloody hell! its hard when its so freezing cold you can see your breath and you couldn't care if the ball and the pitch got sucked up into an imaginary spaceship never to be seen again!!!!!

GGGGGGGRRRRRR! GGGGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!

OOOOooops! Sorry, Its a wonderful sport!

would you like one of these?

Helloooooooooooooooo Ya all xxx

Yes please, thanks for that - couldn't decide between 2 of them so I had them both, hope you don't mind

You're allowed to hate football, most women do. My mum, sister, DPs mum and dsd all think I'm a nutcase! If anyone asks DP and me about something on the telly and dsd is with us she'll say "if it doesn't involve football don't ask Dad and NAAM cos they won't know". We don't have it on all the time when she's visiting tho - we have to be fair cos she doesn't like it

If I have much more alcohol I'm going to be slightly drunk.....

Hello FANC!!

We were wondering what had happened to everyone

Hello NAAM, I am here, and do always check in to see whos chatting but cant always post as very busy at work at mo. Boss is on holiday so been given all his work to do aswell as my own!!!! Bloody cheek........ but you know how it is? How are you all?

Hello, FANC, lovely to hear from you, how are you/

Apart form being busy that is.....

Blooming cheek of it, you work to hard as it is.