Hi all, just wanting some other peoples opinions on the bedroom situation we have going on.
DH has a daughter from a previous relationship who is now 9yo. I’ve been in her life for 5 years and we’ve always had a good relationship. Her mum was quite high conflict in the beginning (calling me names, being difficult with contact etc) but that’s calmed down since before I had my son (18 months old).
When me and DH bought our house, SD being an only child had the second bedroom to herself and there were no issues. Son was in with me and DH until about 6 months ago. SD was OVERJOYED at the idea of sharing her room with DS and couldn’t wait for it to happen. She stays over 3 nights every other weekend and then spends a couple of evenings here through the week - me or DH pick her up from school and her mum collects her before bedtime.
Before doing the big bedroom transition we redecorated (it went from pink to blue, SD chose the colour) got both kids new beds etc and made it lovely.
Son (18 months old) moved into that bedroom to share with SD about 4 months ago, and things have appeared absolutely fine. SD has never shown any issue with sharing, quite the opposite. However her mum is now constantly messaging DH basically saying that we’ve “given SDs room to our son” and “replaced her”. DH was really upset about this obviously and SD hasn’t come to him and said anything. When asked, her mum said that SD had told her that she hates sharing her room and it’s now a boys room because it’s been decorated blue. She apparently wishes I would just leave and she hates me for taking her room away.
Its come so out of the blue that me and DH are questioning whether this is actually coming from SD or if her mum is back to her old ways and trying to cause a rift. DH will have a chat with SD when she’s here tomorrow.
I don’t know how to handle this. I feel like possibly my SD is being turned against me.