Well, I saw my lawyer on Wednesday. She left me feeling a little disappointed. She outlined the options (nothing, mediation, letters or court order for residency). Seemed nothing else, not interested too much in new DP behaviour at all. Also said new DP could be a spokesperson for X if X instructed him to be so. Also she seemed too much .... "what instructions next" type of role.
Decided to seek alternative lawyer view, see if they have more "fire in their belly" type of persona.
In terms of other activity relatively quiet, other than now refusing me to go to London on the grounds he "shouldn't see your family when he doesn't see mine". Changes regularly.
Today however bigger blow up. She takes him away, and then with help of another person (not her DP), calls and says DS wants to stay at his mums tonight. I say let me hear him say that and that'll be fine. She says no, and there is nothing I can do other than call the police! Probably true. But the fact she wont let me hear DS on the phone say that...I scoot right over.
Scene out of a film I would say, other woman sees my car coming, grabs DS into the house and locks the doors. DS is crying for Dad and she takes him in the back. X comes back and says how dare I turn up.
Anyway finally we talk, and DS doesn't seem to want to stay at all. Makes me wonder what they said and chose to hear.
Long long evening, other person tells X to persevere tonight. No backing down. So X refuses to let us go until DS agrees to stay over. Once point she tells DS that law man will say stay over, and other law man will do something, and DS is in tears saying he will go to mums for the night. But since he is in tears, I refuse until he says he wants to.
Long story long, She finally gives up at 11pm. DS is so tired, drifting off to sleep in the car and she is not quiting.
I think I have little alternative but to go to court over this now. She has threatened to be in a hotel next time so I can't pick up DS. Once again she can't even wait for mediation, she doesn't have the time to wait a month or there abouts. (Not sure what this time emergency is about).
Lawyer told me based on my end of the story, getting residency would be a high probability. Worst case is court award her a trial one night stay a week. If DS is too distressed he might cancel that.
The costs .... potentially horrendous. But with the threat of "kidnap" on the horizon I feel I have no choice. I don't understand this woman thing of sticking together and forcing me to break my trust with DS to get her, her way.
The only reason she quit at 11pm was that I started to video her on the mobile phone, and said it was to show mediation what she was like. She seemed to run from that ... weird I have to say. Does she think she is being unreasonable then? very strange.
I am annoyed, can't get a single day of peace from this woman, who simply doesn't care about DS at all. All about her. She says he has no choice at 4, so she'll decide (Not sure what happened to me), so I'll say I will decide, she says my mind is clouded hers is crystal clear. Seems no logic. Any referral to mediation or courts and she says nope. Again confusing to me. She claims she will not start court action -- she must have seen a lawyer - mine frightened me by saying whoever starts it has to pay for the court specialist fees (maybe 12K). I can't see why else she is so reluctant.
Does anyone know who the most expensive top lawyers in the country are? I want to give that name to X DP ..... what a idiot he is. He says if I instruct a lawyer then he will launch a counter claim on me and he nor her will be able to speak with me..... From what I understand from my lawyer, family law is NOT corporate law. What an idiot. Counter claim from someone not legally married ? Thats interesting. Unable to speak with me, thats cool. I can't tell her about the school intro days then