My partner dislikes my child

[Mumof6yearoldboy]

Sorry I’m advance for the length of this I just needs a little advice that’s not from my friends and family I’m being made to feel like my child’s a problem and I apparently can’t see it. I have a 6 year old son and I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 1 year. We recently moved in together in may. Previously it’s just been me and my son living alone together since he was a small child. My partner thinks I should change my parenting to meet his standards because apparently I’m a push over, who has no rules and we should be instilling zero tolerance into our children to teach them rules.
yet everyone who meets my son laughs there heads of, loves him and he receives nothing but good feed back at school. My partner is very strict and regimented and I’ve always just been fun, laid back and allowed my son to be a child. I think he’s kind, caring, loving, funny but talks a hell of lot. I think he behaves like most other children, he often needs asking to do something 2/3 times, he doesn’t really answer back but does have an answer for everything, he stalls bedtime for 10 mins with im hungry, thirsty, need a wee. These are things my partner has highlighted as a problem aswel as…..
He’s sly, vindictive, rude, spoilt, nosey, selfish.
Sly and vindictive - he will wind my partners 2 year old up. I’ll hold my hands up here he does do this but is that not normal sibling behaviour.
Rude- he questions some things my partner says and checks with me if it’s correct. I always support my partner when he’s dealing with issues.
Spoilt- if we go to the shop I will buy him something like a £1s worth. I don’t spend loads of unnecessary money.
Nosey- he’s started to listen in on adult conversations, then will ask questions.
Selfish - he doesn’t really like my partners 2 year old playing with his figures because he thinks he will break them, I encourage sharing which he will do with select toys.
Since my partner moved in my child now has to share me and his home/bedroom with a man and his child I feel like these are big changes which he has accepted really well and I don’t personally think his behaviour is that terrible I feel like he behaves normal. I feel like my partner is constantly nit picking at the smallest of things like because today said we was going to a play area but the play area turned out to be closed and my child briefly sulked or because he’s left a wrapper on the side, he even moaned because he wanted to bring a pocket full of rocks home from the park.

End things with your partner. He sounds vile. His abuse is only going to increase from there. Have you done a sarah’s law check?

You need to break up right away, you cannot be in a relationship let alone live with someone who dislikes your child.

Your poor son he needs to live with people who love him unconditionally.

Put your dc first and end this relationship.

You should have gotten to know him longer before he infiltrated your safe and cosy home with your child. Kick him out with immediate effect and focus on parenting.

Get this man out of your lives as soon as possible.

You moved in with a man after 10 months and are now finding out he isn’t very nice at best and possibly much worse.

Put your son first and get rid of the man. He can parent his child however he wants and you can and should do the same.

I haven't read your op, but based on your thread title my gut response is "well you will have to dump your partner then, won't you?"

No understanding, no accommodation for partners who don't like kids much; your child comes first.

Please leave this awful man and protect your lively little boy from him. He does not deserve to grow up in a home where he is constantly belittled and nit picked on.

Thank you this is just what I needed to here, I’ve know him 7 years.

Too much, too soon.

Put your child first and move out.

I wouldn't like anyone who didn't like my child. It would be game over for me.

This would be a red flag to me. I’d expect a partner to appreciate my sons good qualities and my parenting. The issues would be minor and resolved with warmth and kindness.

You've only just started this living together situation. It's bad already and it will only get worse. Your DP is behaving like a child fighting for attention from his mum, and jealous of the opposition. Get rid pdq.

Err calling a six year old these things is a massive red flag.
Have you not read any of the news articles about these weak women who start living with a man who hates their children and then it turns to neglect and abuse and the partner says they were 'disciplining' the poor child.
Get your partner out and keep your child safe.

Walk away. In fact fucking run.. Or you are seriously failing your dc.

I would break up with your partner but there's things that I think you need to change with your parenting.
I would be stopping the questions in adult conversations and be careful what you say around little ears.
Spending £1 every shopping time is unnecessary and will become expected. Its not a treat anymore.
He does appear to have been rude to your partner.
I agree some if it's normal behaviour but I would be correcting it.
However now you know your partner doesn't like him, he goes.

Oh my god your post gave me chills. Please please get your sweet son away from this abusive man.

You mean your ex partner, don’t you?

Your boyfriend of a year had moved in with you bringing his two year old?? And he's using words like sly and vindictive to describe a child? Can you read this really slowly and imagine it's about someone else? Your ds should only be meeting your bf now and only for tiny amounts of time. You've got yourself a full blown cock lodger who is horrible regarding your child. Get rid of him asap please (but I have this awful feeling that you won't).

The man and his child need to move out. Your son will not thrive in the current arrangement. He SHOULD be allowed to say 'no one can touch my figures'. He SHOULD be able to fill his pockets with stones. He SHOULD be allowed to express his sadness that the park was closed.

You moved a boyfriend of 10 months in with your small child?

What the actual fuck was going through your head?

Your poor son! You need to put him first op - please end this relationship before he gets damaged by it.

There's a horrible but true saying - 'Cock over kids' where women sacrifice the welfare of their child or children for a man.

Your partner is rotten. ROTTEN and nasty.

Please get rid.

Oh god, I seriously hope your going to leave him?! There should be no question about it, your kids come first, miles above this vile man or any man for that matter. Your poor poor son.